Does anyone else do this?

[Croconaw]

Does anybody else read messages from their past? I?ve had this one ex-girlfriend where I used to go back and read our messages. It?s weird because this was a relationship I was not very proud of because she had cheated on me numerous times, and was very manipulative. It is just that sometimes I get the urge to go back and read our messages, even though we haven?t talked in forever. We don?t ever plan on talking again, but we were close at one point. Our personalities really clashed, so it was really best for us not to talk again. I?m not sure. I haven?t even looked at our messages in the longest time, but some of the things this girl has done are difficult to forget. She has cheated on me, went on dating sites when we were together, laughed at me when I was crying, and wished death on me several times. She has said very manipulative things to me, and have blamed me for all of our fights.

Is anyone else like this? Do you read messages from your former friends or your former relationships?

 

[Midoriya]

Yeah, I do sometimes. Only very rarely though, when I feel like it. I want to know why the people who wronged me did what they did, and how they think they were supposed to get away with it. There are numerous people that band together and are trying to get me to not use the internet at all, but I don’t think someone else gets to decide what someone else does with their time. If anyone’s seriously manipulative like that, they need to get a life.

 

[ali.di.magix]

Not necessarily from former friendships. Former friendships aren't really worth my time, so I try not to dwell on them. Sometimes I may revisit conversations with conflict in them if I feel like there's something I may have misinterpreted or something I might have said that had came out the wrong way, but usually my strategy with stuff like that is to forget, put it in the back of my mind and move on lol. On a more positive note, if I'm in a particularly close relationship with someone and I have memorable moments that either make me feel warm and happy, I like re-reading those conversations especially when I'm feeling down

 

[EpicGamer12]

sounds like you might need psychological help if you're dwelling on abusive relationships

 

[Loriii]

I'd try to keep the conversation if given the chance because I feel like being sentimental at times haha or I do that just to rub it in their faces if they say things differently like if they lie to me that they didn't say those kind of things in the past lol

 

[dizzy bone]

Almost never for sentimental reasons but whenever I need to win an argument or something :’D

 

[Lemonsky]

While I don't read messages from former relationships or stuff like that, I browse through my old forum posts quite often. I'm not completely sure why though, maybe to feel embarrassed for my younger self.

 

[Romaki]

No, most of those don't exist anymore. But I love reading my old forum posts.

 

[Nuclear Bingo]

Actually, no. I simply have no interest

 

[hestu]

Nope, I just delete messages from exes and ex-friends and move on.

 

[primandimproper]

Nah, dude, that's a path I don't wanna go down. I've got enough stuff to worry about without dwelling on past drama.

 

[Soigne]

I delete past conversations once I'm done with the person I'm talking to. I don't need to be reminded of past pain. I keep my messages pretty clear, but perhaps that's more of a byproduct of OCD than anything else.

 

[Lady Timpani]

I used to be bad about this, but like others have said, I’ve started deleting all the old conversation threads and stuff so I don’t feel sad lmao. Maybe if this were like ten or fifteen years in the future, it’d just be nostalgia “oh look how good friends we were!” but since it’s so close I just can’t see it that way. It only feels like loss to me.

 

[Tao]

I only really go back into past conversations looking for a specific thing, like the name or something or an idea for something.

Otherwise I don't care what was said in the past and it's better not to dwell on that crap, especially with people I don't actually talk to anymore.

 

[ESkill]

I only go back and re-read texts with my mom because they're usually funny and it's nice to remember that stuff, I only revisit things I have fond memories of. I plan on saving convos with my family so I have something to remember when they're gone.

 

[Bosmer]

Nope unless I need to for a specific purpose such as remembering those who were close to me who're gone, but anything from my exs and people I don't talk to anymore I don't really keep.

 

[boring]

From late 2016 to mid 2017 I had this amazing group of friends.... now I only talk to one of those people who I ended up dating , but I regularly go through our old groupchats and think bout the belonging I felt in that group. That's not to say I don't have amazing friends now but it's nice to remember when it wasn't just 2 of us and it was 10 of us

 

[Midoriya]

I can safely say that since my first post on this thread, I don’t look back at old conversations anymore, nor do I care. My response from here on out is simply to forgive, but not to forget.

 

[Loubelle]

I do that to one specific friend because of how poorly she treated me at the time. I don't speak to her too much, and I suppose we're on good terms right now, but sometimes I look back at them. I'm not totally sure why I do that though. Normally, reading our old conversations makes me angry for how she behaved, and for how I just let her do it :/ Maybe I look back at them because only now do I realize what was happening, and how I can/ would respond to a similar situation in the future. I might also read old messages of friends that I had a lot of fun with, but then kind of stopped talking to. It reminds me of good times I had with the person, and may even be a push to reach out to them again

 

[Dormire]

No because I will be reminded on how much of a dog I am and was blinded with love literally brushing off the mistreatment my exes did. My girl exes were more of my problem so I tend to be regretful with my actions but I think my bad luck with male partners is my karma for being the worst partner to my female ones lol.