What's Bothering You?

It's sad to see how many people her preface their stresses and worries by saying that it doesn't matter, or is not as bad as what other people are dealing with. Suffering is not a competition, and no one should feel like their pain isn't worth feeling or sharing because of what others are going through. I hope you all find peace in your struggles right now, even if its as small as stubbing your toe. 💚
 
The cemetery that my dad is buried at got bought out by new owners. Not only do they neglect to upkeep the area, they also take any decorations that are placed on the stones. (others have bombed it with 1 star reviews complaining about the same thing).

We can't do anything for father's day or his birthday now. Everything we place on his grave is taken away never to be seen again. We purchased these little sign post messages that have 'love dad' messages on them. Only to find them gone on our next visit.

It's such a shame. We can't celebrate this stuff with him, so is it too much to ask that we leave him a small gift on his resting place?
 
Change is hard, and I don't feel right all the time. They way I naturally talk? People think it's mean. My love for video games? People think it's childish. I don't like to swear, yet everyone—especially in my high school—does it all the time and every time I hear it I become apprehensive and feel like I missed out on something. And when I try to explain myself and my preference for quiet spaces, nobody takes me seriously. They want me to go out there and change myself. But how do I get started? That's what they never tell me.

I enjoy The Bell Tree and its community and I have no intention of quitting, but to be honest sometimes it doesn't feel right for me to go on there and interact with the regulars. After my English unit on Fahrenheit 451 (that happened before I became active here), I came to realize the fact that nothing can beat physical, interpersonal communication. People want me to make friends with the students, but I unfortunately feel alienated by their habits, so that's hard... Sometimes I feel like, at this point, I'm already living in Guy Montag's world, a victim to the parlor walls.
 
a lot of stuff has happened at my workplace, and i don’t feel comfortable working there anymore or working with a specific person, but i’m scared to talk to the main manager about it because the person i don’t feel comfortable with is the assistant manager, and they’re really close. i’m scared he’s not gonna take me seriously or not do anything about it, or change the way he acts towards me because of what i tell him. i really don’t want to just quit because i did love my job, i liked the people there, but now it just doesn’t feel right to be working there anymore. i work today and im honestly dreading it so much :/ idk what to do. and everytime i bring it up to my friends i feel like they’re so annoyed and tired of my problems i’ve had to just keep this to myself and it’s so draining lol
 
Could you be neurodivergent? The bit you said about people thinking you’re mean really resonates with me and I recently found out I’m autistic. You don’t seem mean at all to me if that helps
Because we only know each other online. If we met IRL, you'll hear my tone of voice and you'll see why people think I sound like a jerk.
 
Change is hard, and I don't feel right all the time. They way I naturally talk? People think it's mean. My love for video games? People think it's childish. I don't like to swear, yet everyone—especially in my high school—does it all the time and every time I hear it I become apprehensive and feel like I missed out on something. And when I try to explain myself and my preference for quiet spaces, nobody takes me seriously. They want me to go out there and change myself. But how do I get started? That's what they never tell me.
You basically described me. People call me childish as well for video games or the books I read. I play and read them anyway. I really don’t like swearing either but get told I’m too sensitive when I ask people not to swear at me. For some reason most people don’t understand ones needs for quiet spaces. I’m sorry people ask you to change you should only change if it’s what you want and will help you to be happy.
 
@Reginald Fairfield can you please edit your post and edit the context of my post with -snip- or something along those lines? I wanted to delete my post later on after making it but now I can't now that everyone can still see the context.
 

That's not small! I have the same issue (with other sounds, too) and it can be difficult to deal with - extremely. I use foam earplugs or earbuds with music or a podcast. With foam earplugs, i can still hear what other people are saying, but it "takes the edge off" so I can handle it better.

On a bad day - I blast the music with the earbuds and just tell people - wave if you want to talk to me, because i can't handle sounds today.
 
I'm tired of arguing with my family. It never goes anywhere and just leaves all of us drained. I'm tired of my parents making assumptions and putting words in my mouth, then completely shutting me out when I try to tell them anything. They want to know why I'm angry or upset or scared, but they don't even listen when I explain myself, because it usually has to do with them. Your curiosity is insatiable, so why bother asking?

I haven't seen my social worker and psychologist AT ALL since my last visit. I don't know who else to reach out to when the few people whose jobs are to help me aren't even available. ****'s sake. I woke up not even a half hour ago and I'm already in tears. I'm just so frustrated with my family. I'm done.
 
Garden trauma - don't read if you like bunnies.

Last year, I fenced around my garden to keep animals out (especially the cats). I also just left it to get overgrown in the fall because - life. So it stayed an overgrown, weedy mess all winter.

Now it's time to clear it out and plant stuff. So I pull the big weeds, till, plant, and do a small area at a time. The trauma - i was tilling a row (small tiller, doesn't go very deep, have to make a million passes) and tilled right over a bunny nest - with baby bunnies. 😭 I saw fur and movement and noped into the house to send someone else out to investigate.

The bunnies were ok, apparently I just got the top of the nest. So we covered the nest back up, but it didn't work too well because I had tilled up the fur. So I propped cardboard up over it to keep it protected and still let the bunny mom get in and out. That was a few days ago, and they seem to be doing well, so I think the mom is still taking care of them.

Then I checked the rest of the garden - yup, bunny nests every****where. And the moms are eating my strawberries apparently.

So that garden is useless until baby bunny season is over, which - when the **** is that? I'm starting a new garden spot to get my plants in the ground, but how the heck am I supposed to get all the baby bunnies out of my "real" garden?! 😑

I'm starting to really dislike bunnies. Not enough to send the cats in, but it's close.
 
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