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coldpotato
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I'm sorry that your friend ghosted you. That is not a good feeling at all. If this has been eating at you and you really want to know the reason why, I would just send her one last message asking her why she hasn't been replying to you. It can be tough to get up the courage to do that, but at least you will know you did all you could do. If she doesn't reply to you then, I would work on letting it go for good.
I will say that anyone who pulls this sort of thing where they just stop communicating and give no reason, is generally not a healthy person to be associated with. If you did repair the friendship there's a large chance she would do this type of thing again.
I will say that anyone who pulls this sort of thing where they just stop communicating and give no reason, is generally not a healthy person to be associated with. If you did repair the friendship there's a large chance she would do this type of thing again.
Personally, I'd leave it alone. It's always tough losing a friend for any reason but if someone clearly doesn't want to be your friend, then that's that. No point in stressing yourself out wondering what the reason was.
Considering she's young and probably completely absorbed in the relationship, she'll probably come back as your friend once she's single. It will be your choice then if you want to accept her as a friend again. Seems like she's in a toxic/controlling relationship though tbh.
People come and go, just another page in your book of life.
Considering she's young and probably completely absorbed in the relationship, she'll probably come back as your friend once she's single. It will be your choice then if you want to accept her as a friend again. Seems like she's in a toxic/controlling relationship though tbh.
People come and go, just another page in your book of life.
I'd leave it and ignore it to be honest. I had people ghosting me as well and then coming back and then basically either just go back to it or cut me off so it's really not worth it, at least not for now. Maybe she can change and grow up in the future, but yeah if she's that stuck and she won't accept any support I don't think there is much you can do other than hoping her girlfriend is not the jealous controlling type.
Millysaurusrexjr
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That's a shame. It sounds like she could be focusing on both her GF and college, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have time to take one minute out of her day to send a quick little message explaining that. I say that as someone who has ghosted for those reasons (I was a bad friend in high school). Sometimes people do just drift apart, though. The 20s are a prime time for that imo, figuring out adulthood and all
Yeah, as much as it sucks, I'd just drop it and move on. It might just be her own issues she's working through and not anything you even did. Maybe in the future she'll reach out! Hopefully though, she's not in an abusive relationship.
As others have said, I would just drop it and move on. It’s just better that way. I’ve had a good number of people ghost me before, and when I continue to try and talk to them over and over again and they don’t respond, I eventually say “forget it” and leave. It gets to a point where it’s not worth it anymore to try and rekindle the friendship/relationship/etc.
I would probably message asking "yo, what's the deal?" first.
If I'm on the verge of just cutting somebody off I'll always ask that question (phrased better and more specifically) and I'm glad I do because it's surprising how often somebody didn't realise there was an issue or that they were an issue. Whether they rectify that issue is up to them and they can F' right off if they don't.
There might be a misunderstanding you're unaware of or she might not even realise how she's coming across to you. On the other hand it could be as you say and her girlfriend is the one behind it, or maybe she's just far too absorbed in the relationship to put the effort into friendships...Or to put it bluntly, maybe she just doesn't like you anymore for whatever reason.
Otherwise, just leave it be. Friendship should go both ways in terms of the effort put in to maintaining it. Clearly you're the only one putting the effort in so save yourself the effort and apply that elsewhere. Unfortunately, not all friendships are meant to last.
If I'm on the verge of just cutting somebody off I'll always ask that question (phrased better and more specifically) and I'm glad I do because it's surprising how often somebody didn't realise there was an issue or that they were an issue. Whether they rectify that issue is up to them and they can F' right off if they don't.
There might be a misunderstanding you're unaware of or she might not even realise how she's coming across to you. On the other hand it could be as you say and her girlfriend is the one behind it, or maybe she's just far too absorbed in the relationship to put the effort into friendships...Or to put it bluntly, maybe she just doesn't like you anymore for whatever reason.
Otherwise, just leave it be. Friendship should go both ways in terms of the effort put in to maintaining it. Clearly you're the only one putting the effort in so save yourself the effort and apply that elsewhere. Unfortunately, not all friendships are meant to last.
SakuraMoon
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Awe, I'd probably tell them "Hey, I'm sorry if I did anything wrong for you to not respond. I'm worried about ya- if anything is wrong, feel free to talk to me anytime." Don't dwell on it so much hon, Sometimes things happen. But god always has his reasons, I wish you the best, you will be in my prayers. <3
