I absolutely love romance, and romantic gestures, and just treating my loved ones. For Valentine's this year, my first Valentine's day as someone's girlfriend or date, I wanted to go all out for my boyfriend. I bought him a small bouquet of yellow carnations, a box of tasty chocolates shaped like a heart, a cute heart balloon, a piece of real meteorite cuz he's always wanted one, AND I made reservations for us at a super cute cafe. I probably won't go this crazy every other year, but I was just so excited and I'm afraid that I've gone overboard. Do you guys think this is too much? Is it weird at this point? The only thing he knows about is the meteorite, because it was something we discussed, to make sure he got what he wanted since they aren't cheap. I can't return any of the other gifts either, and he's really excited about the reservation. He doesn't know where it is, but he knows when and that I made one for us. I just got so excited and now I'm worried guys. I know we all have mixed opinions on the holiday, but if you're someone who genuinely enjoys it, did I do too much!!!???
Anyone think it's weird for the girl in a relationship to go all out for Valentine's?
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What you did was sweet and cute, you shouldn't be worried at all! Unless you bought a useless gift worth thousands of dollars and went into debt,no you didn't go overboard.
I myself spent nearly $150 on commissions of art to give to my bf heh. :$ this is our second Valentine's day.
There's no reason a girl shouldn't be able to give gifts to her boyfriend?? It's sweet and shows you care. I love to spoil my bf any time of the year<3
I myself spent nearly $150 on commissions of art to give to my bf heh. :$ this is our second Valentine's day.
There's no reason a girl shouldn't be able to give gifts to her boyfriend?? It's sweet and shows you care. I love to spoil my bf any time of the year<3
I'm so glad to hear that, thank you! This is also his first valentines with anyone. We're a couple of late bloomers, so I wanted it to be special. Tonight I'm gonna pick a romance movie for us to watch, he likes some of them, although not all of them. We recently watched Stardust which is super cute. I wanna get him to see Warm Bodies next! He's a bit of a romantic himself, and has a slight feminine side, he enjoys some cutesy stuff and flowers from time to time, so I really think he'll be excited! I guess I was just having a few doubts. Thanks again!!! I hope you guys have a great V-Day too
Antonio
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No, it's weird if the dog went all out for valentine's. Jokes aside, both sides should do each something. As my dog always said, it takes two to make puppies. I'm just as surprised that my dog said that and that I even own a dog! I'm very lonely
As long as both of do something, that's fine. That's my thought but I like dudes so. Usually the guys go all out.
As long as both of do something, that's fine. That's my thought but I like dudes so. Usually the guys go all out.
Antonio
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No, it's weird if the dog went all out for valentine's. Jokes aside, both sides should do each something. As my dog always said, it takes two to make puppies. I'm just as surprised that my dog said that and that I even own a dog! I'm very lonely
As long as both of do something, that's fine. That's my thought but I like dudes so. Usually the guys go all out.
As long as both of do something, that's fine. That's my thought but I like dudes so. Usually the guys go all out.
AndroGhostX
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Nope... I wanted to do the same for my crush but that's not happening. Either way, I would love to give my future special someone a bouquet of roses and chocolate for valentine's day ^.^
I'm sure you will, hopefully soon! It took me literal years to share these things with anyone.... It'll come, in due time.
AndroGhostX
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I'm hoping so. I don't want to spend my whole life in love with a guy who won't love me back lol
I honestly thought that was me. My current boyfriend was that guy. He and I were close friends for years, like over 4 years now I think. And after knowing him for maybe a year and half to two years, I was smitten. I confessed to him twice over 2 years, and got rejected twice. But way later he started getting somewhat touchy during our sleepovers. As in hand holding and cuddling, and then when I got suspicious and confronted his shy butt he admitted that he was just afraid of losing me as a friend if dating didn't work out and 6 months later here we is and we so happy. It could work out for you too, honestly, I really hope it does. Falling in love with a close friend is truly magical.
I'm so glad to hear that, thank you! This is also his first valentines with anyone. We're a couple of late bloomers, so I wanted it to be special. Tonight I'm gonna pick a romance movie for us to watch, he likes some of them, although not all of them. We recently watched Stardust which is super cute. I wanna get him to see Warm Bodies next! He's a bit of a romantic himself, and has a slight feminine side, he enjoys some cutesy stuff and flowers from time to time, so I really think he'll be excited! I guess I was just having a few doubts. Thanks again!!! I hope you guys have a great V-Day too
Aww that's so cute!! You guys sound too adorable together ^-^ My bf is a sucker for romantic stuff as well
(warm bodies is a great movie!! We watched that together last year)If he's not afraid to show his feminine side, he's for sure going to love what you got for him! I hope you guys have an amazing v-day as well! <3
Nah, it?s totally fine! This is my third Valentine?s Day with my boyfriend and I?ve gone all out the past 2 years. First year I bought him a new 3DS, second year I bought him a Wii-U. Didn?t get too much this year since we moved in together and have a ton of bills lol but yea, I promise he?ll appreciate it. Of course you?ll get the ?Oh you shouldn?t have? or ?Why?d you get this much?!? But yea, seeing him happy will be totally worth it
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AndroGhostX
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That's actually very sweet! I'd be scared to lose a friend for that reason to but love is love. I actually still talk to one of my exes occassionally, just as friends. But nah, with my crush it is complicated because he isn't straight lol.
It's definitely not weird at all! I went all out on buying sweets for my boyfriend this year since it's our first Valentine's Day together. I got him a box of his favorite chocolates and all kinds of his favorite candies along with a nice handwritten love letter. It's not much, but I also bought him one of the new pokemon games for his birthday the other day so I'm pretty much too broke to get him anything big for v-day lol
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i would do the same haha
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I don't think it's weird. Though a lot of men tend to think differently, iit really depends on your date. I used to get crazy excited on valentines day making handmade stuff, drawing my own cards, buying candy and heart stuff, making special plans. It was never appreciated and I never once got anything on Valentine's Day in return. Though I have gotten things for "real" holidays like Christmas. Some men think they're too "manly" for things like that, but I bet your date will love it. It's very nice of you.
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Chicha
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Not at all, I think it's sweet! The first Valentine's is so special. I personally think as long as the couple is happy then it shouldn't really matter in the end.
If he wasn't receptive, I would suppose he'd be uncomfortable or should tell you. Either way, be sure to communicate about both of your expectations beforehand to avoid disappointment or resentment. If one person is making all the effort with nothing in return, then it becomes a one-sided relationship. In the end, you know each other best so every couple is different.
My boyfriend and I give each other things every Valentine's (or around the holiday depending on how our things get mailed in). We tend to give each other wishlists ahead of time and try to go for things equal in value. This year, he got me a giant Rowlet plush and I got him Rocket League. Instead of going out today, we'll go out this weekend due to our schedules (and we also live in an area with heavy traffic/limited parking on holidays).
So anyway, you're fine. Happy Valentine's! <3
If he wasn't receptive, I would suppose he'd be uncomfortable or should tell you. Either way, be sure to communicate about both of your expectations beforehand to avoid disappointment or resentment. If one person is making all the effort with nothing in return, then it becomes a one-sided relationship. In the end, you know each other best so every couple is different.
My boyfriend and I give each other things every Valentine's (or around the holiday depending on how our things get mailed in). We tend to give each other wishlists ahead of time and try to go for things equal in value. This year, he got me a giant Rowlet plush and I got him Rocket League. Instead of going out today, we'll go out this weekend due to our schedules (and we also live in an area with heavy traffic/limited parking on holidays).
So anyway, you're fine. Happy Valentine's! <3
