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[King koopa]

Nope. I'm like seastar

 

[princess.looking.for.frog]

I have and I am in that relationship right now. This is the first time I felt real love like this, and last time I thought I felt it wasn’t the same as now.

He is such a big softie and really does the best for me. He knows I am more of an introvert and quite sensitive, and he does what he knows to accomodate for that. He knows if I don’t want to be around anyone he senses it and leaves me alone. He is a beautiful person and I feel well with him, I won’t be able to let him go <3

 

[EmeraldJourney]

I was wondering if you ever experienced love or if you were ever in love? What was it like for you, and how was it different than your regular crushes?

I met this girl at work. We work in a warehouse and we sometimes work within close proximity. About two months ago, we were working side by side and it was a slow day. I told her “It looks like you don’t have anything to do for the next hour” trying to flirt a bit. And she responds “I could stare at you for the next hour” obviously flirting back.

She always starts conversations with me about hockey which is a common interest. She told me that a player on my favorite team was her favorite player. A different coworker told me that she thinks she’s flirting with me. The girl would always find reasons to come to my area when we weren’t working closely.

We would walk together into the building and I would walk her to her car sometimes. We’ve gotten extremely close over the past couple of weeks and I’m planning on asking for her phone number.

I actually had plans to travel back in December, but I’ve cancelled them because I’ve felt a very strong connection with this girl. I hadn’t felt this way about anybody else.

You can share your experiences in the comments if you feel comfortable. I feel better writing this all out, honestly. It feels great getting it all out.

Shout it from the rooftops! as they say.. You should be happy and feel good about love, that's the point, so let it out friend

Personally, I love being in love. My partner is my absolute rock and we do everything together and talk, read, play games, cuddle and watch tv shows together. She makes me a better person, and the happiest I've ever been. We respect eachother, chat, love and like one another. She is my best friend, and my fiance.

 

[sleepydreepy]

yes and it sucked

 

[Soigne]

maybe once? started as a fwb and then naturally i ruined that and ended up alone haven’t felt anything like that since

 

[Beanz]

no, never (sadly)

 

[coldpotato]

I have been in romantic love 3 times. One of the reasons I knew it was love was because no matter how many times they hurt me, I still loved them for their good qualities and tried to put myself in their shoes and understand them. However, I learned that being in love with someone who is a toxic person and doesn't love you back is very dangerous. Every time I've been in love it was with a toxic person. I'm making as much efforts as I can to break that pattern. I do believe love can fade away over time and distance and it has with 2 out of 3 of the people I've loved romantically. The love for the third one still needs time to fade. While ideally I would like a long term partner to grow old with, I accept the reality that nothing is forever and people change and their feelings change. I wanted to believe that love lasted forever like most people like to say but time has told me otherwise.

 

[Holla]

To add to my earlier post I still haven’t found love yet, but I have recently met a guy who I really like and who seems to have great potential. I consider myself to be Demi-romantic so it’ll take some time for me to fall in love if he really is the right one for me. I have a pretty good feeling about it so far though here’s hoping.

 

[ForeverALoan]

Ive been fortunate enough to fall in love a few times.

Right now though Im actually in a really happy relationship and I think Im the happiest ive ever been : )
Ive never actually cared about someone this much and had it reciprocated in the same strength its really nice.

 

[Violet Witch]

Nope, I've never made it past the "friend zone" when it comes to guys and the ones I do know are all in relationships. I'm starting to think this aspect of my life will never happen and that I'm destined to be a spinster for life with a lot of cats instead.

 

[Antonio]

No because I don't know what love truly is. I assume it's not a certain definition.

 

[Croconaw]

As a minor update to my first post, we are actually just friends. It turns out we only had that one thing in common, and we were basically different people. I have more in common with somebody else I met at work, and I would consider her at least one of my best friends.

Things may seem perfect from an outside perspective but once you get to know them, things don’t really click, and at some point you realize you’re better off as friends.

 

[buny]

i'm in love right now
i don't think i've really been in love before that though. I did get a lot of crushes since i was a child, but it was more like admiration and wanting to get close to certain people to get to know them and be friends, and nothing more than that.

 

[Holla]

Yet another update from me, but I think I'm starting to. It's a bit complicated as I'm demi-romantic to begin with so it takes time for me to develop a close bond first which I am definitely in the process of with my boyfriend. I also have additional things slowing me down due to a previous abusive relationship but I'm working through it. The fact that my boyfriend has been extremely patient means the world to me though. I know he's in love with me so I hope after pushing past some of my barriers I can love him the same in return. There's definitely the start of something there though. I can feel it trying to reach me through all the barriers that I'm trying to break.

I really get the feeling that he is "the one" especially compared to how I felt in past relationships. I really hope that I'm right. Only time will tell.

 

[Bluelady]

Nope. But I've got to say that reading these posts has been interesting. As an aromatic asexual, the feeling of falling in love or even having a crush has always been an alien concept to me. It's like trying to understand a subject that you're not good at. No matter how many books, mangas, movies or animes that I've consumed, it doesn't click. I'm just viewing a story unfold.

Reading these candid posts is something else. So thanks for that!

 

[_Donut_]

Crushes? Yeah. Mostly during my highschool time but back then I didn't really act on them, guess I was that class clown who was too oblivious when some girls actually liked me (I found out later). 2 of those girls that I found out liked me made me feel a bit awkward because I considered them my best friends for a long time (I even lied down in the same baby crib with one of them, that's how far back we went ). I had a really hard time picturing them as anything else than my friends and I hated dealing with the whole situation :/ eventually I grew apart from one but I'm still best friends with the other at age 25 and we still take trips&hangout to this day. I guess in highschool my main experiences with love was either being the guy uninterested in the whole concept & oblivious to it or the guy that started freaking out when something became serious.

Just after highschool there was 1 girl I met at a party with who I started texting and we really hit it off but my stupid teenage ass kinda screwed things up by getting too serious too soon. There was a final date after that though but it was one of the most awkward ones I've had where she forgot to tell me we weren't going alone but she actually brought an entire group of friends who I didn't knew and I just wanted to go home after that...

After highschool I've really thrown myself into my worklife, didn't go to many parties/gatherings anymore and had to live on different continents for occasions. Because of that, I've hardly had any serious relationships up till now, just random dates but I don't think I've actually felt that "real love" feeling anymore ever since. I'm still open for it but not actively searching to find it right now. I might have my quirks but I believe I can be a loving bf for someone someday, I'm just letting that day find its way to me...life's not a race

 

[Mimi Cheems]

I'm not exactly sure... My first 'love', with my first boyfriend, I'm pretty sure was just an obsession. I thought I loved him, but we were in a LDR and barely saw each other because he was always working and I lived so far away and didn't make much money. I would've done anything for him but now looking back... after everything he's done to me, it wasn't worth it at all.. He rarely made me feel special and never did anything of significance for me... :") I was always the one giving, I never received anything from him.

Second partner, so my most recent, I think I loved him. He's since moved on (far too quickly to my surprise), I'm happy for him but at the same time part of me is really sad. I only want whats best for him, and if I'm not what's best, I want him to find someone who is, y'know? It hurts soooo bad, but I want him happy. Even if I'm unhappy because of it. He made me feel so special... he still does. I'm happy just being his friend at this point. And I honestly think that's what is best for us now... :'c
My stepbrother says if I have to say 'I think', then I probably didn't love him, but if it wasn't love... then what is it?

 

[VanitasFan26]

I was never in love and I just have to accept the fact that I will be single which is fine with me. I just learned that I am just better off being single. Since my social skills are so weak and I cannot interact with most people in real life and because I had to put up so much toxic people in my life I just learn I have to be myself and do whatever makes me feel happy. Throughout my life I was told that "You need to have a girlfriend or else you will be lonely" but I realize that message is so outdated by today standards. I found out that there are people out there who choose to be single and they are happy for themselves which is okay.

Of course with me since I'm autistic sometimes being single can be really good but a little lonely. I will have a day where I am just by myself just enjoying my time and not having to worry about getting into any arguments or having to be called out or made fun off by other people. However, sometimes it can feel lonely when you have no one else to speak to that understands all your struggles and respects you for who you are. That is very rare for me because it just doesn't happen to me in real life, but I realize that there are some people online who are like that. Then again, just like in real life its very rare for that to happen to me.

I guess being single can have its downsides too, but I am happy being single, because it makes me feel good about myself, appreciate what I have to live for in life, and of course just being around people who I know very well that respects me for who I am as a person and doesn't judge me or try to change me for the better.

 

[tomatospooks666]

the closest thing i've had to being 'in love' with someone romantically has just been fictional characters.

real people are can be difficult, and dishonest and two-faced, whereas with fictional characters i never have to deal with constantly waiting for them to respond to me or worry about them leaving me once my presence stops being convenient for them.

 

[Licorice]

Nah. I’m not sure I even know what that is tbh lol