Have You Ever Had Any Relationship Problems?

[Cheryll]

I mean, I'm 18 years old so...my parents are like...get good grades, be a doctor. After college, get married and have kids.

._.

So, I met this guy. He's cute. :] I kept kinda showing romantic attraction (which is a bad start) and he never got it. ;w;
We now are friends since he was already dating. oof. Otherwise, I don't have a serious relatioship problem.

 

[Halloqueen]

Can't have relationship problems if you've never been in a relationship.

But really though, I'm either asexual or something similar because I don't really tend to feel the desire. Never been on a dating site before, never dated period. I also have no desire whatsoever to become a parent, both for my own sake and for the sake of any hypothetical offspring. So, I don't tend to seek relationships out, I just like being friends with people. I'm not against the idea of being in a relationship in the future if the opportunity presents itself, but I also wouldn't care if the opportunity never presents itself.

 

[ali.di.magix]

It's like… "the key to have no health problems is not being alive";;;

Exactly! Problem solved jk I'm not that stoopid

Can't have relationship problems if you've never been in a relationship.

But really though, I'm either asexual or something similar because I don't really tend to feel the desire. Never been on a dating site before, never dated period. I also have no desire whatsoever to become a parent, both for my own sake and for the sake of any hypothetical offspring. So, I don't tend to seek relationships out, I just like being friends with people. I'm not against the idea of being in a relationship in the future if the opportunity presents itself, but I also wouldn't care if the opportunity never presents itself.

^ I have the exact same approach and feelings towards relationships. I'm not against it, I just don't feel the desire to get into one. I'm open to opportunities, but also don't really care if I never come across any opportunities. There has only been a number of times, which I can count on a single hand, where I've felt out of place not being in a relationship.

 

[BeardosFangirl]

Can't have relationship problems if you've never been in a relationship.

But really though, I'm either asexual or something similar because I don't really tend to feel the desire. Never been on a dating site before, never dated period. I also have no desire whatsoever to become a parent, both for my own sake and for the sake of any hypothetical offspring. So, I don't tend to seek relationships out, I just like being friends with people. I'm not against the idea of being in a relationship in the future if the opportunity presents itself, but I also wouldn't care if the opportunity never presents itself.

The feeling you are describing is called aromantic, and it basically means you have no desire to be in a romantic relationship.

And, yeah, I'm divorced. So to say I've had relationship problems would an understatement. I'm a demisexual, which means I don't feel sexual attraction unless I get to know someone and like their personality. But whenever I go out on dates or end up in a relationship, I just end up letting people use me for sex because I'm too afraid to stand up for myself. It's led to me being raped and sexually assaulted.

 

[Sweetley]

Well, I was never in a relationship before, therefore never had any problems...

 

[Mayor Monday]

I never had a relationship problem with a partner, as I've never been in one. But I did have a 'relationship' problem with my second grandma on my dad's side of the family.

She never knew, but since she had some flaws that my parents didn't like, I took after my family's opinions (though justified in many ways, especially my mom's reasons).

It hindered my interest in spending time with my grandma because I formed a negative view of her. I would let myself talk about her behind her back. Though my grandma has been dead for about two years now, the regret is still there. It was a harsh lesson to learn.

 

[Croconaw]

Oh dang, where do I start? I have been in a few relationships, but it would be a stretch to even call them that. The worst one was when I was seventeen years old and somehow ended up in a long distance relationship with this controlling thirty-two year old from Canada I met on Mario Kart. It was emotionally abusive on her end, and she kept treating me more like her kid than anything. It seemed like she wanted children more than a relationship, and she would get angry if I wanted to do anything other than go to college. I didn’t even go to college because it wasn’t for me, but she continued to tell me I would never be successful without going to college. As surprising as it was, she dumped me because I refused to listen to her and she didn’t agree with the way I wanted to live my life. I’m not even sure how this relationship even started, but I’m glad it ended. I don’t get involved anymore with people like this. I’m not sure where she is today because it’s been a while, but I sure hope she’s not still looking for relationships with younger individuals to treat them like crap. This is completely unacceptable in my opinion. I do regret ever getting involved with someone so much older while I was only seventeen at the time, but it taught me to be careful with relationships in general. Some people aren’t as they seem. I forgot to mention the worst part... She lashed out at me one morning because I forgot to tell her good morning before going to school. If she put such a huge importance on making sure kids go to college, why would she be yelling at someone for wanting to go to school over speaking with her? It makes zero sense to me and I’m glad we don’t talk anymore.

 

[Neb]

My entire last relationship was a problem. We had very different ideas of what a relationship was. To them it was texting three hours a day and for me it was actually planning dates in advance. We both kept our frustrations to ourselves in order to avoid conflict. They were mentally ill, which meant they’d often engage in destructive behavior. I was a clingy mess at times since I had never been in a relationship before. Instead of trying to make it work they just lied about dumping me and started dating someone else the next day.

What a mess,

 

[Dwayne Johnson]

i've been in relationships with people who were way too clingy or wanted to do certain things a little too much, i like to do stuff more in moderation, so i ended things.

 

[Princess Mipha]

Yeah, I mean.. it's part of a relationship, let's be honest.

But speaking of real problems, the one before my current relationship, oh boy..
he was just really possesive. He was mad that I couldn't spend time with him when I had to go to work,
or if I felt sick and didn't want to leave my bed he would get mad at me for it. Worst part is that everytime
we were together, he would just spend his whole day in front of the PC and pretty much ignore me and
if I asked to go outside or do something together he would get mad and shout at me for always complaining, lol.
But he has some serious issues as I later realised. Glad I got out of the relationship rather fast.
Breakup was kind of messy though. I was so scared of him in the end, that I told him if he comes to my house I will
call the police and I was so scared that I begged my parents to go to a shop for some hours and they actually
understood and we spend most of the day outside the house. Oh yeah, when I was about 2 years together with my
now fiance and also lived since 2 years in France he actually wrote me a message on Facebook (thought I blocked him??)
and begged me to come back to Germany and not "ruin" my life in France.
Needless to say, I don't care anymore about this relationship at all. I just hope he never actually takes his life, because I know
he threatened it a lot, if I dared to break up and his arm showed more than enough proof of him being unstable enough to do so.

 

[tomatospooks666]

i've never been in a romantic relationship before, but if my experiences with platonic relationships is any indication, then i'll probably just screw it up, end up with people that don't care about me and end up being left behind anyway so i'm good.

 

[cIementine]

i've never been in a long-term relationship, but was recently dating a guy, which ended due to an upcoming distance thing. we didn't know each other well enough to enter a relationship, never mind one long-distance. it was the right thing to do, but it still made me sad. i was reflecting on our time together recently and was thinking about his treatment of me - he was a lovely guy, but from an extremely privileged background, attended a very prestigious uni, and pretty pretentious. i come from a comparatively working class background, free education, and i can't stand out-of-touch pretentiousness and i find a lot of humour in taking joy from stupid, frivolous things. it's not something i was particularly conscious of at the time, but there were some off-colour comments about my hometown, 'cheap taste' in things like wine, some off-brand snacks i had lying around, and some of the media i consumed. i found it funny at the time, and i liked that we could dig at each other, but it gave me a lot of class insecurity and i felt like i had to justify my existence to him. seeing his social media presence after we stopped seeing each other and he was back at uni made me realise i dodged a bullet, and it's probably for the best it didn't go any further because i would have felt like i was under a microscope and constantly trying to raise myself to the level of his elitism. neither of us can help our backgrounds, but i know i definitely don't fit into his world, and wouldn't really want to. i'm much happier with mine.

 

[Holla]

Well, I used to date a narcissist which I didn't realize until it was too late. I was constantly made to feel like I wasn't good enough. I was also guilt tripped/manipulated into doing things I never really agreed to or wanted to do. Basically if anything I said wasn't what he wanted I was forced to do things his way regardless.

I have since left that relationship and my current one is nothing like it thankfully. We really seem to understand each other and aren't afraid to talk about things that bother us no matter how silly they may seem. We haven't really had any disagreements yet, but neither of us are the yelling type so I'm sure we'd be able to work most things out in a civil manner.

 

[fairysyndrome]

i think problems are a part of any relationship, really, be they big or small. even if they're just things you need to communicate with each other to fix before they get out of hand..........

in my last relationship before the one i'm currently in, the biggest problems were a very different viewpoint on the future + our age gap. i'd known them for a long time before we started dating, so our difference in age didn't really occur to me at first, but the more i thought about it the more it made me uncomfortable, and that's one of those problems that you can't really, like.... fix. it either exists or it doesn't. i also don't like to think about the future or plan things out too far ahead, at least at the moment because it kind of freaks me out to think too far, and they were looking way too long term for my tastes -- expecting us to be together for the long haul and seeing a long-term future with me when i don't like to see the future at all. which is again, one of those things you can't really.... fix. it was just a problem with our relationship where there was no real solution other than severing said relationship. and i mentioned this in a different thread, but they reacted very unfairly when i broke things off, which is a problem in itself. and a whole story in itself, lmao.

 

[KatieLavender]

yes, me and this boy really really liked each other and after we had went on a few dates we finally decided to make it official, we were dating for a good few months when the topic of his phone password came up, i had never ever asked him for his but he knew mine. whenever i laid hands on his phone he would get so overprotective, i thought that maybe it just took time for him to trust me that much. One night he left his phone unlocked whilst he went to get another drink and i wasn't going to go on it until i heard a mass amount of notifications come through which were from instagram, i decided to click on them and it turns out he had about 24 different girls on the go that he was using for their money, we broke up that night lol.