This is something that messes with my anxiety. I have had points where I thought my friends found me annoying. I feel like I’m too clingy sometimes, and I desire too much attention. When my best friend and I talk, sometimes I feel like I’m annoying, even though it doesn’t happen too often with her. I trust that she would tell me if she ever found me annoying. Plus, there were times where I casually said I felt annoying to other people (not necessarily about her, which was clearly stated when I said other people). That is when my best friend told me she could never find me annoying. She is truly my only good friend and I deeply trust her, and would trust her with my life.
Unfortunately, I’ve been told by one of my exes that I was too clingy and she already treated me poorly, so I know I shouldn’t value her opinion so much. That probably even makes her opinion invalid. I felt annoying to people in the past though and it started to become more evident that it may be true. As embarrassing as it is, someone even faked her death to get out of dating me. That made me think, “I can’t be that bad of a person, right?” The person who faked her death has to be the one with the problem.
So, do you ever feel annoying to people? Can anyone relate?
I?m a pretty quiet person, I don?t usually talk much but when I do people usually ignore me or just look at me like they?re not interested in what I have to say at all. When I get comfortable with people I tend to talk a lot and sometimes I talk in circles (guess I didn?t get my socializing skills up very high lol) and repeat the same thing a bunch, when that happens people tell me I already said it so that?s when I take it as a hint to shut up. I want to be more social but stuff like that constantly happens to me, I?ve become super soft so anything small can easily hurt my feelings a ton, when people hint to me that they think I?m being annoying my heart drops and my eyes start to water, voice shakes all that fun jazz.
So yeah people sometimes make me feel like I?m being annoying and it hurts
Allllllll the time. i'm just a really insecure person.
Some of your friends will be annoyed by you sometimes though it's normal and there's nothing you can really do about it. I try to just think about times I've found my friends annoying and it helps a lil bit lmao CAUSE i mean i do get annoyed by them sometimes but i still love them and i don't think of them as "annoying people" obviously or i wouldn't talk to them. just sometimes i get annoyed & they will as well! that's okay.
I completely understand how you feel tho even w/ people i'm super close to i'm just convinced 'nope they hate me & want me to stop talking cause i'm annoying as heck' even if that's not the case at all.
Also your ex sounds like she might have some issues (i don't mean that in a rude way) it's not healthy to fake a death to get someone out of your life? So I agree with you 100% her opinion of you probably isn't valid at all. srry you had to deal with that oh my lord i would be traumatized if i was dating someone and thought they died ;___;
Sorry you had to go through that, OP. I'm glad you've found someone you can truly trust though, they sound far more dependable and sincere.
Myself, I'm pretty quiet so I don't think I could be considered clingy, I hope? Annoying is another question. Some of my friends like to talk my ear off, and as more of a listener I enjoy letting them rant, although I may not always have much to say in return sometimes, especially if it's over voice. I find it easier to articulate my feelings through text so I can get a little stuck. I think that has definitely annoyed some of them in the past, but only when they weren't overly familiar with me. I think it takes an introvert to understand another introvert, and to accept that we might not always reciprocate the same level of conversation. It's kind of difficult. That being said, there are times where I really need to rant if I'm upset, and one of my friends always gets the full brunt of it because they're the only person I feel comfortable sharing things with. I'd imagine it must get annoying for them for me to suddenly rant, even though I'm not necessarily looking for a response or input. Just somewhere to vent.
I think people in high school did get annoyed with how quiet I was though. It wasn't out of shyness or embarrassment. I just didn't enjoy engaging in their conversation most of the time, and after a while I realised that group settings weren't for me. I was annoying to them, and they were annoying to me.
Oh I probably annoy people all the time. I mean, I'm friendly and polite but I don't adapt well and I don't like it when plans change.I don't like being late anywhere so I'm very pushy about leaving early to get places (like the movies) and I can get irritated if someone makes us late or deviates from our plans. I generally like people, but I don't want to spend time with them necessarily you know? Like I get along with my coworkers, but I wouldn't want to see them outside of work haha, I'm particular about my friends. I can be pretty anal and rigid, so I'm pretty sure I'm annoying. Sometimes I worry I have an unlikeable personality and get really down on myself, but I remember that there are people who like to spend time with me, so I must be alright, maybe just not everyone's cup of tea, but that's okay.
Thank you, everyone. I’ve pretty much removed all the toxic people in my life. I have been more careful with who I choose to trust. I’ve been happier as of recent, though, so it’s all good!
I used to worry about this more when I was younger. I think everyone has annoyed someone at some point. It's just part of being human, you know? If someone is annoyed by you, that doesn't mean you're an annoying person. I think what helped me get over this worry was that I tried to focus on how other people made ME feel, rather than worrying about how I might be making them feel, since I can't know for sure. If I'm around someone who makes me feel like I'm annoying, then I probably just will stop spending time with that person, because I don't feel good about myself when I'm with them. I'd rather be by myself than be with someone who consistently makes me feel bad.
Also, I'm so sorry someone did that to you. That's awful.
I annoy the heck out of everyone, even my parents. How much I care? 0%. Unless you?re doing something wrong, which I don?t think you are, just ignore people that think you?re annoying. The great and truly great friends, I?ve found out, and I also only have one of them in life right now, are people that will listen to what you have to say at any time of day and let you be on your way, but ones that also support you, that ask how you are, and hangout with you. The kind of people that have your back, and expect you to have theirs. When you?re friends with someone like that (which is my younger African American friend. I treat him like a young brother since his dad died), you know you?re friends with the right person.
People who just ask how you are and then go on their merry little way aren?t friends. Those are just acquaintances.
Oh I know I'm annoying to people. He'll I even annoy myself sometimes ^^;
I know most of the reason why I haven't made any close friends in college is because I'm extremely inward/introverted, but I cant help but feel like another part of it is because the way I act on a daily basis can be perceived as immature and irritating. Maybe my aspergers/ADD has something to do with it, but I guess I don't necessarily act like I'm about to be 19. I act like a mature 14 year old (I guess??).
Sadly, I often really dislike myself for acting the way I do, because I feel like my personality kinda repels people. But idk, I've made quite a few friends on this site. Maybe if y'all met me in person you'd be like "good lord this child is annoying lol."
sometimes, specially via text lmao, though in real life I'm pretty quite unless I really wanna go out or get something that I really want/need.
though I don't care if I'm annoying them or not specially if they were my friends/partner lmfao
