Bunny D.va
June Bug Mech
Hi there, so I am unsure in how to feel about all this. I am angry mostly at his dad because I feel as though he is being an unfairly cruel father. And I thought that getting some opinions from people on here could help.
What I need help with is comforting my boyfriend; he lives in a house with his brother and pays rent to his father. I do not like his father a whole lot because he promised to take my boyfriend (For sake of not sounding repetitive I am calling my boyfriend B and the father F) to New York for his twenty-first birthday. But fell on that and then went on another vacation shortly after. Then promised to take him to Texas to see his hometown and the midwife who helped deliver B. But due to a storm that fell through but he never rescheduled.
Now B doesn't make nearly enough for rent, the rent for him is 400$, along with his brother for 800$, which may not sound bad but here in a small town in Ohio...it's pretty expensive. Basically B will have to starve in order to pay both that and 85$ for car insurance so he can get to work. B showed his check to F and F said to "get another job". Which is a fair statement for being a landlord but B is only 21 and hasn't been to college yet.
I am furious at F for being so cruel towards B, I feel like it's possibly punishment for F and his wife's (B's mother) failing marriage since she has since moved out and F doesn't live with them. I also feel as though it is unfair to be so cruel and not help your sons out for college when F has been taking random vacations for the heck of it. It breaks my heart to see B tear up under all this stress.
Just so you're aware; B is starting another job Monday as a waiter at a new pub here. I am hoping he may a more livable wage but I worry that if F learns that he has a new job and is making good money he will make B and his brother pay EVEN more money on a hundred year old house that is falling apart.
I can't force B to do any decisions but help with support and suggestions to help him stay positive in this time would be appreciated. I'm going to help him apply to college and find scholarships so he can do it. Considering the line of work he is going into I keep suggesting DeVry, especially since it can be online which would help him out immensely. Anything you can suggest to help B in this time and support would be appreciated!
What I need help with is comforting my boyfriend; he lives in a house with his brother and pays rent to his father. I do not like his father a whole lot because he promised to take my boyfriend (For sake of not sounding repetitive I am calling my boyfriend B and the father F) to New York for his twenty-first birthday. But fell on that and then went on another vacation shortly after. Then promised to take him to Texas to see his hometown and the midwife who helped deliver B. But due to a storm that fell through but he never rescheduled.
Now B doesn't make nearly enough for rent, the rent for him is 400$, along with his brother for 800$, which may not sound bad but here in a small town in Ohio...it's pretty expensive. Basically B will have to starve in order to pay both that and 85$ for car insurance so he can get to work. B showed his check to F and F said to "get another job". Which is a fair statement for being a landlord but B is only 21 and hasn't been to college yet.
I am furious at F for being so cruel towards B, I feel like it's possibly punishment for F and his wife's (B's mother) failing marriage since she has since moved out and F doesn't live with them. I also feel as though it is unfair to be so cruel and not help your sons out for college when F has been taking random vacations for the heck of it. It breaks my heart to see B tear up under all this stress.
Just so you're aware; B is starting another job Monday as a waiter at a new pub here. I am hoping he may a more livable wage but I worry that if F learns that he has a new job and is making good money he will make B and his brother pay EVEN more money on a hundred year old house that is falling apart.
I can't force B to do any decisions but help with support and suggestions to help him stay positive in this time would be appreciated. I'm going to help him apply to college and find scholarships so he can do it. Considering the line of work he is going into I keep suggesting DeVry, especially since it can be online which would help him out immensely. Anything you can suggest to help B in this time and support would be appreciated!