I don't know what's wrong with me, but I have a really hard time fitting in everywhere I go. Making friends is next to impossible for me, because I can't really connect with anyone. I try really hard, but it's like there's a wall between me and the other person. This is a problem I face both in real life and online. I even try to find people I share similar interests with, but I still can't seem to find a place to fit in.
Yeah I know how you feel. I always feel like the most obscure person on the entire forum no matter where I go. A few people have talked to me but I always get too anxious to the point where I never talk to them again after. Sometimes I try to convince myself that I don't need any friends to be happy in life, but I know deep down that is a lie. I'm just not sure what to do at this point anymore actually.
story of my life. i look older than i actually am, im overweight, acne everywhere and making friends is something extremely hard for me with my constant anxiety and paranoia, and my trust issues
It's crazy how many people are like this. I have a pretty easy time getting along with people and they usually think I'm funny but I don't feel connected at all. I have a few friends irl but we don't have anything in common. I'm 23 and I still don't feel like I belong anywhere.
when i was in school i chose not to have any friends and just get on with things, but after a while it got boring so i tried to talk to people. i didn't make any friends in my year group although i got along with a lot of them, they just weren't the right people for me
i always got along and were friends with kids who were older than me, so i guess that worked out
i force myself to fit in, i had a hard time fitting in when i was younger but apparently my sense of humor is funny and i'm nice so i make friends pretty easily. i'm a ride or die person ya know.
Nope. I am a very easygoing and friendly person. ^^ I have a lot of friends and I don't fit into one group because my friends all are in different groups. ^^ I'm super duper friendly, so if anyone wants to talk just leave me a PM or VM
I can never seem to make it pas the small talk phase. Any friends I used to have online who I was close too I have drifted apart from. It's in issue in real life too, I just feel so awkward and also expect to be excluded etc, and I can't even get on with most people who share common interests with me...
Sort of. But that's because I used to be very shy and quiet and I never MADE an effort to fit in. I think for me, I just realised, hey, I'm going to keep sticking out and feeling isolated if I don't make an effort to befriend people, to actively go out and spend time with people. I have not really had a proper "friendship group" since secondary school but I definitely feel a lot more confident now. If you keep maintaining this mindset "I'm never going to fit in", then you will start to expect that, and you will look for small pieces of evidence to convince yourself you don't. Instead you need to tell yourself you CAN, and you need to find ways in which you can make friends and become part of groups. It's not hard, and you really don't need to overthink anything. If you want to talk to someone, then just go ahead and do it, if you see someone in a lesson and you think you'd like to sit next to them, just go up to them, ask "is this seat taken?" and sit next to them. People won't judge you if you're being friendly and kind, and IF they do, shame on them, it only makes them look bad, not you.
