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Antonio
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I can't relate to the religious aspect but usually senior year was my best year. I was in SGA, library assistant, and I even made honor roll!
Usually the last year would be your easiest since you are so used to the schedule but since there is so much bull**** going around, I can't give you a definite answer.
I can only give you a good luck so...good luck!
Usually the last year would be your easiest since you are so used to the schedule but since there is so much bull**** going around, I can't give you a definite answer.
I can only give you a good luck so...good luck!
EpicGamer12
Senior Member
This might sound dumb or harsh but in reality you have it made. You have a good education and the opportunity to go to post-secondary. You clearly have enough sensibility of mind to choose your faith for yourself, which many people never get the opportunity to. If you can't enjoy your last year because you're just looking forward to the future so much, it's actually a result of your own mental state rather than your environment. If you can't be happy in your situation, you're not going to be happy in any other situation. You'll enjoy yourself for awhile once you start university, but it'll get old eventually and you'll be striving for something new again. Either way, best of luck making it through your senior year of high school! I hope you find a college that is a great fit for you 
This might sound dumb or harsh but in reality you have it made. You have a good education and the opportunity to go to post-secondary. You clearly have enough sensibility of mind to choose your faith for yourself, which many people never get the opportunity to. If you can't enjoy your last year because you're just looking forward to the future so much, it's actually a result of your own mental state rather than your environment. If you can't be happy in your situation, you're not going to be happy in any other situation. You'll enjoy yourself for awhile once you start university, but it'll get old eventually and you'll be striving for something new again. Either way, best of luck making it through your senior year of high school! I hope you find a college that is a great fit for you
I was already feeling down, but that made me feel absolutely horrible! Thanks!
mayortiffany
Senior Member
I never attended religious school, but I did go to a private school for much of my education, and I moved to a whole new country for part of my post-secondary!
Returning to school under COVID conditions, especially when other public schools in your area are going online, seems extremely scary. However, without knowing much about your current situation, I'm not sure what can realistically be done to get you out of this school at this point, seeing as you're a week away from opening. This late into the school year, it's often tough to get back deposit money for tuition, let alone full tuition fees if it's already been paid. And as you've mentioned, the quality of education and test scores are better at this school, which will be an important factor when you begin applying to college. It'll also help you with scholarship applications!
(Also: is there any way that you can do your own COVID related preparations to get ready for school? Sanitizer, masks, etc?)
You have only one year left before moving onto bigger and better adventures in college! My advice would be to focus on the things you're looking forward to in college, and see high school as a stepping stone to get you to that point. It's a means to an end, a pre-requisite to tick off, if you will. If there's anything that you do enjoy at school, focus on that. Finding something at school to be excited about made it easier for me to get through the day.
That was how I made my way through senior year. I did like my school, but I also thought it was a rather privileged environment and didn't have a ton of friends at school. The prospect of getting to do something new was really exciting for me, but I knew I'd miss some of the teachers and activities I loved at my school. I spent my time enjoying those things.
Returning to school under COVID conditions, especially when other public schools in your area are going online, seems extremely scary. However, without knowing much about your current situation, I'm not sure what can realistically be done to get you out of this school at this point, seeing as you're a week away from opening. This late into the school year, it's often tough to get back deposit money for tuition, let alone full tuition fees if it's already been paid. And as you've mentioned, the quality of education and test scores are better at this school, which will be an important factor when you begin applying to college. It'll also help you with scholarship applications!
(Also: is there any way that you can do your own COVID related preparations to get ready for school? Sanitizer, masks, etc?)
You have only one year left before moving onto bigger and better adventures in college! My advice would be to focus on the things you're looking forward to in college, and see high school as a stepping stone to get you to that point. It's a means to an end, a pre-requisite to tick off, if you will. If there's anything that you do enjoy at school, focus on that. Finding something at school to be excited about made it easier for me to get through the day.
That was how I made my way through senior year. I did like my school, but I also thought it was a rather privileged environment and didn't have a ton of friends at school. The prospect of getting to do something new was really exciting for me, but I knew I'd miss some of the teachers and activities I loved at my school. I spent my time enjoying those things.
To answer your question, thankfully masks are required for all students, teachers, and anyone in the building. I have a bunch of masks and hand sanitizer ready. There will also be a lot of social distancing measures in place at school such as a limit of four people to a lunch table, more lunch periods, one way halls and stairwells, and shorter passing period to discourage gathering.
In response to your other point, I definitely have a few things at school that make me happy. I’m the president and founder of the knitting club. I’m also the first chair clarinet player in band and although the band program at my school is abysmal I still enjoy music very much. I have a handful of friends too.
I appreciate your analogy. I know that high school is definitely just the beginning of life for me. I know exactly what I want to study in college (biology major and then veterinary school) so that’s comforting. I can’t say that I have anything I will miss once I graduate, but there are things that make school suck less at the moment. Thank you for your long response.
SmrtLilCookie
Shh... don't wake the sleeping hedgie
Unfortunately, I can’t relate to your situation of being part of a religious institution you don’t agree with (I’ve been atheist/agnostic my entire life, along with my parents, and went to public schools). All I can say regarding that is to follow what your own heart and mind tell you. If you’re finding that religion is no longer providing you with the comfort or answers you need, then it’s okay to look elsewhere, including within yourself
However, for your senior year worries, I wish I could offer you more beyond my best wishes for a healthy final year. COVID has really messed with a lot of things, and it sucks that your government and school officials seemingly aren’t taking it as seriously as it needs to be (sorry if this rubs anyone the wrong way). I graduated several years ago — under more “normal” circumstances — so I’m not sure how much of my experience will be relevant to you. I found my last year of high school to be the most relaxed, even as a full International Baccalaureate student (I sympathize with your AP course-load). By that time, I had established a work-life balance that worked for me, was involved in several clubs, and had a supportive friend group. All of these helped my last year fly by. The notion of moving out and going to a university out of province was also very exciting! This gave me something to look forward to everyday, the so-called “light at the end of the tunnel”. Looking forward rather than back can make a huge difference!
Also, great choice of biology! I also studied biology (both undergrad and graduate) and I’m now hoping to start a career in wildlife rehabilitation
However, for your senior year worries, I wish I could offer you more beyond my best wishes for a healthy final year. COVID has really messed with a lot of things, and it sucks that your government and school officials seemingly aren’t taking it as seriously as it needs to be (sorry if this rubs anyone the wrong way). I graduated several years ago — under more “normal” circumstances — so I’m not sure how much of my experience will be relevant to you. I found my last year of high school to be the most relaxed, even as a full International Baccalaureate student (I sympathize with your AP course-load). By that time, I had established a work-life balance that worked for me, was involved in several clubs, and had a supportive friend group. All of these helped my last year fly by. The notion of moving out and going to a university out of province was also very exciting! This gave me something to look forward to everyday, the so-called “light at the end of the tunnel”. Looking forward rather than back can make a huge difference!
Also, great choice of biology! I also studied biology (both undergrad and graduate) and I’m now hoping to start a career in wildlife rehabilitation
Hi. I am also bisexual and couldn’t tell most people. I did fit into the demographics at school (working middle class) but I didn’t fit in for another reason. It’s a long story but suffice it to say that it happened in middle school, it was clearly the school district’s fault, and I was separated from other students for an entire school year. I never really had friends after that. My point is that we both feel/ felt different and unable to express or even tell most people about our true selves. Howevet, unlike you, I didn’t have the strength to make it through high school. I quit after the 9th grade.
What I did do was get a GED and start college a year early. I graduated and became a nurse, and eventually a manager with 70 or so employees. I make a difference and I know it. But I have always regretted not making it through high school. I always wanted to be a doctor and I would have been. I would have had the full college experience but I didn’t. However, I have fantastic husband and, like I said, I know I’ve made a difference.
So what want to say to you is this. I understand being different. I understand how hard it is to be bisexual. I understand how hard it is to not be able to express yourself and, even worse, have to pretend you’re something you are not. But I promise you, that WILL change. College is great (as long as you stay safe). And you will get to live your life as you want to. Just hang in there, my friend. Honestly, if you’ve made it this far, you will make it.
My advice, given the current pandemic situation, is to attend the school that you have been attending. I worked in the ER for many years and can tell you that as long as you wear a mask, use sanitizer, and wash your hands, you will be fine. People get this thing when they let their guard down, especially with friends and such. But it’s very important to your scholarship chances that you keep attending and doing what you have been doing.
Don’t tell your parents anything you haven’t yet and you haven’t already been comfortable doing so. I’m particularly referring to the bisexuality and religion. In fact, wait until you are out of college and on your own to do this. They may very well be fine with it but if not, you need to be on more stable ground to handle it.
Be proud of yourself. You’ve already done better than me. You finished the 11th grade lol. Understand that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are not alone. Both of those things are very important, and very true. Reach out for help. Like you have
I am here if you need me.
What I did do was get a GED and start college a year early. I graduated and became a nurse, and eventually a manager with 70 or so employees. I make a difference and I know it. But I have always regretted not making it through high school. I always wanted to be a doctor and I would have been. I would have had the full college experience but I didn’t. However, I have fantastic husband and, like I said, I know I’ve made a difference.
So what want to say to you is this. I understand being different. I understand how hard it is to be bisexual. I understand how hard it is to not be able to express yourself and, even worse, have to pretend you’re something you are not. But I promise you, that WILL change. College is great (as long as you stay safe). And you will get to live your life as you want to. Just hang in there, my friend. Honestly, if you’ve made it this far, you will make it.
My advice, given the current pandemic situation, is to attend the school that you have been attending. I worked in the ER for many years and can tell you that as long as you wear a mask, use sanitizer, and wash your hands, you will be fine. People get this thing when they let their guard down, especially with friends and such. But it’s very important to your scholarship chances that you keep attending and doing what you have been doing.
Don’t tell your parents anything you haven’t yet and you haven’t already been comfortable doing so. I’m particularly referring to the bisexuality and religion. In fact, wait until you are out of college and on your own to do this. They may very well be fine with it but if not, you need to be on more stable ground to handle it.
Be proud of yourself. You’ve already done better than me. You finished the 11th grade lol. Understand that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are not alone. Both of those things are very important, and very true. Reach out for help. Like you have
I am here if you need me.
I completely, 100% relate to your religious dilemma. I went to a Catholic school for 5 years of my life. Being more exposed to the Catholic religion made me realize how toxic and discriminatory it is. It may depend on your church, Catholics you know, etc. However, given that these toxicity and discriminatory issues are things I've heard from multiple people, it can't be a rare situation. The religion has caused so much suffering for people and, seeing that all around me, I just couldn't bear to stay a Catholic anymore. Magically, when I stopped associating myself with Catholicism, the amount of hate and toxicity I encountered in life drastically decreased. My experience as a Catholic gave me social anxiety and confidence issues all-around life that I've never been able to escape. I'm just scratching the surface here; I could go much more detailed but I'll leave it at that.
With my experiences in mind, I'm really, really sorry you're going through this. I've advised people on the topic of suffering under the Catholic religion before, and with schools, I usually tell people to get out as quickly as possible. Ultimately it's up to you, of course; it sounds like you've got some fantastic positives, like a stable social life and great academics. Your AP courses sound particularly important, and they can set you on an amazing path going into college. But there's also the fact that the environment is terrible, which can really make or break a school no matter what the positives are.
Are there any public schools you think you can go to if you think you need to go to them? Can you retain AP classes going to them? You say they're underfunded which is unfortunate, but maybe they aren't that bad? I just, I so so wish I had left Catholic school earlier, and I hate to see someone feeling stuck in it like I was.
I also relate to going from a small to large school. My college is ~20k total enrolled. My high school was a grand total of 132 kids, and I was in a class of just 31 people. Though I don't relate too much to being nervous about it; I was quite excited. And of course going to college in general is a nervous thing at first for most. But when you go, you'll quickly find people who will accept you for whoever you want to be, and you're going to feel right at home! Also biology is a fantastic major, that's great!! I'm a mathematics major myself but any STEM major is super interesting!
I hope this helped? I'm not a good writer, if you need any clarification or ever want to PM me, please don't hesitate to!
With my experiences in mind, I'm really, really sorry you're going through this. I've advised people on the topic of suffering under the Catholic religion before, and with schools, I usually tell people to get out as quickly as possible. Ultimately it's up to you, of course; it sounds like you've got some fantastic positives, like a stable social life and great academics. Your AP courses sound particularly important, and they can set you on an amazing path going into college. But there's also the fact that the environment is terrible, which can really make or break a school no matter what the positives are.
Are there any public schools you think you can go to if you think you need to go to them? Can you retain AP classes going to them? You say they're underfunded which is unfortunate, but maybe they aren't that bad? I just, I so so wish I had left Catholic school earlier, and I hate to see someone feeling stuck in it like I was.
I also relate to going from a small to large school. My college is ~20k total enrolled. My high school was a grand total of 132 kids, and I was in a class of just 31 people. Though I don't relate too much to being nervous about it; I was quite excited. And of course going to college in general is a nervous thing at first for most. But when you go, you'll quickly find people who will accept you for whoever you want to be, and you're going to feel right at home! Also biology is a fantastic major, that's great!! I'm a mathematics major myself but any STEM major is super interesting!
I hope this helped? I'm not a good writer, if you need any clarification or ever want to PM me, please don't hesitate to!
Theoneandonlymegan
Slightly confused
I was raised catholic and while I think that the fundamental teachings are good a lot of the people in the religion and in Christianity in general can be rather toxic and completely misinterpret those core beliefs and instead use as an excuse for their hatred.
My school is currently doing a hybrid plan where only half the students are actually on campus at one time. I would say follow the safety precautions available such as masks but I’m not sure what else you could do if your school is set on going back. This particular school year is a lot different then most and the normal rites of passage was that people get as seniors are not all available so I would definitely try to use all the opportunities you can since we really don’t know what will happen in the future.
It’s of course difficult when you have parents and others trying to control how you live your life but just remember you only have one more year left before you can move out, it will get better.
Fell free to let me know if you need anything
My school is currently doing a hybrid plan where only half the students are actually on campus at one time. I would say follow the safety precautions available such as masks but I’m not sure what else you could do if your school is set on going back. This particular school year is a lot different then most and the normal rites of passage was that people get as seniors are not all available so I would definitely try to use all the opportunities you can since we really don’t know what will happen in the future.
It’s of course difficult when you have parents and others trying to control how you live your life but just remember you only have one more year left before you can move out, it will get better.
Fell free to let me know if you need anything
hi there, just chiming in real quick because this reply didn’t sit right with me but: comments like “you’ve got it made, what are you even complaining about” are not only damaging but just obtuse as hell. you even acknowledged at the beginning that it was “dumb,” “harsh.” i understand that while this is a public forum and you are entitled to express your opinion, please think twice about what you are saying/posting because you never know how that is gonna affect the next person; while it might not mean anything to you, it might be extremely hurtful for the next. just my two cents, hope you have a nice day!
ANYWAY, hi there op! i can completely relate to the religious aspect of your story as well as the anxiety of covid/places opening up despite the health risk and i completely sympathize, and am sorry you have to go through that!
growing up, my parents were extreme devout christians and forced their beliefs down my throat that it stifled, if not stunted my growth as an individual. long story short, i made it very clear to my parents that i hated everything about their religion and thought otherwise as a senior in high school and stopped attending church services, etc. to prove my point. a lot of painful words and exchanges were made and i continued to live with them despite the animosity but i made sure they knew that i would not allow them to live vicariously through me because frankly it is my life, and i have every right to choose who / what to believe in, or not! granted, i was very very lucky they didn’t kick me out for that (and part of that is because we’re asian and our culture is very reliant on familial loyalty among other things). before i go on a whole tangent, i understand that confronting your parents is very difficult and not really the best option so here are some alternatives that helped me cope as a teen (before i confronted them).
- you’ve already mentioned your bf and close friends know the “real you” and that’s a good step!! just because you have to hide yourself from your parents, doesn’t mean you should hide away from your friends and people important to you! most importantly, yourself! establish/find spaces you can be comfortable “being you,” and whether that’s on twitter or discord with your friends to hanging out with them in real life (when covid allows, stay safe); finding spaces where you can breathe will be good for your mental health! and hopefully it’ll give you the incentive if not courage to let your parents know who you really are in the future and i sincerely hope they’re able to accept you for who you are!! there is absolutely nothing more freeing than showing them who you are whether or not they’re comfortable or not!
- be kind to yourself! know that you are doing the most that you can in such a difficult situation and you are handling that like a champ! if it helps, i wrote down all the things i wanted to do as soon as i was legally allowed, i know counting down the days can be painful, if not suffocating but you will get there! 1 more year and you’ll be off to another college, doing all the things you have ever hoped to do!
- you already mentioned you were a part of clubs, etc. and that you thoroughly enjoyed them! good!! keep at it and if you can, busy yourself with extra curriculars so that time flies!! eventually the year will be over and you will have graduated and you will be far away from a stifling environment!
- i dont recommend this one as much since it involves skipping school BUT if you are one of those people who can get away with skipping a day of school, then fake that illness! forge that parent excuse letter, obviously you are excelling at school and it wouldn’t hurt to take a day off or two! if you can’t, skip this step lol!
keep at what you’ve been doing op: get those good grades and that scholarship and jet set the heck out of there when you’ve graduated! find spaces to breathe, allow yourself to be yourself even if it’s in the margins of a notebook you keep for yourself or in a private discord server with your friends or twitter or whatever else! it will get easier, you will be okay, hang in there!
i’ve gone through my formative high school years very similar to yours and what helped me was enjoying the moments with my friends in and out of school, making memories that is very much apart from the identity my parents wanted me to have, i rebelled a little and then a lot, pursued projects accessible to me to make the time go faster, even if i had to fake a version of myself within school and at home; i found comfort in the future as well as goofing off with friends when no one was watching!
i am very much like you, bisexual and agnostic (sometimes atheist), i graduated with honors and had a very different “face” during school and out of it, and there were times as a teen that i felt like it was very hard to suppress who i was, if not painful, traumatic even. but since entering the adult world, i’ve been able to express who i am more as well as experience things i couldn’t have otherwise done as a teen! within the past two years, i went ahead and got a bunch of tattoos and i’ve even showed them off to my parents (we’re in a kinder, much more forgiving relationship now!) and while they don’t agree with any of them lol, they’ve come to accept them and really in hindsight, they’ve accepted who i am even if it’s uncomfortable. i used to be a microbiology major but i dropped out of college because i found out it wasn’t the right fit so i went to work as a display designer at ikea for a couple of years and have now found my real passion: interior design and architecture so i’ve recently left my job so i can go back to school for my passions!! my mental health couldn’t be better!
but you are almost there, you’ve made it this far! once you are out of the home and in an environment where you can be yourself, i promise it gets better!! you can get those piercings and that dyed hair! i also second bridee and krazykarp’s advice above me as well, very insightful!
i wish you all the best and i hope everything works out for you as well!! if you ever need to vent/talk, i’m always a PM away!
hi there, just chiming in real quick because this reply didn’t sit right with me but: comments like “you’ve got it made, what are you even complaining about” are not only damaging but just obtuse as hell. you even acknowledged at the beginning that it was “dumb,” “harsh.” i understand that while this is a public forum and you are entitled to express your opinion, please think twice about what you are saying/posting because you never know how that is gonna affect the next person; while it might not mean anything to you, it might be extremely hurtful for the next. just my two cents, hope you have a nice day!
ANYWAY, hi there op! i can completely relate to the religious aspect of your story as well as the anxiety of covid/places opening up despite the health risk and i completely sympathize, and am sorry you have to go through that!
growing up, my parents were extreme devout christians and forced their beliefs down my throat that it stifled, if not stunted my growth as an individual. long story short, i made it very clear to my parents that i hated everything about their religion and thought otherwise as a senior in high school and stopped attending church services, etc. to prove my point. a lot of painful words and exchanges were made and i continued to live with them despite the animosity but i made sure they knew that i would not allow them to live vicariously through me because frankly it is my life, and i have every right to choose who / what to believe in, or not! granted, i was very very lucky they didn’t kick me out for that (and part of that is because we’re asian and our culture is very reliant on familial loyalty among other things). before i go on a whole tangent, i understand that confronting your parents is very difficult and not really the best option so here are some alternatives that helped me cope as a teen (before i confronted them).
- you’ve already mentioned your bf and close friends know the “real you” and that’s a good step!! just because you have to hide yourself from your parents, doesn’t mean you should hide away from your friends and people important to you! most importantly, yourself! establish/find spaces you can be comfortable “being you,” and whether that’s on twitter or discord with your friends to hanging out with them in real life (when covid allows, stay safe); finding spaces where you can breathe will be good for your mental health! and hopefully it’ll give you the incentive if not courage to let your parents know who you really are in the future and i sincerely hope they’re able to accept you for who you are!! there is absolutely nothing more freeing than showing them who you are whether or not they’re comfortable or not!
- be kind to yourself! know that you are doing the most that you can in such a difficult situation and you are handling that like a champ! if it helps, i wrote down all the things i wanted to do as soon as i was legally allowed, i know counting down the days can be painful, if not suffocating but you will get there! 1 more year and you’ll be off to another college, doing all the things you have ever hoped to do!
- you already mentioned you were a part of clubs, etc. and that you thoroughly enjoyed them! good!! keep at it and if you can, busy yourself with extra curriculars so that time flies!! eventually the year will be over and you will have graduated and you will be far away from a stifling environment!
- i dont recommend this one as much since it involves skipping school BUT if you are one of those people who can get away with skipping a day of school, then fake that illness! forge that parent excuse letter, obviously you are excelling at school and it wouldn’t hurt to take a day off or two! if you can’t, skip this step lol!
keep at what you’ve been doing op: get those good grades and that scholarship and jet set the heck out of there when you’ve graduated! find spaces to breathe, allow yourself to be yourself even if it’s in the margins of a notebook you keep for yourself or in a private discord server with your friends or twitter or whatever else! it will get easier, you will be okay, hang in there!
i’ve gone through my formative high school years very similar to yours and what helped me was enjoying the moments with my friends in and out of school, making memories that is very much apart from the identity my parents wanted me to have, i rebelled a little and then a lot, pursued projects accessible to me to make the time go faster, even if i had to fake a version of myself within school and at home; i found comfort in the future as well as goofing off with friends when no one was watching!
i am very much like you, bisexual and agnostic (sometimes atheist), i graduated with honors and had a very different “face” during school and out of it, and there were times as a teen that i felt like it was very hard to suppress who i was, if not painful, traumatic even. but since entering the adult world, i’ve been able to express who i am more as well as experience things i couldn’t have otherwise done as a teen! within the past two years, i went ahead and got a bunch of tattoos and i’ve even showed them off to my parents (we’re in a kinder, much more forgiving relationship now!) and while they don’t agree with any of them lol, they’ve come to accept them and really in hindsight, they’ve accepted who i am even if it’s uncomfortable. i used to be a microbiology major but i dropped out of college because i found out it wasn’t the right fit so i went to work as a display designer at ikea for a couple of years and have now found my real passion: interior design and architecture so i’ve recently left my job so i can go back to school for my passions!! my mental health couldn’t be better!
but you are almost there, you’ve made it this far! once you are out of the home and in an environment where you can be yourself, i promise it gets better!! you can get those piercings and that dyed hair! i also second bridee and krazykarp’s advice above me as well, very insightful!
i wish you all the best and i hope everything works out for you as well!! if you ever need to vent/talk, i’m always a PM away!
I’m glad that I’m not the only one who has had such an experience in the Church. Thank you all! There needs to be a group chat for people like us lol
jenboston22
Mommy and Designer
I cannot relate to much of what you say, as I went to public school, I'm straight, and I'm quite a bit older than you, but I wanted to chime in and give you my best wishes. In the grand scheme of things, one year is not that long (although I understand it can feel so!). Your senior year will be over before you know it and you'll be on to college. Good luck!
ETA: I also left the church and now consider myself agnostic. This wasn't that problematic for me, though, as my parents aren't very religious, and as I mentioned, I went to public school. I also grew up in a very white neighborhood, but in my case, it was mostly rural working class/lower middle class. I now live in a suburban wealthy area comprised of many different races and cultures (and I'm in a mixed race/culture marriage myself), and I consider myself upper middle class. All this is to say -- things change! Stay strong
ETA: I also left the church and now consider myself agnostic. This wasn't that problematic for me, though, as my parents aren't very religious, and as I mentioned, I went to public school. I also grew up in a very white neighborhood, but in my case, it was mostly rural working class/lower middle class. I now live in a suburban wealthy area comprised of many different races and cultures (and I'm in a mixed race/culture marriage myself), and I consider myself upper middle class. All this is to say -- things change! Stay strong
I wanted to give you some advice based off of what I did wrong my senior year in high school. Hindsight is 20/20, or so they say lol. I was on track to graduate with a 5.0 gpa but I started to let my priorities slip. I focused too heavily on a guy that I was dating who turned out to be very toxic for me. I’m totally not implying anything about your own bf though. I gave up a full ride scholarship to be with him and he ended up dumping me and joining the Air Force lol. So I barely made it through senior year because I let my studies take a back seat. Then, I couldn’t go to college because I couldn’t afford it and gave up my scholarship. THEN, after I graduated, my parents who were incredibly strict and very catholic, decided I wasn’t good enough to live at home since I was only going to the local junior college. I got kicked out three days after my 18th birthday. I decided to go completely buck wild since I was “free” for the first time in my life. I partied way too much, developed a nasty addiction to a very dangerous substance, and almost lost my life a multitude of times. Looking back now, I was an idiot. Senior year should have been the most important year for me. It should’ve been the year I really buckled down on my studies to go to the college of my dreams, and I blew it. My best advice to you is, even though it’s very stressful, focus on your education. That should be your number one priority. When you graduate, break free and have some fun, but still make good choices. If you want to smoke some weed, go for it. Don’t try hard drugs, they’ll kill you. Almost killed me. Keep chugging along even though it’s hard someday. My parents sound like yours. I came out as bisexual when I was 11 and my relationship with them has never been the same. They still haven’t accepted it but they’ve chosen to pretend I never came out to them in the first place. At least they don’t ridicule me anymore lol. Best of luck to you. I know how hard it can be, being raised in such a rigorous upbringing. Have fun your senior year and make a lot of memories with your friends and bf, but don’t forget, this is a big year that will help jumpstart your college future, so try not to let your priorities slip like I did. Much love to you!
I have spoken to my boyfriend about my future and college multiple times. Because my first choice school is in another state and we‘re young (17 and 19), I know that statistics are not in our favor. I have told him already that I will not stay in my home state just to be with him and that he should not do that for me either. Depending on how I feel about him once I graduate and which college I end up attending, I will decide if a long distance relationship is worth it. As of right now, though, I think I will still be willing to try by then. We’ve been together for 2.5 years and he's my best friend. The friendship is a lot more important to me than the romantic aspect of our relationship.
Trust me: I am physically incapable of giving my education a backseat. I have a 3.9 unweighted GPA and I’m taking six AP classes this year. I’m also not interested in drugs or alcohol. It’s not a moral or uptight thing, though. I just have no interest in them. My thoughts on alcohol could definitely change by the time I’m 21, but right now I have no intention of consuming it. Most of my “fun” will be had experimenting with my appearance more than anything. I’m glad that you’re still alive! You’re very strong to be able to get through that.
Good for you. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. And kudos to you for having such a difficult conversation with your bf about moving out of state. It’s never easy to have those talks. It’s sounds like you have a really bright future ahead of you and a great support system through your friends and bf. You’re going to be just fine, I’m certain of it.
Former catholic school guy here. I only attended for three years before I transferred to public school in the 3rd grade. I just graduated from a performing arts high school this year. Due to more private circumstances, both my junior and senior years were awful. I used to be that student government guy who was friends with everyone on campus, but I just withdrew when things went south. Senior year, I ended my spring semester with 100+ absences. Granted, that is in part due to COVID-19 and online schooling, but it was a pretty solid theme throughout the entire year. I only showed up when I had a test or presentation. I have the privilege of being a naturally good test-taker, so I can not come to class for two weeks then ace the exam. I'm in SoCal, and the policy's may be more lenient than your state, so I do not recommend following in my footsteps. The main point, however, is to look after yourself. You're almost done. Take whatever time you need for your mental health. Also, given the circumstances, take whatever time you need for your physical health. Without knowing more, that's really all the advice I can give. But I, and I'm sure so many others on here, are always free to listen if you need to talk!
