xSuperMario64x
🇨🇦🩷 9 days 💜🇨🇦
yeah when I say I'm setting boundaries I definitely have full intentions to do so. mostly bc my dad is narcissistic and he doesn't understand the concept of boundaries (as in, he gets mad when I don't do what I want him to do, and he also loves to just walk into my room even though I'm a grown adult). I can see where people setting boundaries can be confusing because they're misled.
and I also agree that "I come first" is a good thing to an extent. when it comes to the point that you're beginning to neglect friends and family bc you're always putting yourself first then it's out of control. but in situations like TalviSyreni (and myself, for years), some people really do get pushed around and walked all over. that's why my dad was so happy with me for so long, bc I was complacent just doing whatever he told me to do. now he gets really frustrated all the time bc he doesn't have control over me anymore, bc I put myself first and I understand that some things people were forcing me to do were destroying my mental health and wellbeing. it's definitely a good idea to make sure you know you intentions when approaching ideas like this, so it doesn't get out of hand.
and I also agree that "I come first" is a good thing to an extent. when it comes to the point that you're beginning to neglect friends and family bc you're always putting yourself first then it's out of control. but in situations like TalviSyreni (and myself, for years), some people really do get pushed around and walked all over. that's why my dad was so happy with me for so long, bc I was complacent just doing whatever he told me to do. now he gets really frustrated all the time bc he doesn't have control over me anymore, bc I put myself first and I understand that some things people were forcing me to do were destroying my mental health and wellbeing. it's definitely a good idea to make sure you know you intentions when approaching ideas like this, so it doesn't get out of hand.