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[Croconaw]

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[Diegoboy]

There is clearly a connection between you two, but real love takes time (and a lot of work)
That warm comfy feeling you have now is not what love is, it is a small part of it. Real love is complicated yet beautiful. Olaf summarized it best when he said that Love is putting someone else's needs before your own.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I've never flirted w anyone, but that's because it always feels awkward, unnatural, and kinda cheesy/cheap to me to do stuff like that. if flirting is the way to start a close relationship then ig I'm just not meant for it lol.

still, I've felt once or twice a close platonic crush on a friend of mine whom I've known for about four years. I've never explicitly shown interest in him tho cause he's talked about being interested in others and I don't want to interfere with it. plus I feel like things would become awkward between us if I confessed anything to him (especially cause I'm aro so it wouldn't even be an actual romantic relationship). I still care abt him a lot but I'm too afraid to say anything ;w;

 

[dragonpisces69]

I've been in love with unrecruited crushes thrice so far. One was one of my friends at school who was in 1 grade lower than me (I was in 10th, as well as my last year, and he was in 9th) and with whom I played tons of Animal Crossing New Leaf back then, another was a male friend that I met on occasional weekends away and with whom I have a ton in common (we both love the Mother trilogy and Super Mario franchise, for instance), and the most recent one was a girl from daytime activities who is really a Jehovah's Witness, and thus, can sadly neither be pansexual nor have a romantic relationship with nonbinary people, both like me.

 

[SlEEPYTEARRS]

i am still in love with my girlfriend and its been six years since we got together. at first it was just a small crush (and it was only my second) but she asked me out unexpectedly. our relationship was rocky at the start, we were both still in highschool and she had a very overbearing mother who didnt let her do pretty much anything and she also hated me, but we kept going and got super close. we now live together in our own trailer and got a cat.

i would do anything for her and she has shown me the same time and time again (i have a lot of health issues and she has been there through regular doctors visits to rushes to the er mere hours before she works) we seem to really just get each other and our values line up perfectly (we both dont want children, we feel the same on important issues) we do have different interests, but we like to educate one another on them and its actually caused us both to start liking things the other already did.

the love i feel for her is unconditional at this point. when one of us breaks down the other is always there.

 

[Neb]

I’ve had countless crushes over the years, but I was only in love once. It was with an online friend I felt very close to. I kept my developing feelings a secret for months and they ended up not reciprocating. Even after a few years the friendship is still a little awkward.

The differences between that experience and normal crushes was stark. All of a sudden I no longer cared about the person’s flaws. My mood was lifted just by talking to them. It was like an extra space in my heart was reserved for this person.

I think reaching that place of “being in love” takes time. Strong infatuations can form from crushes, but those take a while to fully develop.

 

[Lightspring]

So far, I don’t think I have ever been in love. Like others I’ve had unrequited crushes on other people that were kind of intense, but since they were not reciprocated I’d just brush it off as silly infatuations.

I got my first boyfriend at 14 and broke up at 16 which is rather young, he might have thought that he loved me but I did not feel the same. Ultimately, I think that it’s important to learn to accept oneself before trying to get into a partnered relationship as it can be more harm than good with misunderstandings on both sides. I’m not too worried about love at the moment and I don’t mind waiting.

 

[Midoriya]

Yes, I’m actually in love with my SO right now and we’ve been dating for several months now. I’d say it differs from regular crushes I’ve had in the past greatly. I would normally have crushes on people but never talk to them about it and just let it go by. I’m glad I did with my SO, however, because we love each other very much and can relate to each other so much it’s ridiculous. I’ve never felt as strongly about a person in my life as I have with them. I know we’ll always have each other’s backs too, so I know it’s special. I don’t want to ever lose her and she doesn’t want to lose me either.

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

editing stuff out cuz i feel like im gonna regret opening up about it later LOL but yea ive had crushes and ive also been........in lub......for me crushes are when im infatuated with someone for a period of time and being in love is another feeling entirely that lasts for a very long time

 

[cornimer]

Yeah, I fell in love in my last year of high school, but it was pretty unhealthy. I was willing to do anything for her, and she took advantage of that (and still made me feel like I wasn't doing enough). I completely lost myself in that relationship. I hope the next time I fall in love it's with a better person and also it's not so codependent.

 

[Poppies_92]

Once in life in a 4 year long relationship. Sadly things didn't work out for having differences in opinions on having kids. Sadly we never stood friends , that's one me :/

 

[ali.di.magix]

I think I've been in love like once in my life, and even then it was a strong platonic love rather than romantic. I've truly only had one crush on someone, which was over 10 years ago. I've never intentionally flirted with anyone, mostly because I don't feel attraction of any sort or the need to do it. I'm aromantic and ace, so I find it really hard to define what love and attraction is

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I think I've been in love like once in my life, and even then it was a strong platonic love rather than romantic. I've truly only had one crush on someone, which was over 10 years ago. I've never intentionally flirted with anyone, mostly because I don't feel attraction of any sort or the need to do it. I'm aromantic and ace, so I find it really hard to define what love and attraction is

let's hope and pray that we both find someone who loves us for who we are and respects our boundaries

 

[LadyDestani]

I would say I have been in love twice, but I've had many crushes and attractions to other people. My two loves both started out as crushes or simple attraction, but they developed into love over time as we found out how much we had in common and created deeper bonds.

My first love began in high school and we were together for eight years. Things started out really good, but after a few years they gradually got worse. I believe it was because we were so young and still growing and maturing. When the relationship started, we were very much aligned with each other, but over time we grew into different people and didn't notice the divide until it was too late. Even though things ended badly and the relationship had a very negative effect on my self-esteem and mental health, I still acknowledge that at one point we were truly in love.

My second love is my husband who I have been with for almost eighteen years now. He helped pull me out of the prior relationship and rebuild my self-confidence. He loves me for exactly who I am and has never put any expectations on me to become something else.

 

[CasualWheezer]

I've had lots of crushes but I never seriously fallen in love. I have asked several people out and got rejected. Other than that, I don't have much experience with that, I've never dated anyone. But I never really dreamed about dating, living with, or marrying a specific person.

 

[Disneyfangirl23]

Only once but it didn’t end well so I don’t bother now

 

[Alienfish]

Oh yeah, most if not all ended up pretty meh though. At least I've learned some life lesson from it c;

 

[CrankyCupcake]

Once upon a time 33 years ago, I fell in love with my husband. We dated for 3 years before we decided to get married. He was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We shared common values but we were also interesting to each other because we were--and still are--very different people. He has good personality traits I don't possess; he said I thought in ways he could not. We complemented each other.

I believe the experience of "falling in love" is a combination of physical attraction, emotional resonance, and raging hormones. We were both young, lonely people when we met. Raging hormones were definitely involved.

Love is a different animal.

Love as a quality and a value isn't just about emotional reciprocity. It's also about ideas and behaviour such as trust, commitment and acceptance. As @LadyDestani has written and I quote her, "He loves me for exactly who I am and has never put any expectations on me to become something else." THIS. I would say the same thing about my own experience. It's why I'm still married to the same man even though those heady feelings of being in love are gone. My raging hormones no longer rage. Instead, there is gratitude and appreciation. And so there is still love.

I think it's totally possible to fall in love without loving or to love without falling in love. Long-term relationships, however, probably require a generous dose of rational thought and reflection because life will always throw you interesting new challenges. We've had our ups and downs. I don't know what the future brings because I'm a cynic and I still cannot say love is for ever. But I will say it's an adventure and there's still a chance that we will get through it all together.

 

[-Lumi-]

I have. Or well, I am - I’m in love with my girlfriend. It’s such a comforting feeling, and it’s so much different to all the times in the past when I tried to convince myself that I had crushes on guys or could be in love with a man.

She makes me so genuinely happy. She makes me feel safe and accepted and warm. It’s been tricky, due to my own internalized homophobia & knowing how some people will treat us, but she’s been so incredibly patient and lovely with me. She makes me laugh so hard my stomach hurt, she’ll be sweet enough to make me cry (although maybe that’s just because I’m a sap ), and she never, ever makes me feel dumb, or like I’m a bother, or like she wants me to be somebody else.

We just fit really well together and it feels so right.

In a platonic sense I love my best friend to a million pieces. If my girlfriend is the other half of my romantic heart my best friend is like the other half of my soul, lol. We just seem to get each other - I’ve known her since I was 15 or 16 I think? And I can’t imagine a life without her there. She also makes me so happy and I feel so lucky to have these two people in my life who I absolutely love - just in different ways.

It’s hard to explain it. There’s just a special feeling when it’s something more. I mean I love all my friends but the bond with my best one is definitely different. And the love I feel for my girlfriend is on a different playing field, because it’s romantic not platonic love which for me is different.

I don’t know if this makes sense but I tried my best to describe it.

 

[Jam86]

i've never been in in love or even in a relationship with anyone and i don't really want to tbh

my mum wants me to find someone to be with because she's worried i'll be lonely but i'm happy with my life as it is ^-^