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Sorry to hear that. I was very tomboyish growing up (still love sports!), and never identified with cultural female behaviors. But I don't really hate being born female. There are times where I lament it, but overall, I'm fine with it. For one, I have fewer responsibilities; I can stay at home, whereas if a man stayed at home, his masculinity would be questioned. And I actually don't have to worry about sexual matters...my appearance was always nerdy and tomboyish, so men have always left me alone, or occasionally insulted my appearance. I do have an amazing husband who thinks I'm cute, though 
Firesquids
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There are definitely times in my life I wish I was a male. The way our society treats women is ridiculous, did you know (in the US) we couldn't even vote until the 70s? Many women are treated even worse across the world today.
The best advice I can give you is don't get stuck thinking you aren't allowed to do something just because you're female. People are going to be judgemental, but it really doesn't matter what they think. Women can like sports, and fixing cars, and video games, and just as easily as guys can like dolls, and make up, and high heels. Please don't be ashamed to follow your dreams because of what others might think of you, things you're passionate about are going to be the most important things in your life. Also men can be weak emotionally too, that has nothing to do with gender, it's just more socially acceptable for women to be viewed as emotional than a man is so men tend to hide their feelings more.
If you love something (or sombody) scream it from the rooftops! You'll find the people who accept you as you are, are going to be the only ones who ever mattered.
The best advice I can give you is don't get stuck thinking you aren't allowed to do something just because you're female. People are going to be judgemental, but it really doesn't matter what they think. Women can like sports, and fixing cars, and video games, and just as easily as guys can like dolls, and make up, and high heels. Please don't be ashamed to follow your dreams because of what others might think of you, things you're passionate about are going to be the most important things in your life. Also men can be weak emotionally too, that has nothing to do with gender, it's just more socially acceptable for women to be viewed as emotional than a man is so men tend to hide their feelings more.
If you love something (or sombody) scream it from the rooftops! You'll find the people who accept you as you are, are going to be the only ones who ever mattered.
watercolorwish
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I used to wish I was a girl all the time when I was little lol. When I was 7 I told my mom “I think I was born in the wrong body” because at the time, being 7, thats all i could say with limited vocabulary to describe how it felt and how out of place I felt as a boy. I mostly just remember her telling me that it’s okay and we talked about how it’s possible I’d be happier as a girl. That memory has lingered in the back of my head since and I definitely have some form of gender dysphoria. Still figuring myself out i guess. Only recently I started using they/them pronouns in an attempt to present myself as nonbinary since it’s what makes me most comfortable in my body and feels less like a flesh prison
TheSillyPuppy
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Hey, no need at all to apologize or feel guilty for having feelings. Suffering is a universal experience, regardless of whatever background one comes from.
To answer your question, I have definitely imagined what life would be life if I was male. I've never been particularly interested in fashion and makeup (personally, I think women's money is just too easy for companies that produce those types of products to grab). I question the benefit, if any, of companies having quotas reserved for females; it really sucks having your skills questioned by male peers who think you only got a certain job/internship because of your sex. Dealing with a period every month is a hassle, even though I know it being regular is a sign of good health. I always have to make sure I'm with at least one other trusted person if I go out at night (pre-covid). The thought of having to put my career on pause to have children in the future gives me a lot of anxiety. I could go on and on, heh.
At the same time, though, --and this is just going off personal observations--it sucks that men feel pressured to appear strong all the time and "can't" openly talk about their feelings. They can be seen as "less manly" if they're not into watching sports.
To build on @/Firesquid's advice, I have a very loud laugh. My mom called it "unladylike." I've never had one friend--male or female--tell me to stop laughing. As a bonus, my partner loves to tell me jokes just to hear me laugh because he says it's "cute." Be yourself, and the folks who genuinely accept your whole self will stay by your side.
To answer your question, I have definitely imagined what life would be life if I was male. I've never been particularly interested in fashion and makeup (personally, I think women's money is just too easy for companies that produce those types of products to grab). I question the benefit, if any, of companies having quotas reserved for females; it really sucks having your skills questioned by male peers who think you only got a certain job/internship because of your sex. Dealing with a period every month is a hassle, even though I know it being regular is a sign of good health. I always have to make sure I'm with at least one other trusted person if I go out at night (pre-covid). The thought of having to put my career on pause to have children in the future gives me a lot of anxiety. I could go on and on, heh.
At the same time, though, --and this is just going off personal observations--it sucks that men feel pressured to appear strong all the time and "can't" openly talk about their feelings. They can be seen as "less manly" if they're not into watching sports.
To build on @/Firesquid's advice, I have a very loud laugh. My mom called it "unladylike." I've never had one friend--male or female--tell me to stop laughing. As a bonus, my partner loves to tell me jokes just to hear me laugh because he says it's "cute." Be yourself, and the folks who genuinely accept your whole self will stay by your side.
I'm so sorry that you've been told those things and that it's led to you being uncomfortable. I am personally a female who has never regretted being born a female, but I also do not like most of the typical female things. The majority of my friends have been males because we shared more common interests. I tried being friends with other girls when I was in school, but I always felt left out because I didn't care about make-up, clothes, shopping, or the other things they would talk about. Once I stopped trying to force those types of friendships and started hanging out with people who shared my interests, regardless of what gender they were, I felt much better.
I know it can be hard, but you should really just try to be yourself (and you may still be figuring out who that is, which is okay too) and not worry about whether you're being feminine or masculine. I'm sure whoever you are will turn out to be a wonderful person and just ignore those who try to force gender norms on us. Each person is an individual. That is all.
I know it can be hard, but you should really just try to be yourself (and you may still be figuring out who that is, which is okay too) and not worry about whether you're being feminine or masculine. I'm sure whoever you are will turn out to be a wonderful person and just ignore those who try to force gender norms on us. Each person is an individual. That is all.
DinosaurDumpster
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All the time. Even as a 6yo kid I HATED being a girl. I'm transmasculine, so it bothers me more than it normally should.
It also sucks because the 99% of my family doesn't even know i'm trans (only my chill sister who supports me knows out of my entire family). Calling me by my dead name, buying me girly clothing, going to girl's church activities instead of the boy ones, etc.
I'm always often thought of as a girl and liking rainbows, unicorns, make-up, and all that stereotypical girly stuff. It drives me insane. (although i do like rainbows because...well, gay.)
I've always hated wearing dresses. Never once in my life have I said a piece of clothing is cute (nor have I understood why girls say a pair of plain, black leggings is "SOO CUTE"). Prefer meme t-shirts or plain ones. Every time I go clothes shopping with my mom, she takes me to the dresses and asks me if i'd wear one of them to church (of course, I try my best not to get one). I've always wanted to wear a tuxedo.
It's really hard transitioning because of this junk. Instead of a more masculine haircut, i'm dealing with a pixie cut. I'm about 5'1, and my hands/feet are very small and I have a squeaky voice.
Will admit, though. I still like Littlest Pet Shop and other 'girly' things, but I sit a lot more on the 'masculine' side of life. But who cares, right? I'm gonna destroy gender stereotypes one day.
I know it's hard, too. Be yourself and don't care what anyone else thinks. (i'm a bad example of this, but still)
It also sucks because the 99% of my family doesn't even know i'm trans (only my chill sister who supports me knows out of my entire family). Calling me by my dead name, buying me girly clothing, going to girl's church activities instead of the boy ones, etc.
I'm always often thought of as a girl and liking rainbows, unicorns, make-up, and all that stereotypical girly stuff. It drives me insane. (although i do like rainbows because...well, gay.)
I've always hated wearing dresses. Never once in my life have I said a piece of clothing is cute (nor have I understood why girls say a pair of plain, black leggings is "SOO CUTE"). Prefer meme t-shirts or plain ones. Every time I go clothes shopping with my mom, she takes me to the dresses and asks me if i'd wear one of them to church (of course, I try my best not to get one). I've always wanted to wear a tuxedo.
It's really hard transitioning because of this junk. Instead of a more masculine haircut, i'm dealing with a pixie cut. I'm about 5'1, and my hands/feet are very small and I have a squeaky voice.
Will admit, though. I still like Littlest Pet Shop and other 'girly' things, but I sit a lot more on the 'masculine' side of life. But who cares, right? I'm gonna destroy gender stereotypes one day.
I know it's hard, too. Be yourself and don't care what anyone else thinks. (i'm a bad example of this, but still)
Firesquids
⛧Roxie of Avalar⛧
That's a tough situation, it gets a lot easier when you get a little bit older and move out!
Super glad you can confide in your sister though, she's an invaluable ally
For sure get a tux, they're a lot of fun. When I was in school I wore one to the prom. I also had a monocle and a fake mustache on. My principal hated it. He confiscated my bowler hat saying hats weren't allowed and wouldn't give it back until the next day. lol
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I’m female.
To be honest, the most feminine thing about me is that I spend hours on my hair each day when I style and whenever I dye it. I only wear track pants and shirts with sports teams on it, or sports jerseys. I wear men’s shoes. I also wear snapbacks (hats) and although females sometimes wear hats, my hair is quite short and I’m often mistaken as a guy when I wear hats. Not to mention I use men’s shampoo, men’s body wash and cologne. Although cologne is pricy so I tend to just buy AXE body spray when I’m trying to save money.
To be honest, the most feminine thing about me is that I spend hours on my hair each day when I style and whenever I dye it. I only wear track pants and shirts with sports teams on it, or sports jerseys. I wear men’s shoes. I also wear snapbacks (hats) and although females sometimes wear hats, my hair is quite short and I’m often mistaken as a guy when I wear hats. Not to mention I use men’s shampoo, men’s body wash and cologne. Although cologne is pricy so I tend to just buy AXE body spray when I’m trying to save money.
sushicatlikesart
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Not really. Sometimes I hate the things that females have to go through but not enough to wish that I wasn't a girl.
No. I am happy to be me but that doesn't mean there aren't annoyances.
However I do wish there wasn't so much drama about gender. I mean, I usually don't get along with other females. Any good female friends I've ever had were part of the lbgt community even though I am not. I just get along with them better. I don't know why. They just seem more real and relatable to me. I get along best with guys. However, it is often that the guys seem uncomfortable just because I am female. And it is just like, c'mon you can be friends and stuff without it being about romance. It is times like that I wish society had a more unisex mind set or just acknowledge we are first most just humans.
And I do hate the female clothing issue. Like, why can't we have REAL pockets on our clothes? Why does everything have to be made so thinly? You wash something twice and it already has a hole in it or the shirt is see-through. I mean the pre-teen and girl's clothing seems more practical sometimes beyond the fact they wouldn't fit lol.
I often find myself wandering into the men's section to check out their graphic T's simply because they are better quality and who doesn't like a cool picture on their shirt? Or I'll look online for unisex T-shirts.
If I wasn't so chunky, I probably would look into men's jeans just so I could have pockets. When I as a kid, I often had girl's cargo pants that had a billion pockets I would use. Not everyone likes carrying a $30 dollar bag everywhere just to carry 3 items lol.
I feel like if society (at least the one I live in) wasn't so interested in this is for girls, that is for boys, that things would be more chill and I think more people would be more accepting of themselves. I think people would be less concerned about what label they should wear to explain themselves or to find out what label they fit under.
I mean, what is the point in separating girls and boys toys in the store? I remember my grandma not letting me go into the boy's section because they were for boys, when I just wanted to look at the hot wheels. And today you have hotwheels for girls in the boy's toy section. It's like why even continue this nonsense?
However I do wish there wasn't so much drama about gender. I mean, I usually don't get along with other females. Any good female friends I've ever had were part of the lbgt community even though I am not. I just get along with them better. I don't know why. They just seem more real and relatable to me. I get along best with guys. However, it is often that the guys seem uncomfortable just because I am female. And it is just like, c'mon you can be friends and stuff without it being about romance. It is times like that I wish society had a more unisex mind set or just acknowledge we are first most just humans.
And I do hate the female clothing issue. Like, why can't we have REAL pockets on our clothes? Why does everything have to be made so thinly? You wash something twice and it already has a hole in it or the shirt is see-through. I mean the pre-teen and girl's clothing seems more practical sometimes beyond the fact they wouldn't fit lol.
I often find myself wandering into the men's section to check out their graphic T's simply because they are better quality and who doesn't like a cool picture on their shirt? Or I'll look online for unisex T-shirts.
If I wasn't so chunky, I probably would look into men's jeans just so I could have pockets. When I as a kid, I often had girl's cargo pants that had a billion pockets I would use. Not everyone likes carrying a $30 dollar bag everywhere just to carry 3 items lol.
I feel like if society (at least the one I live in) wasn't so interested in this is for girls, that is for boys, that things would be more chill and I think more people would be more accepting of themselves. I think people would be less concerned about what label they should wear to explain themselves or to find out what label they fit under.
I mean, what is the point in separating girls and boys toys in the store? I remember my grandma not letting me go into the boy's section because they were for boys, when I just wanted to look at the hot wheels. And today you have hotwheels for girls in the boy's toy section. It's like why even continue this nonsense?
As a kid I was a major tomboy and I used to say I wanted to be a boy a lot, but it wasn't because I was trans, it was because I hated the stereotypes society forced onto girls, because I didn't fit them at the time. I also used to say I wanted to be a dog lol, I was just obsessed with animals instead of pink, girly things.
Now I'm happy I was born a girl tbh. Mostly because I feel like I'd be miserable as a guy, I have a lot of feminine hobbies and interests and if I was a guy I'd probably be ridiculed for liking them. I also feel like I just wouldn't meet societies expectations for men being tough and having their emotions together (my mental health is absolutely terrible), and people would treat me way worse as a man.
Now I'm happy I was born a girl tbh. Mostly because I feel like I'd be miserable as a guy, I have a lot of feminine hobbies and interests and if I was a guy I'd probably be ridiculed for liking them. I also feel like I just wouldn't meet societies expectations for men being tough and having their emotions together (my mental health is absolutely terrible), and people would treat me way worse as a man.
ali.di.magix
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I'm female, and while I don't regret being born female and feel like a women, I do sometimes wish I was male. I've always been a "tomboy", both with my interests and the way I act. I'm somewhat interested in typical female interests, and I've always found female friends with similar interests.
Recently I've started work with a contracting company that is more or less dominated by males when it comes to gender. I've struggled to keep up with my male counterparts as they are naturally physically stronger than me. Some are also very hypersexual and I struggle to relate as an asexual lol. I also lack mechanical/practical experience compared to most. I feel like I come of as such a stereotypical, weak female. It really makes me wish I was a male sometimes, it would make my job so much easier.
Recently I've started work with a contracting company that is more or less dominated by males when it comes to gender. I've struggled to keep up with my male counterparts as they are naturally physically stronger than me. Some are also very hypersexual and I struggle to relate as an asexual lol. I also lack mechanical/practical experience compared to most. I feel like I come of as such a stereotypical, weak female. It really makes me wish I was a male sometimes, it would make my job so much easier.
I’ve always been tomboyish myself and have had many more guy friends over the years than girls.
I don’t hate being female per se (certain biological reasons sure do suck though). It’s more the fact that I hate that society has made being male or female so black and white which it really isn’t at all.
Girls are expected to be pretty dainty things that like playing with dolls and doing makeup and are often considered inferior to boys.
Boys are expected to be strong and tough and like playing in the dirt with cars and dump trucks.
In my opinion girls shouldn’t be shunned for playing in the dirt nor boys for playing with dolls. There are tons of gentle sensitive boys as well as rough and tumble girls. Gender norms are so outdated and stupid. Sure reproductive organs are different but we are all people just the same.
I really look forward to the day when gender norms die but I seriously don’t know if it will ever happen sadly.
I don’t hate being female per se (certain biological reasons sure do suck though). It’s more the fact that I hate that society has made being male or female so black and white which it really isn’t at all.
Girls are expected to be pretty dainty things that like playing with dolls and doing makeup and are often considered inferior to boys.
Boys are expected to be strong and tough and like playing in the dirt with cars and dump trucks.
In my opinion girls shouldn’t be shunned for playing in the dirt nor boys for playing with dolls. There are tons of gentle sensitive boys as well as rough and tumble girls. Gender norms are so outdated and stupid. Sure reproductive organs are different but we are all people just the same.
I really look forward to the day when gender norms die but I seriously don’t know if it will ever happen sadly.
Not really to be honest. I’m glad I was born to be a male. I will say, however, piggybacking off of what others have said in this thread, I hate how guys are expected to be the toughest and strongest of the two and to not show any emotions and be reserved. I’m not as tough and strong as some other guys and I honestly don’t care if I am or not (not that it matters anyway because I’m an experienced martial artist). I’m also high in emotional intelligence and so I show my emotions a lot more than other people do and feel things very strongly. I honestly think people who hide their emotions do so because they’re insecure to some degree. Unrelated to gender, but I also hate how tall people, especially guys, are expected to be stronger and better than others in some areas just because they’re tall. I have my weak moments too, and so when I’m having those moments and people ignore me, it hurts.
Anyway, that’s the end of my spiel. I agree that gender norms are complete bs though.
Anyway, that’s the end of my spiel. I agree that gender norms are complete bs though.
I have always wondered how different it would be to be a boy, as I never really talked about what 'girls' tend to talk about. I love sport, and i have a few close guys friends that I talk soccer with, and most of them dont seem awkward about. My girl friends though are all similar to me, we mostly talk jokes, play sports together and be good friends i guess. But my guy friends I often retreat to for mostly sport stuff, but venting too. My girl friends always think its a bit weird I vent to a guy that they think might tell everyone what i said. Though, my closest guy friend is one of the most loyal, kind and respectful people i met. He will never tell everyone about my problems or what i tell him of my personal life. He often gives straightforward feedback and is very geniune about his worries about me. This i love and its great! He isnt a simp and chooses his homies over girls and even mostly me, but i know he wouldnt he the clingy type. He also helps out with me understanding guys and people around me too haha.
Though i am glad I was born a female, idk im kinda proud of it! I want to help break the sterotypes and fill the gender gap. Even if you dont identify as a female, we should all be fighting for gender equality!
Though i am glad I was born a female, idk im kinda proud of it! I want to help break the sterotypes and fill the gender gap. Even if you dont identify as a female, we should all be fighting for gender equality!
King koopa
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Not really, I like being a boy, though I kind of want to see what it's like to be a girl for a day 
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