Have you ever been abused?

[Chipl95]

I have. I was in an abusive, toxic relationship with a man who pretended to love me for four years. He said he loved me, but he would control me and treat me like I was dirt. His mother encouraged this behaviour and if she did anything that made me uncomfortable, he would tell me I had to let her do it.

Another thing his mother did a lot was, despite knowing me and her son have Autism, taking us out and about during the busiest times and say we were being toddlers if we got upset. If I ever said I was getting tired or wanted to go home, she would scream at me and say she was trying to be nice to me.

On the last birthday I spent with him, I ruined it by asking him to wrap up a phone call and come have cake so that I could go home. His mother screamed at me and said "YOU RUINED HIS BIRTHDAY!!!!" and then didn't let him have any cake as a punishment for my behaviour. She made him get up and get in the car so they could drive me home because I wanted to go home "so badly".

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That was after I had been waiting him to show up at the mall to hang out for an hour. I told him I was going to go home if I had to wait, and he blew up at me and said I was being a three year old. His mother said "It's OK to dawdle." when I complained to her.

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That is just one of the texts from one of my attempts to break up with him. He said my dad liked him, so he could talk to my family even if I had told him not to.

 

[amazonevan19]

you should block out the phone number and any names, just saying

I'm sorry to hear you went through all of that though. Hope you find a better man

 

[orchidflesh]

I am so sorry. Reading this post and reading these messages makes me sick to my stomach. I’m just happy you’ve gotten out of this situation, and that you have the opportunity to heal and grow from this.

I’ve been abused my entire life- by family, by friends, by partners. I don’t feel comfortable posting screenshots like you have, but I’ve been in very similar situations in my life, still recently. All I can say is that I’m sorry you’ve been through this. You deserve better and you deserved better during your time with your ex.

 

[Midoriya]

I’m sorry to hear this. There’s a LOT of guys out there that aren’t real and will not show their true feelings for whatever reason, whether they are insecure, indecisive, etc.


I’ve been yelled at my whole life by pretty much everyone, but I wouldn’t call that abuse. Basically things never really going my way. :/

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

Yep. Seems like my whole dang life. Emotional. Physical. Sexual. The whole kit and kaboodle. The reason I had such horrible self confidence and didn't trust men at all most my life. I'm still very much broken from the things done to me and I thank the gods for the wonderful man I am with who nutures me and loves me and is gentle and nice, I don't know if I would have made it alive out of another man treating me the way those first ones did...

 

[ILikeFroakies]

I'm really sorry you've had to go through that. Hopefully it picks up better for you now

 

[Chipl95]

you should block out the phone number and any names, just saying

I'm sorry to hear you went through all of that though. Hope you find a better man

I'm engaged to a man who is a night and day difference from my ex. My fiance is very kind to me and goes out of his way to make me feel like I belong. When I'm with him he gives me cuddles and kisses to show that he loves me.

 

[Loubelle]

I'm so sorry that he was such a jerk to you for so long! D: I'm glad that you are now out of it and that your fianc? is treating you how you should've been all along

My mom often takes her day out on me, and although she apologizes most of the time, when this happens, she just gets mad at me for no reason, leaving me there wondering what I had done. Along with that, sometimes she gets really mad at me if I say something that she disagrees with or if I point out something that she does that bothers me, and basically gives me the silent treatment :/ That's also probably why I have difficulties communicating how I feel ;-;

 

[Croconaw]

Yeah, I have been emotionally abused. It was nothing physical, but it was still abuse nonetheless. I know emotional abuse is way different than physical abuse and probably easier to recover from, but emotional abuse can leave scars for a very long time. I have been in several abuse online relationships. One girl even faked her death to get out of dating me. One girl cheated on me three times, and continued to go on dating sites while we were dating. She kept making everything seem like my fault, and she was so good with her words that she could manipulate anyone. It turns out I wasn’t the first girl she emotionally abused.

I am very sorry you had to go through that. Nobody deserves abuse, whether it be emotional abuse or physical abuse. I have difficulties trusting people. I sometimes feel annoying to people and wonder if they even want to talk to me. I try to not to think that my friends are just talking to me out of pity, but it’s hard not to feel that way because of the emotional abuse from my past. I’m glad that you are now out of that abusive relationship; you did not deserve any of the abuse! You will find someone so much better, I promise.

 

[visibleghost]

wow that dude and his mom suck, it's good you're no longer in a relationship with him and hopefully it won't like haunt you forever or something

i've been abused but it's not rly something that's suitable for tbt lol but Working Through Trauma etc has helped me live w it a little i guess lol.

 

[deuces]

ive been abused yeah but cant rly go into detail on tbt... im not even sure this is an appropriate place to mention abuse although its nice to feel supported. this is supposed to be a happy place for me !!
hope ur better now!

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a bit. He was incredibly controlling in many ways and I bottled it up for so long because I wanted to fix him. It's been 2 months since I ended things and I've been left with practically nothing from all of the things he took away from me.
Glad you're away from those guys now.

 

[milkyi]

yeah. mentally, physically, verbally and sexually. i've been hurt all my life and it's the reason why i feel like i can't trust anyone. i have this stupid belief that every single person is out to get me and that i. can't. trust. anyone. especially if i'm dating that person. i hate everything that's happened to me and i try to not let it affect me but i just can't. i try my hardest to be a nice person because i never want to put anyone through hard times.