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What's Bothering You?

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Trying to find a Portuguese cover of Lynn Anderson's 'Rose Garden'. Only found some versions from Brazil and it's not any of those... argh :(

Also ehh my cousin's mom wanted me to go there on saturday but eh i gotta study and rest some as well this week been ****ed as hell.
 
I've been pretty tired lately. Just haven't been sleeping a lot.

Also, having conflicting emotions... these things do take a toll on me. Been fantasizing of going out of state for college, living on my own, and away from my family - honestly, our culture is just flat out abusive and manipulating. I'm losing a bit of my sanity here, because my family does not consider physical nor emotional abuse as wrong. It's just what parents have to do in order to discipline their child. This mindset, I just cannot agree with nor understand. I find it difficult, because I've witnessed and experienced how damaging this sort of parenting is. In my house, I live with my mother and my grandparents. My mother has brought up how difficult her life was - my grandma had abused her. She has told me of the various instances where her mother (my grandma) had been physically aggressive towards her. Not only that, but my grandma showed favoritism towards her brother, and apparently had rarely hit him. My mother said that when he did something, she would take the beating instead of him. My mother has become quite insecure and emotionally unstable because of what my grandma did. She's had breakdowns before, where she would wail out on the floor and cry or throw things. She can also lose her temper quite easily, and has gotten physical with me in the past. It's hard to see something like that. It's frustrating to know that our culture values the elders over anything - and, I personally think that filial piety is utter bullcrap. Yes, I understand that you should respect your elders. However, being older does not justify abusing your child. No matter what they say, that it's just 'tough love' or a way to discipline your child... I can't believe they think like that. You can't just defend your actions with, 'I'm the parent and I know what is best.' Being the parent and supposedly having a 'higher position of power' does not excuse your actions. I'm fed up with this culture. It's one of the reasons why I want to leave. It's sad to think that my mother doesn't consider what had happened to her as abuse... although she does talk about the incidents she had with my grandma in a despising tone, she also defends her, saying that it's 'just what parents do'. I want to get away from this abusive culture.
 
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Journalists bothering Trudeau about those old party pics, like come on. I actually feel sorry for the dude and he has definitely matured imo. If that's the only thing you can bring up to mock his face just because campaigns and elections I feel sorry for your lil journalist life and you should def. quit your job.

Yes it's a bad idea to do those things but doesn't mean you should bring it up and make someone have a crisis and apologize like that. And honestly like having a diverse government is a bad thing?

We we pretty much all young and dumb and I think most of us has matured since then.
 
I think cutting ties in this case would be for the best. Living in an environment like that can't be healthy for anyone. It's really sad that you're the only one who can see and recognise the abuse, despite being raised to believe it's normal behaviour.

Not only that, but my grandma showed favoritism towards her brother, and apparently had rarely hit him. My mother said that when he did something, she would take the beating instead of him.
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This makes me sick. How anyone can do something like this to their daughter or young and feel no remorse or empathy.

Yes, I understand that you should respect your elders. However, being older does not justify abusing your child.
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I agree.

You can't just defend your actions with, 'I'm the parent and I know what is best.' Being the parent and supposedly having a 'higher position of power' does not excuse your actions.
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Parents aren't infallible, unfortunately there's a lot of awful parents out there who take advantage of their kids, or neglect them, or abuse them.

I'm not sure where you're from, but it sounds like the best solution would be to escape this toxic cycle of abuse. If you still care about your parents, then you can still do so at a distance (assuming your life isn't at risk), maybe one day they'll be able to see past their dogmatic beliefs and understand that they're hurting others, but that can be near impossible, especially if there's a some kind of punishment for questioning their own beliefs.

It's sad to think that my mother doesn't consider what had happened to her as abuse... although she does talk about the incidents she had with my grandma in a despising tone, she also defends her, saying that it's 'just what parents do'. I want to get away from this abusive culture.
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Hopefully you can find the strength to leave and hopefully this hasn't already caused permanent mental scarring. All I can do from here is hope, despite hope being a word with no real power.
 
No, you don't have to respect elder unless they earned it. smfh.

also wish me luck doing a friendship bracelet ayy lol
 
iphone 6 is unsupported for the new ios and i literally got it less than a year ago
i hope it can last me a while
 
Sheila said:
Trying to find a Portuguese cover of Lynn Anderson's 'Rose Garden'. Only found some versions from Brazil and it's not any of those... argh :(

Also ehh my cousin's mom wanted me to go there on saturday but eh i gotta study and rest some as well this week been ****ed as hell.
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I've been trying to find a specific version of Shame and Scandal in the Family, no luck on that either.
 
One of my closest friends is moving very far away and I'm super upset. I tried not to cry when he told me because I was in front a lot of people and i'm an ugly crier but I just couldn't hold it in. I'm really going to miss him.
 
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I've been trying to find a specific version of Shame and Scandal in the Family, no luck on that either.
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Good luck, I hate looking for more or less known versions like that aaa. It was the same with a version of "Killing me Softly" I looked for way back, I had the (Japanese) singer and the song but I couldn't find it :/
 
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I stabbed myself under my nail when cleaning at work today. ITS BLEEDING AND PAINFUL I HATE IT
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I've done that while washing dishes and my thumb is still ****ed lol. Well I got a pair of scissors with the sharp ends thru the other thumb soooo rip xD
 
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