My mom and I decided to start saving up to move to upstate New York, but my birth mom keeps telling us not to go. I'm almost 24. I'm old enough to decide where I want to live and I don't know why she acts like I can't have any agency in my choice. The cost of living there is much lower, there are more jobs, and I'd feel less isolated than I do here in rural Oregon. It's a smart move. I wish she'd just let me live my life.