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That doctor is completely crazy! I'm an adult autistic woman and my relationship and closeness with my mother cannot be matched! I am able to form close relationships with others as can my 4 year old nephew who may be as well. He's in the early stages of testing for it. We both are close and have close relationships with others.
Being autistic does not affect how close you can be to someone. Yes it makes it harder for us to express ourselves, but that does not affect how we feel or how others feel towards us.
As for the "you look and act so normal" comments? I can't stand those. We ARE normal. So what if we are a little different. Isn't everyone? And when we actually do have struggles...everyone has struggles. Ours just can be more difficult. Would people say these things to someone who is depressed or have dementia?
Uni, message me at any time if you need to talk further. This is one of those conversations that gets me going!
Being autistic does not affect how close you can be to someone. Yes it makes it harder for us to express ourselves, but that does not affect how we feel or how others feel towards us.
As for the "you look and act so normal" comments? I can't stand those. We ARE normal. So what if we are a little different. Isn't everyone? And when we actually do have struggles...everyone has struggles. Ours just can be more difficult. Would people say these things to someone who is depressed or have dementia?
Uni, message me at any time if you need to talk further. This is one of those conversations that gets me going!
That is EXTREMELY untrue. Autism usually causes you to have some level issues with socializing but it doesn't mean you can literally not be close with anyone. I'm extremely close with my Mom and best friend. There are Autistic people who are married, close with their family, or have best friends. You should get another doctor if you can, this one is clearly uninformed.
EDIT: As for the normal stuff, many Autistic people can teach ourselves to blend in well as a survival mechanism, so just because you can pass as Allistic doesn't mean that you are.
EDIT: As for the normal stuff, many Autistic people can teach ourselves to blend in well as a survival mechanism, so just because you can pass as Allistic doesn't mean that you are.
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I hope that's not true. I do know though that autism is worse than death for some parents.
But if you do need help, I hope you get it.
LillyofVadness
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My younger sister calls everyone her best friend, will hug and hold hands with practically anyone she's known for more than an hour and can definitely become close with people, and she's definitely autistic. In fact, just this morning she came home with my mother and told me all about this nice old lady she met at the supermarket and she said she was the "best old lady ever." So that doctor is crazy, very much so.
And autism is not a fixable thing in the slightest, and anyone who thinks that it is needs to content censored. This user is mad. and then maybe they'll understand properly.
And autism is not a fixable thing in the slightest, and anyone who thinks that it is needs to content censored. This user is mad. and then maybe they'll understand properly.
It sucks to hear that you can't get a second opinion most likely.
I'd recommend educating yourself on Autism as much as possible. I've known I was Autistic my whole life but I didn't understand it until I started educating myself when I was 15. I'd recommend looking up the "Ask an Autistic" YouTube channel which has dozens of extremely educational videos.
Despite being professionally diagnosed, I've never actually gotten treatment for being Autistic, and there are a lot of recommended treatments that don't work and can actually be harmful (such as certain forms of therapy that discourage non-harmful but not "normal-looking" behaviors). Learning how to take care of yourself (understanding stimming, knowing how to work through executive dysfunction, finding an online support group to discuss things with, developing coping tools for recovering from meltdowns or shutdowns, knowing why you experience the things you do so you don't feel as abnormal, etc) can be just as or even more important than therapies or medications, it is definitely something to look into if therapies and medications are definitely off the table at this point.
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https://www.youtube.com/user/neurowonderful Here's the YouTube channel I recommended to you earlier, I'd honestly just spend a good chunk of time trying to watch a lot of their videos cuz these seriously helped me SO much when I found them.
I'd recommend educating yourself on Autism as much as possible. I've known I was Autistic my whole life but I didn't understand it until I started educating myself when I was 15. I'd recommend looking up the "Ask an Autistic" YouTube channel which has dozens of extremely educational videos.
Despite being professionally diagnosed, I've never actually gotten treatment for being Autistic, and there are a lot of recommended treatments that don't work and can actually be harmful (such as certain forms of therapy that discourage non-harmful but not "normal-looking" behaviors). Learning how to take care of yourself (understanding stimming, knowing how to work through executive dysfunction, finding an online support group to discuss things with, developing coping tools for recovering from meltdowns or shutdowns, knowing why you experience the things you do so you don't feel as abnormal, etc) can be just as or even more important than therapies or medications, it is definitely something to look into if therapies and medications are definitely off the table at this point.
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https://www.youtube.com/user/neurowonderful Here's the YouTube channel I recommended to you earlier, I'd honestly just spend a good chunk of time trying to watch a lot of their videos cuz these seriously helped me SO much when I found them.
AbbyCrossing
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I say that's complete bull. I am pretty sure I have autism technically I am not diagnosed, but I am pretty sure my doctors can see it too. Not all autistic people are not "close" with anyone. Autism is on a spectrum, and obviously not all autistic people are the same. It's a really complicated illness in my opinion. By that I mean it's hard to understand as most people are too ignorant to understand. I haven't really had the time to do some research, but I definitely will in the future.
AnimalCrossingPerson
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If one has high-functioning autism, it can be hard to diagnose, and certainly doesn't cause the inability to have any sort of relationship. I'm not sure what the exact process is, but if you're concerned I recommend you get a proper test.
visibleghost
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lol autism is a giant spectrum ur mom and that doctor kinda suck a bit when it comes to this haha
everyone who is autistic have enough autistic traits to be diagnosed, but there are so many different ones and different people can have very different difficulties and symptoms. tbh i feel like two people being autistic doesnt necessarily mean that they have something in common (except for like..... the diagnosis autism.......) because it can mean so many different things.
autistic people generally have a harder time with social stuff (which obviously can include connecting with and being close to other people) but the dsm doesnt say "In Order 2 Be A Real AUtistic Person You Have To Have Less Than Zero Friends"
everyone who is autistic have enough autistic traits to be diagnosed, but there are so many different ones and different people can have very different difficulties and symptoms. tbh i feel like two people being autistic doesnt necessarily mean that they have something in common (except for like..... the diagnosis autism.......) because it can mean so many different things.
autistic people generally have a harder time with social stuff (which obviously can include connecting with and being close to other people) but the dsm doesnt say "In Order 2 Be A Real AUtistic Person You Have To Have Less Than Zero Friends"
Your doctor is correct, at least by my own expeirence, I can say. I have aspergers syndrome, a less severe form of autism. I am not close with anybody. There is, however, strong bonds. You and your father would have a strong bond if you did have autism of some form. My strongest bond is with my best friend who I've known since 4th grade, but that does NOT mean I am close to her.
Of course, other factors of my life could play a role in my inability to create close relationships.
I hope you get better soon though. Just know suicide won't do anything other than pass your pain to others. ^ ^
Of course, other factors of my life could play a role in my inability to create close relationships.
I hope you get better soon though. Just know suicide won't do anything other than pass your pain to others. ^ ^
As for your described issues, anxiety with a combination of depression(normal or bipolar) can be your problem. A solution I've found myself(severe anxiety and bipolar depression) is to make sure you consume a decent amount of vitamin c at least once a week(or more depending on how severe). A good start is orange or apple juice. A cup every few days should help a bit. Anxiety and depression can be caused by there not being enough vitamin c in your system
Edit: This is speciffically about you saying you're too sensitive and cry easily.
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