Exactly, they want honesty as long as it's on their terms/what they approve. And ah that really sucks; that must make it even more hurtful. :c Everyone is different and unique, even within a family, so it's unfair how they have such expectations.
I really recommend therapy. I first went to therapy when I was 19 because of a breakdown and then again a few years later because of a second. In total, I've had 3 therapists and my current one is really great. During the first session with my current therapist, I brought out a printout of what my triggers are since I tend to blank out when asked by a professional. According to mine, I have generalized anxiety disorder so during our sessions, we go over my personal goals and what happened in my life since the last. After a year of seeing mine, I feel stronger mentally & emotionally and my anxiety is way more manageable. Now, I am at a point in my life where I don't have any prescribed meds (unlike when I initially sought help).