I share as much as I possibly can. I used to keep insanely detailed lists to the point where it was stressing me out because there are a few factors that can, at times, make it very very difficult to share.
1. Time: I used to play far more feverishly than I do now ESPECIALLY during events. Even when I was super duper active and growing flowers darn close to every cycle, it was still hard get the right amount of critters to everyone in a timely manner. Since there has been an upswing of events, I've been feeling a bit of burnout, so I am not as active as I once was. I still log on a handful of times a day at my most active; however, there are days where I may only log in once or twice. That is a real obstacle to getting my friends critters because I'm not planting as much as I would like. I also find that my interest in Pocket Camp wanes as more and more Leaf Ticket reliant content is added. I absolutely believe Nintendo should profit off of this game, but the balance feels very off considering the real world cost of one digital item can be quite high. It's a shame because I'd be more than happy to drop $5 into the game every month, if I knew that money would go a bit further than a single item, but I tend not to purchase any LT packages when I feel the balance is off or my hand if forced, but I digress.
2. Timing: We've talked about time, lets talk about timing. As I mentioned above, I don't play as feverishly as I used to, which means I have less time to plant, and ultimately critters to share, but what about bouncing back to people? Well, unfortunately, if you're only logging on 2-4 times daily, you not only have to have critters to share, but your friends gardens need to be available at the time you log on. I do my absolute best to return to all my friends who have shared critters with me, but even though I check when I log in, I find it can be VERY difficult to sync with my friends. They are either growing or have less available flowers than critters I would like to share. As much as I want to keep checking every hour, that plays into the stress I was feeling when I kept lists, which brings me to my next point.
3. Convenience: This might be one of the biggest obstacles to returning critters to your friends. There is absolutely no way to track how many critters you've sent to various friends. I used to keep detailed lists IRL, but that was VERY time consuming for me, and ultimately stressful. I was playing the game too hard when I was doing that. I felt very tied to the game, which led to major major burnout after each garden event, so even when I was logging on, it wasn't as fun. They eventually added the "return the favor" button, which I only started utilizing the past few events to keep track of the critters I returned, but even that wasn't super time friendly or easy. I would basically hit return favor for every critter I actually returned, though I would at times forget and use that button to check details. Even when we had that option, the first two factors would come into play because if I didn't return to friends in a timely manner, they would be booted from my visitor list, and without a written record, I wouldn't always remember who was bumped from it. We also have no way of communicating our specific needs to our friends. I used to decorate my camp with all of the items to let my friends know when I no longer needed them; however, decorating my camp takes time, and I don't always have time to devote to making it look nice, so I opt to keep the current camp design. I also found that method to be very imperfect indicator of who still needed critters because not everyone does that, and now we have hard tasks to consider. Like right now in the game, I ONLY need white hats, but I have absolutely no way of letting my friends know that, unless we speak in a group outside of the game. I even considered planting white flowers around my blue ones as a sort of marker, but that would waste a lot of garden space when I could be growing more blue. Anyhoo, if the whole point of these events is to share, why don't we have the tools to easily track this information in game?
4. Catch/Spawn rate: I've covered everything but this. What I've noticed for EVERY garden event is people who have excellent luck with their catch/spawn rate, and those who don't. It has fluctuated for me each event, and yes it always gets harder during round two, but there are people who still have pretty great RNG, thus making it much easier to share with friends. I had ONE hat spawn out of 10 today, and my worst catch yesterday was 3 out of 10 a friend shared. The truth is we have no idea how many critters our friends are catching, and even if everything else I mentioned above works out, our friends still may only have one or two critters to share. I can only speak for myself, but I know that when I play, I rarely have critters stockpiled (unless I'm specifically trying to get them back to a friend). The ONLY time I start to have a collection of critters is usually from round one. I tend to have a lot thrown at me at the end of round one, and I do my best to match the critter with that hat, so I don't want to return round one bugs and clog up my friend's round two flowers. I am sitting on a big fat goose egg for round two hats right now because I have been doing my best to get as many back to my friends as possible.
Ultimately, I know it's SUPER frustrating to not get critters back. It absolutely happens to me, and yes, I've gotten salty about it in the past (and still do sometimes). When I was playing hardcore, I didn't personally experience much of what I mentioned above (other than spawn/catch rate) simply because I was on the game constantly. Now that I'm not playing as much, I have experienced all of the above and then some, so I try to keep in mind that when my friends aren't sharing back, it's more likely than not for a good reason. I think that's something we should all try to remember and be understanding of. Also on a deeper note, I think the world would be a better place overall if we helped one another without expecting something in return. I think the holidays tend to remind me of that, and please understand I'm not upset or judging, it just felt like something we should all remember. Anyhoo, my point of writing this isn't to make anyone feel bad, just to remind everyone that we don't know the circumstances on the other side.
OH AND ONE FINAL THING.....if you don't share back with anyone EVEN WHEN YOU CAN......I only have one thing to say to you "BAHH HUMBUG YA SCROOGE!"