I have a fear of mice and my mom hates it

[Keldi]

Here's how it goes:
I get scared easily by mice. My heart will beat really quickly and I will try to get away, by leaving the room and getting on furniture. I'll ask if anybody can check if they're gone because I absolutely despise the things
BUT my mom makes it sound like i curl up in a ball, or get on my knees while pleading for somebody to make sure it's safe.
Naturally, as I have always been, when she started yelling at me about how ridiculous I was being, ridiculing my fear, I started to cry. 'Cause, y'know- my own mom saying I'm being ridiculous.
"Nobody's gonna baby you forever and go check"- So you're gonna yell that at me while I'm crying. Nice.
"They can't do anything to you"- Not even close to why I hate them.
"You're gonna have to deal with this"- No ****. YOU'RE gonna have to deal with funeral bills if you keep ****ing worsening my damn problems like it's my fault.
And that's what she makes it feel like.
My fault.
My fault.
My fault.
MY fault.
MY FAULT.
It's all my ****ing fault.

We have an appointment with a psychiatrist(see I've been off meds-for mental disabilities- a whole month and I was doing good until today)tomorrow and she's bound to bring it up.
How can I just get rid of this fear? Just so I can make her proud? Just so I can fix what's my fault?

 

[AndroGhostX]

Probably see someone who helps people overcome their irrational fears? Because obviously your mom isn't going to support you to help you get over them. She has a point, but she's not being supportive at all! .-.

 

[John Wick]

I used to breed mice, and they are truly cute lil critters.

Listen, I'll tell you a few thing's about them, that may make them seem less threatening.

Mine used to kiss my nose when I held them up to my face and asked them to.
They make the cutest noises when you hold them to your ear.

They are much like cats/kittens, in the way they clean themselves.
They lick their paws and wash behind their ears and wash their faces.

They are very trusting.
If a mouse cleans itself when you're holding it, that means they trust you.

They may nibble on you, but it tickles, they don't bite out of spite.

Now cockroaches are a different matter.

God really screwed up when he made those damn things. ^_^

 

[Keldi]

I used to breed mice, and they are truly cute lil critters.

Listen, I'll tell you a few thing's about them, that may make them seem less threatening.

Mine used to kiss my nose when I held them up to my face and asked them to.
They make the cutest noises when you hold them to your ear.

They are much like cats/kittens, in the way they clean themselves.
They lick their paws and wash behind their ears and wash their faces.

They are very trusting.
If a mouse cleans itself when you're holding it, that means they trust you.

They may nibble on you, but it tickles, they don't bite out of spite.

Now cockroaches are a different matter.

God really screwed up when he made those damn things. ^_^

In no way are they threatening to me! I just get really freaked out! >_<" Sorry if it sounded like I saw them as threatening!

- - - Post Merge - - -

Probably see someone who helps people overcome their irrational fears? Because obviously your mom isn't going to support you to help you get over them. She has a point, but she's not being supportive at all! .-.

I could try talking to my therapist about it? ^_^

 

[John Wick]

Not threatening to your safety, but your peace of mind.

I understand, as I was the same with cockroaches.

I can pick up snakes and lizards as I LOVE them, but jumped on a table and stayed there for four hours because there was a roach.

I made myself face it.

Now I see them, spray them, and take out the trash.

I still find them creepy, but I am in control now.
The fear that I once had has been rationalized in my mind. ^_^

 

[Keldi]

Not threatening to your safety, but your peace of mind.

I understand, as I was the same with cockroaches.

I can pick up snakes and lizards as I LOVE them, but jumped on a table and stayed there for four houses because there was a roach.

I made myself face it.

Now I see them, spray them, and take out the trash.

I still find them creepy, but I am in control now.
The fear that I once had has been rationalized in my mind. ^_^

Boi if I see a cockroach it can keep the damn house! I'll be moving XD

 

[piichinu]

"How can I just get rid of this fear? Just so I can make her proud? Just so I can fix what's my fault?"

okay, youre always making these threads (you do something, "x" yells at you and you want to know how to change yourself, then you self-deprecate) and im sure you know the answers to all your questions if you think about it, everyone (at least i hope?) knows that if you want to change something about yourself you have to force yourself and try really hard. there's no magic formula. you can approach an issue in a variety of ways, like combating ignorance, brute force, whatever works for you.

at this point all your threads are just venting threads and you wanting to be validated by us, but in different scenarios. IMO you should start writing blogs if you already dont, of course i can't force you to do anything though. anyway, im not trying to be mean, so sorry if it comes across as that. but for real girl... when is it enough for you???

 

[vel]

This isn't technically irrational, by the way. Irrational fears are fears that cannot happen unless it happens in a freak accident or situation. This is normal. Second, there isn't an easy answer. It has to come with dedication and a plan. And if you want to fix it, when your mother brings it up during your appointment, isn't that easier?

Like Claire said, the post above mine, it sounds like you vent a lot, and that's perfectly fine; it's healthy to vent and not bottle up emotions, but this could be better placed in another place since it's a rant, and asking other people to help you who don't have any professional experience isn't going to help. Get help if you need it and actually want to fix it. This is similar to the "I have depression and anxiety" threads I sometimes see on here, and most of the replies are, and always will be, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. Asking people on the Internet will not help in the long run. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Diancie]

Girl there's mice running around in my kitchen and I can't even go there anymore because I'm scared mice will pop up.

 

[duckykate]

my kitchen is full of mice yall. i used to be afraid of them but now i say hi when i see them on the counter every morning.