From what I've observed in the past two years, the forum is generally very safe in that regard. There have been fights and there but it usually involved something a bit more. You're fine here and you have my word on that.
I generally assume everyone is male until specified otherwise. Since it's grammatically the traditional neutral pronoun, I feel it's the safest bet. I don't particularly think it matters or anyone here cares, it's just most expedient when typing a post to have a default pronoun to use so you don't have to go to everyone's profile (if they even mentioned it) every single time to check when you're just typing a short post. For example: "SoAndSo posted in the looking for thread that he was looking for Lolly." It isn't a matter of offense, it's a matter of efficiency. Also seems less rude than "it" and less grammatically clumsy than "they." Though that's an awful lot of thought for a two to three letter word.
From what I've observed in the past two years, the forum is generally very safe in that regard. There have been fights and there but it usually involved something a bit more. You're fine here and you have my word on that.
I actually incredibly dislike being referred to as male in anyway. Male pronouns are no longer the "traditional pronouns" and calling everyone a "he" is very offensive to many... I'm honestly appalled...
And, for those who find simply asking about pronouns a waste of time, and not a big deal, this is the reason why some care so much about it. I find it very offensive to be told that my pronouns don't matter, and aren't worth the time to find out, when I've been called the wrong pronouns for most of my life. To finally make the change in my life and become open about my gender was an incredibly stressful, scary thing for me. And now that I'm finally open about my gender, I'd actually really, really like for my pronouns to be respected, after hearing the wrong ones for so long.
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Thank you very much!
Do you pay any attention to the demographics of this website?I generally assume everyone is male until specified otherwise.
I did say "until specified." If someone says "call me this" then I'm happy to oblige. Thing is, that almost never comes up around here. A used car salesman isn't going to ask you how many X chromosomes you have and what's inside your underwear and your brain, they just want your money and to get a piece of junk off their lot. People here are very friendly and inviting, and just want to play the game, talk about the game, trade items and villagers. Nobody's here to offend anyone intentionally.
I think the vast majority of people here accept people for who they are. What you have to understand is that gender identity is a complex issue and not everyone is going to know the politically correct pronoun to call someone when there are so many gender identities out there. If someone calls you the wrong pronoun, just politely correct that person, and if that person insists on calling you something else after you've made it explicitly clear what you want to be called, just ignore that person.
I understand that people make mistakes, I try my best to be understanding and I'm quite used to it.
I think the vast majority of people here accept people for who they are. What you have to understand is that gender identity is a complex issue and not everyone is going to know the politically correct pronoun to call someone when there are so many gender identities out there. If someone calls you the wrong pronoun, just politely correct that person, and if that person insists on calling you something else after you've made it explicitly clear what you want to be called, just ignore that person.
Do you pay any attention to the demographics of this website?
You want my perfect peaches, I'm not examining your entire identity before I trade/sell/give them to you.
My post was meant as a joke. Something like 70% of users here identify as female, so you'll be wrong 70% of the time by using he / him / his. I really don't care that you use male pronouns by default.Do demographics really matter? I don't care if you're male, female, neither, gay, straight, or a giraffe, it's a video game. You want my perfect peaches, I'm not examining your entire identity before I trade/sell/give them to you. I'm going to let you have the peaches. Why should I like or dislike you for a demographic? I reserve my dislike for people who earn it. And not many do. In fact no one I've met on this forum has ever seemed worthy of dislike.
But you'll still assume they're male? I thought gender had nothing to do with it.
btw I have to say I like your username, because there's a cute virtual pet goat site with the same name <3
/wonders if that's where you got it from but it's probably not the case/
also guys let's not argue okay, arguing can only make things worse.
It's time to close this thread before someone says something stupid...
My post was meant as a joke. Something like 70% of users here identify as female, so you'll be wrong 70% of the time by using he / him / his. I really don't care that you use male pronouns by default.
I am so, so sorry. I was incredibly wrong and should never have opened my mouth. You deserved better and I should have listened to you and your experiences instead of trying to stubbornly explain an unwanted opinion and digging my heels in with each reply from you and others. I was behaving in exactly the way I claimed people wouldn't and it has eaten at me for years. I'm so sorry. I truly hope life has been great for you and that stubborn *******s like I was have stayed far away.This is stressing me out too much, and I don't feel like arguing anymore. Arguing on here wasn't my intent, I simply wanted to hear from any n.b. people here.