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Probably when I was a child but I can't remember a specific example.
I feel like that's what high fashion is with adults thoguh, they pretend to like things if the right people say to like it, pretty childish imo
 
Not to this extend no, everyone knew that I liked and hated specific things and that was that.

The most I did was go along with the obsessions some friends had with the thing we mutually liked, if that makes sense. Like back in middle school my friend and I were both into Homestuck, her more so than I. I just enjoyed reading the story and characters, with like one ship and that was the extend of my interest in the comic. The friend on the other hand was obsessed with certain characters and ships I didn't care for, but I still talked and did RPs with her about those things. I didn't hate it, but I wasn't as into it as her haha. I understood it though, I have my own obsessions and having someone that is open to letting you gush about them is nice.
 
I kinda did since I’d feel left out when I’d see them playing multiplayer games even though i’m not into multiplayer games. Like i’d want to play some games with them like destiny which was fun but i wasn’t as into it as them, don’t starve (great game and art but I suck 😭), minecraft (hated and made me nauseous after 30 minutes or less), diablo iii (i liked this a lot being a kinda blizzard fan).

Aside from this, not really though I would go to the movies with everyone to see the marvel movies even though on my own, I’m not into that. Too cheesy and just not into hollywood movies.
 
I definitely have.

I think the biggest example would be when I was still in the closet to my closest friends and I felt like I needed to pretend to like boys. They'd gush over cute classmates or celebrities and I'd go along with it. It always made me feel a little disconnected from my friend group because whenever they conversation would be brought up I'd be blatantly lying to them. Although when I was still questioning/in denial I also used it as a way to convince myself that I was straight or had some interest in guys because look at all the apparently cute guys there are. In the end it was never a huge deal because my friend group as a whole wasn't overly interested in dating until our last year of high school when I was transferred to an alternative program in order to graduate.

I think if I had to do it all again I'd probably play the same cards. I wasn't ready to come out to myself or my friends and if it had somehow got back to my younger sister and then my dad I would've been mortified. I've since come out to some friends (not everyone since we just haven't kept up post-graduation) and they've all been really understanding. Initially there was that, "but I thought you had a crush on X, Y, and Z?" but once I explained things and we reflected on how I never actually made any sort of effort to flirt with them it made more sense.

There's probably been other little things too like pretending I was interested in going to a school football game even though I've never been interested in sports or been a fan of large crowds, lol. I did that once though and the anxiety it gave me was far too high to warrant going to any other games, lol. For the most part I've always been pretty quiet about my interests, to be honest? I never really volunteered information and I usually gave neutral answers on topics or genuinely didn't know anything about them. My friend group was always really lovely so I never felt the need to pretend around them with most things.
 
Nope, never really done this. I don’t share what I do like usually though unless someone asks. I think on the opposite end of this there’s a major problem with people judging you for what you like. As long as it’s not harmful to them or directly affects them, why tf should they care? But I’m going off on a tangent there.
 
oh, i used to do this all the time when i was younger -- esp when i was like... 15-16 and i just started taking online classes so any hope at a social life i had was online. i was Super Desperate to be liked online and i'd pretend to be into a lot of things people i'd met liked even if i'd never touched them before (including one particular anime i had never watched, did not want to watch bc it didn't interest me, and to this day refuse to watch for a few other reasons).

actually to this day i don't think anyone on my twitter circle who witnessed my pretending to be a massive fan of one series ever found out i wasn't that into it and exaggerated my interest when i was a teenager because i thought it'd make me make friends 😩 whoopsies
 
I never really pretended to like anything, but I did try a lot of new things that I wouldn't have otherwise just because friends or boyfriends liked them. In some cases, I found new interests that way, like anime. In other cases, I didn't see the appeal but I never bashed something that they loved. I just didn't bring it up myself or partake in it much after giving it a try.

However, I did often follow my friends' lead when it came to celebrity crushes during my early teenage years. Girls could be really judgmental if you didn't like the right guy from a boy band or something like that. I've very rarely found myself infatuated with anyone I didn't know, so I would go along with whatever guy they thought was hot at the moment just to fit in. I kept my actual crushes private because I was afraid of being teased or having my crush find out due to gossip.
 
One of my closest friends was and still is friends with a group of people who never really accepted me, I tried fitting in mostly on Discord calls and trying to have some sort of relationship with them but they didn't really seem interested. I'm not sure if I can say that I was trying to pretend to be someone who I'm not but I sure felt like that when I was around them. I eventually saw the kind of people that they are and eventually just distanced myself from them.
 
absolutely. one of the first times that i did this was back in elementary school - my friends were really into the “rainbow magic” books and liked roleplaying as different fairies during recess so even though i had no idea what they were talking about at first, i pretended otherwise and role-played with them. however, this experience actually led me to get into the “rainbow magic” books for real, so i thankfully didn’t have to pretend for long. :’)

a few years later, i was amongst a new group of friends who were all huge fans of one direction and demi lovato. now don’t get me wrong; i definitely like some of their music but i’ve never really considered myself a fan. but of course, rather than saying that when prompted, my answer was “omg yes!” 💀. this didn’t last long, though once i started getting asked stuff such as “what’s harry styles’ favourite food?” LOL.

even though this all happened ages ago, i still have to remind myself to be honest about my interests, especially when trying to make new friends. it’s not that my actual interests are anything bad, i just feel awkward and even a bit guilty for saying “no” when asked if i like something. >_<
 
I don't remember ever doing so, because when I don't like something it's impossible to not notice..
especially when it comes to music. If I hate it, trust me I will take it apart to the extend that you think
I have a psychologic problem. D;

But nah, I maybe have said "Yeah it looks nice" when someone was proud of something, even though I didn't
like it that much, but besides that I don't recall ever doing this.
 
It depends how well I know the person. If we're like siblings, then I won't pretend to like what they like and I won't force them to do the same either.
 
Yes, kind of. In high school, my friends were super into K-pop and K-dramas. I liked Girls Generation and 2NE1, but I didn't feel like diving in more than that. I didn't want to be left out, so I just agreed with them.
 
I think I did when I was 8 but no not recently or basically ever. I think that time when I was 8 I was trying to play this game with my brother and sisters because its something they always did with their toys and I joined in one time and thought of it as kinda boring, so I stopped. I was really bored and no one didn't want to do anything with me, so I decided to do something with them.
 
I honestly can't recall any times when I've made myself like something to fit in. I've never really cared for fitting in (hehe autistic brain go brbrbrrrrr) so I just liked my own things and if others liked them too then cool. I actually found that my friends often liked the same things I liked, now I wonder if they were just doing it because they wanted to fit in with me. kind of an interesting thought.
 
No. I was already not fitting in so I just do what I like. Sometimes when someone I like is really into something, I may try to see if it's something I might like too, or just to understand what it is, but if I don't like it, I don't like it, I won't follow, I prefer staying alone. That's why I don't have friends most of the time. When I was little, people always complained and said: Why can't you do/be like others? and tried blackmail (we won't be friends with you anymore) and guilt trip (that's okay, I will do it all alone then..) with me but those don't work with me.
The only time I force myself is with food, not all the time, just because I hate wasting food, but I don't pretend I like it either.
 
Yes, it can be hard to fit in. It can be hard to keep friends as well with all the drama that comes with hanging around people. I knew in the back of my mind that it would be easier to be friends with certain people if we had similar interests, but I’ve always tried to find people with those similar interests.
 
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