Do you like people?

[MrBox]

Not really in the terms of..... extrovert or introvert. Although that is a part of my question too.

I am more curious do you like people in terms of human nature and despite human nature.

I believe all humans are inherently evil. That is just how humans are. Maybe it's because of how I grew up and my childhood- and it's probably a defense mechanism thing but if someone does something.. horrible, I just tell myself that's how it is. Cause they're human. But it's not like I hate them or anything.
It's a bit complicated.. but I also do not like human company.
It all kind of feels like a giant game sometimes..
My thoughts are not gathered very well right now, but I'd be interested in hearing other people's thoughts on this.

 

[-Lumi-]

Oh, that made me really sad to read.

I don't think all humans are inherently evil. I work with toddlers and you can see how loving and curious they are. They sometimes do things that we as adults might percieve as "mean" (biting, taking a toy, pushing) but that's not their intention. Little kids are still learning impulse control and learning how to communicate. They see something they want and they don't have the ability to process how to get it in a kind way yet so they just... grab it.

It's also why you'll see kids spill a little bit of something and then just dump the whole thing out. Or jump in a massive puddle despite being in runners and regular clothes, lol.

I find I have a lot more patience and compassion for kids than I do adults, though. It can be really hard to look at the current state of things and not feel like people are evil. There are definitely bad people out there and maybe some people are just born evil (nature vs nurture) but as a whole I choose to believe that people are born good, or at least neutral.

 

[Seastar]

It's complicated. In general, no. No, I don't like humans. I'm both introverted and see problems with humanity in general.
But it's not everyone. I do have friends, though they're only online.
The kind of people I don't like are usually on parts of the internet I avoid.

 

[MrBox]

Oh, that made me really sad to read.

I don't think all humans are inherently evil. I work with toddlers and you can see how loving and curious they are. They sometimes do things that we as adults might percieve as "mean" (biting, taking a toy, pushing) but that's not their intention. Little kids are still learning impulse control and learning how to communicate. They see something they want and they don't have the ability to process how to get it in a kind way yet so they just... grab it.

It's also why you'll see kids spill a little bit of something and then just dump the whole thing out. Or jump in a massive puddle despite being in runners and regular clothes, lol.

I find I have a lot more patience and compassion for kids than I do adults, though. It can be really hard to look at the current state of things and not feel like people are evil. There are definitely bad people out there and maybe some people are just born evil (nature vs nurture) but as a whole I choose to believe that people are born good, or at least neutral.

Ahahah, sorry for making you sad, Lumi!

Oh that's interesting. Yeah, I don't think children are evil. I feel like it's mainly the environments that cultivate certain behavior.. for the good or the bad. I feel like when I meet a genuinely good person, it shocks me to my core because of how I view human nature.
Like, "wow, despite all their obstacles , they persevered and succeeded " It always impresses me

 

[SkyKnight03]

I don't 'dislike' people, but I have trouble fitting in with people. I like talking and learning about others but I don't actually have friends.

I think people are too complex to place on a black and white spectrum. I'd say the majority of people don't exist on a place of 'good or bad'. We all have flaws and imperfections and that can change how others perceive us.

I definitely have my flaws. I was told yesterday by a guy that I should 'seriously work on myself'. I agreed. I thought his criticism of me was correct.

Although I would guess from our limited interaction and his harsh tone that I'm not a good person in his eyes. From his world view I had only been a heavy inconvenience.

Perspective is powerful.

 

[Mr.Fox]

Generally, no. Not at all. My work has unfortunately put me in the mind frame that most people are selfish/self-absorbed/self-important, so I treat them that way until they prove otherwise.
It’s honestly amazing how many people think their hand cramp is just as valid as someone’s dementia/cancer/pertussis etc.

 

[ShadowLelouch97]

I find myself liking and disliking people at the same time. There are so, so many wonderful people I know in my life and while they or I am not perfect, they're still good and friendly humans at the end of the day. But there are just as many bad people out there too, and I hate that.

 

[Croconaw]

It’s complicated. I like being around and meeting new people to the point where I can walk up to just about anyone and start a conversation.

I’m just very selective with who I keep in contact with. I actually don’t have many friends despite claiming to be an extrovert, but I do talk to lots of people. Of course, you can talk to people and not be friends with them.

I encounter many people. I am friends with a select few. I can be friendly with some. But there are many I just don’t vibe with, and that’s okay!

 

[QueenCobra]

It depends on what people were talking about. I like kind, funny, and interesting people. Unfortunately, the loudest people (or the ones we hear the most about) are usually none of those things.

I find a lot of people annoying. Maybe I get irritated easily (by celebrities or influencers) or am not as nice as I think. But I’m also in my own world a lot, where a simple interaction feels like a massive interruption.

 

[Midoriya]

Despite being betrayed, abandoned, excluded, bullied, and more in the past I don't think people are inherently evil, nor do I dislike humanity as a whole. There's always going to be bad apples in life but that's because of the choices they make. Everyone has a set of choices every day and that... is up to you. And sometimes I have to accept the fact that myself and others won't get along simply because our personalities clash. That doesn't make them inherently evil, however. If everyone in life was inherently evil then we'd all probably not even be here by now.

Even though there's a lot of evil in the world, and a lot of it does come from people, I have also personally witnessed an innumerable amount of people who have helped me and been kind to me and others and have done nothing but boost us up. And as long as those kinds of people still exist in the world, then I won't give up hope for humanity as a whole.

 

[nightglow]

I do like humans. They have some interesting characteristics. They are hard to love sometimes though. With much power comes great responsibility. Humans have a lot of power. They can make misery or good. Even if they don't fully comprehend their actions or how their actions effect so many things. Or they don't care.
As for a social aspect, I like humans in small doses. I'm not a super social person and I need space to breathe. I do find them less tiring if they are authentic. I find people are more real online than in person in conversations many times. Idk if it is because of a lack of imagine (yeah I know there is a social media picture thing that's common) or if it is people are more reflective online. Either way, if a person doesn't want to talk they probably won't, while in person they'd probably slap on a happy face and spew some crap to act engaging and expect the same of you.

 

[Airysuit]

Ofcourse lol! Not every person is the same so I would say its impossible to dislike all people. I mean posting here is already a testament of how nice it is to share and connecr with other people right?

I generally prefer to be by myself or with my bf, but I definitely need and love to be around people too from time to time!

 

[Zerous]

In general yes, I do like people. I do think there are horrible people out there, but in general most people are good, and I don't think people are inherently evil. As someone who's been in the middle of a decent amount of lower-scale conflicts, I've seen time and time again the cycle of miscommunication spiraling relationships down the drain. Idk, I just generally tend to remind myself that although there are exceptions sadly, most of the time, people aren't normally acting out of malice, more so misunderstanding, ignorance, or sometimes emotional immaturity and not handling their emotions properly. Everyone makes mistakes and does not great things, but most people are also trying. Also, normally the loudest people are the cruel ones, so sometimes when I see people being horrible, especially online, I have to remind myself that for every person that comments something mean, there are plenty more that just observe and don't comment.

But I've met so many kind, funny people and seen time and time again people go out of their way to do things for others, including young children. I can't look down at the little kid who went and picked me a pretty flower and brought it back to me because they remembered I like the colour and say that they're inherently bad.

 

[Nika]

I like people in general yes but there are also people I don't want to deal with

 

[Yoshi155]

I think that 75% of people are pretty cool and 25% of us suck. But the 25% is very noticeable compared to the 75%, normal people who just go about their day.

I feel like it’s not fair to be misanthropic and have a disdain against all people or believe that everyone is a bad person and only cares about themselves just because of that minority. While I see people do worse and worse things every day that always manages to shock me, there’s as many really nice and caring people out there, which is enough to make me think that humanity is not awful as a whole. I just can’t believe some of the despicable and/or wrong things some people do and have no remorse for sometimes, it makes me really not like being alive on the same planet as them. But in general, I just don’t really like being cynical about everything, which is why I feel this way on the topic.

 

[.: Meri :.]

I like people, and personally I don't believe humans are inherently evil. But that's also kind of a tricky question to answer—while I think most of us can agree to a large extent on what constitutes good and evil, and I certainly have my own feelings on the matter ahaha, I don't know that others share those exact feelings, and sometimes in greyer areas I don't think there always is one objective true answer. People may value things differently than I do, and I may still consider them good people—and even people I would call evil probably don't see themselves that way. Not that I think that necessarily means their viewpoint is equally valid. Probably sometimes, definitely not always lol, going back to the general human consensus on basic morals. Likewise, it stands to reason that some people would consider me evil too!
As SkyKnight mentioned above, I think there's a lot than can come down to individual perception, and like Zerous talked about... I think all too many things are ultimately rooted in miscommunication and misunderstanding. I try to give the benefit of the doubt even when someone makes a bad impression on me for that reason. I've probably left plenty of bad impressions while meaning well myself.

There's a philosophical question of to what extent we're really capable of selflessness/if people are inherently selfish. I don't know that I agree with that, but if we are totally selfish by nature... I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing! It certainly can be of course, but someone can be selfless to an unhealthy degree too. If helping others (donating to charity, etc.) is at its core a selfish act because it makes the person helping feel good in some way... I think that's a good thing! Helping others should feel good, and if "acting selfishly" for one person means doing good things for others, then I like that person.

I'm more inclined to believe in the sorta similar idea that everyone has ulterior motives at times, but I don't think that's inherently a bad thing either; it's just a normal part of our feelings. Someone can have bad ulterior motives of course—I wouldn't want someone to do a seemingly kind gesture for me because they think it means I'll owe them something later, or purely because they want something from me. But if someone does something nice for me because it made them feel better, or because they're secretly hoping to make a friend by doing so, or because they feel bad for something and are hoping to be forgiven, or because they think the universe will reward them for doing good in some way, or because they want other people to notice how nice they are... I don't mind! I even like some of those motivations, and it doesn't change the nice thing that they did for me.

...To get away from me arguing semantics and to actually answer the other question of whether I like human company, I do but it's more complicated asdfljgkhl. I'm prone to loneliness and definitely need human connection on an emotional level, but I also need time to myself, and spending time around people, even people I really like, generally tires me out after a little while. I'm also kind of a private person, and it takes a while for me to feel really comfortable around others. I'd say I like people but I'm definitely introverted ahahah

 

[BetsySundrop]

For about 15 minutes, then they gotta go away and let me do my thing.

I love reading about psychological experiments and i love reading about the human mind and human behavior. It is extremely fascinating.

I think people have a great capacity for selflessness, kindness, and love, and on the flipside, an equally great capacity for evil. Some will sacrifice themselves to save a stranger. Some will destroy their own children.

Challenging circumstances seem to expose the true nature of a person.

I've had good and bad experiences with people. I've seen some really awful human actions, and spoken to people who i believed were truly evil, but I've also seen amazing acts of kindness, and met people who are truly good people.

Maybe i don't like or dislike, but I'm neutral?
Maybe that's just my introvert self speaking.

I'm a bit of a hermit (totally, haha). I'd rather study people than interact with them irl.

 

[Jhine7]

I'm not the biggest people person but I try to be nice to everyone that gives me the time of day!

 

[Holla]

I don’t like people in general most of the time due to all the bad things that many people do. Plus I’m a big introvert. That being said there are still a lot of kind great people out there that I really enjoy chatting to and hanging out with.

So crowds in general I don’t like as you don’t know what kind of people you are going to get. A group of kind like minded people though I do enjoy.

 

[IonicKarma]

I mean it kinda depends.... I'm glad I live alone for now at least because if i had to interact with people all the time I'd lose my mind.

But I do like talking to people sometimes!