Giving Free Stuff away but people still tip?

[iamjohnporter67]

Okay so I think I'm pretty confused right now. I was giving a lot of stuff for free but I see people tipping me even though I told them they didn't have to do it The thing is a lot of time I see people tipping even though the person who was giving out free stuff didn't ask for any tips or fees. I guess people do it because they "feel bad" about taking stuff for free and they want the other person to feel fulfilled. Like I said I do giveaways myself but then I see people giving me bells, nmts or anything else when they didn't have to because I never asked for them, I just wanted to make people happy. Maybe I'm missing something?

 

[Mr_Persona]

People also do it as a thank you gift for the free stuff. I would get tips or sometimes a random collectible. It's not a problem, but if they give too much like beyond 5 tbt, l would send the extra back. But mostly l would also just normally say "for free, no tbt"
Anyways it's a nice thing that people do.

 

[iamjohnporter67]

People also do it as a thank you gift for the free stuff. I would get tips or sometimes a random collectible. It's not a problem, but if they give too much like beyond 5 tbt, l would send the extra back. But mostly l would also just normally say "for free, no tbt"
Anyways it's a nice thing that people do.

Yeah when you say "too much" thats the issue I have. I mean they don't have to do it but its like they feel forced to do it for some reason.

 

[Mr_Persona]

Yeah when you say "too much" thats the issue I have. I mean they don't have to do it but its like they feel forced to do it for some reason.

well you can just say "thank you for your kindess but l can't take this much" and just let them know that you will send most of it back. kinda keep things even.

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[Roxxy]

I think people feel embarrassed at just taking things for free and it’s a nice way to say thank you. I know how you feel about making people happy. It is a nice feeling. I also know that although I appreciate kindness so much, I couldn’t take something for nothing.

 

[iamjohnporter67]

well you can just say "thank you for your kindess but l can't take this much" and just let them know that you will send most of it back. kinda keep things even.

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trust me that will understand

Well I try to say that to them but then they tell me "no no I insist you keep it" and I am just "well okay then...." it just comes off as "awkward" to me. Like I want to be happy but at same time it just feels weird.

 

[Korichi]

I guess they just want to thank you for your kindness! I see it as a kindness for a kindness. Also as other users have said here, it’s really common to feel bad for taking stuff for free so I guess they want to give you an equivalent exchange!

 

[FlimsyAxe]

If I'm giving something away and don't want tips, I just phrase it agressively like "I will end session for anyone attempting to tip" lol. It's an empty threat and I dont actually end the session but from my experience, the stronger you word it, the less likely they are to tip.

 

[coldpotato]

It's just a sweet thing to do. I used to get slightly annoyed with people doing this when giving away things since I will hardly ever use the bells or NMT they give me and I'd rather they keep them, but after giving away things and having people try to wreck my island/steal from me I learned to appreciate the people who tip way more lol.

 

[Xara]

like @Mr_Persona said, a lot of people do it to say “thank you”, including me. while i don’t take up offers of free stuff very often, i almost always will tip, not because i feel bad but because i want to show my appreciation beyond just saying “thank you”. still, if receiving tips makes you uncomfortable (which i completely understand; i’m honestly the same way lol),
you could always include in your post that you’d much rather not receive any tips.

i’ve also seen some people give away free stuff and instead of asking for regular tips (bells, tbt, nmt, etc), they ask everyone to extend that kindness to someone else in some way (ex. giving someone else something for free). that way, you hopefully won’t feel awkward and other people might be benefited, too

 

[iamjohnporter67]

like @Mr_Persona said, a lot of people do it to say “thank you”, including me. while i don’t take up offers of free stuff very often, i almost always will tip, not because i feel bad but because i want to show my appreciation beyond just saying “thank you”. still, if receiving tips makes you uncomfortable (which i completely understand; i’m honestly the same way lol),
you could always include in your post that you’d much rather not receive any tips.

i’ve also seen some people give away free stuff and instead of asking for regular tips (bells, tbt, nmt, etc), they ask everyone to extend that kindness to someone else in some way (ex. giving someone else something for free). that way, you hopefully won’t feel awkward and other people might be benefited, too

Well its not like I want to take "advantage of people" thats not what I want to do. I mean don't misunderstand its not like I'm "Taking advantage" of them its just that they do it because they want me to feel good about it. Idk why this bothers me so much. I spoke to my friend about it and he told me that people do it because when other people say things like "Tips appreciated" is the reason why people feel spoiled to tip which is why he thinks that those are people are the reason why people who "tip" as a way of pressuring people to do so. To that I just say You should never free pressured to Tip. You are in control on you want to do it. Its not like somebody is pointing a gun to your head and saying "BETTER TIP OR ELSE" I mean I see people try to say "Tips are optional" which means that you don't have to do it if you don't want to and thats fine, nobody should be upset if you don't tip them. If they try to guilt trip you into tipping thats their problem and it shows their greed. Its a common issue I see people do all the time and It rubs me the wrong way. Thats all I'm saying.

 

[Xara]

Well its not like I want to take "advantage of people" thats not what I want to do. I mean don't misunderstand its not like I'm "Taking advantage" of them its just that they do it because they want me to feel good about it. Idk why this bothers me so much. I spoke to my friend about it and he told me that people do it because when other people say things like "Tips appreciated" is the reason why people feel spoiled to tip which is why he thinks that those are people are the reason why people who "tip" as a way of pressuring people to do so. To that I just say You should never free pressured to Tip. You are in control on you want to do it. Its not like somebody is pointing a gun to your head and saying "BETTER TIP OR ELSE" I mean I see people try to say "Tips are optional" which means that you don't have to do it if you don't want to and thats fine, nobody should be upset if you don't tip them. If they try to guilt trip you into tipping thats their problem and it shows their greed. Its a common issue I see people do all the time and It rubs me the wrong way. Thats all I'm saying.

i know you’re not trying to take advantage of anyone, don’t worry aha. like i said, i don’t think most people tip because they feel obligated to but instead, they want to say thanks in a way other than just saying “thank you”; they want to show their appreciation for your time and your kindness. but again, your feelings are perfectly valid and as someone who never knows how to respond to being tipped, i completely understand your discomfort and why this bothers you. like i said, when giving stuff away, you could always mention in the thread that you’re not accepting tips or even go the “pay it forward” route that i mentioned. there’s no harm in not wanting to be tipped and you are absolutely allowed to say no.

i definitely agree that some people can be greedy when it comes to tips; from large mandatory tips to tips being mandatory in general, those instances aren’t really for ‘free’ stuff, anymore, and i can understand why that bothers you; i don’t think you’re like that at all, though. your intentions seem very pure and from what you’ve said on this matter, you don’t seem greedy at all and are incredibly kind. ^^

 

[litilravnur]

My personal case: Most of the time when I make a post or enter a giveaway is because there are items I've been looking for a while and I haven't been able to find or I need them asap. When somebody offers them for free, I feel the urge to tip as a "thank you" present because I'm happy I finally found the items or for the troubles I may cause to the other person (like have to adjust to my schedule since I have to work and I don't have access my console until I get home, multiple travels to sell turnips or something like that)

Feels like is the least I can do to thank people's kindness and patience

 

[Mairen]

You are giving things away without asking for anything in return because it brings you happiness to do so. It's the same concept for the people who are leaving you thank yous in the form of gifts or money. They arent asked to do it, they are doing it because it makes them happy to.

I'm honestly a little confused as to why you seem uncomfortable with kindness being repaid with kindness, I think it's a beautiful concept really. No one is asking anything of either side, yet people are freely giving and spreading some love around.

You are allowed to say "no tips necessary", but after that, it's really up to the other person. If they freely choose to repay your kindness, it shouldn't be too challenging to see as a good thing.

 

[iamjohnporter67]

You are giving things away without asking for anything in return because it brings you happiness to do so. It's the same concept for the people who are leaving you thank yous in the form of gifts or money. They arent asked to do it, they are doing it because it makes them happy to.

I'm honestly a little confused as to why you seem uncomfortable with kindness being repaid with kindness, I think it's a beautiful concept really. No one is asking anything of either side, yet people are freely giving and spreading some love around.

You are allowed to say "no tips necessary", but after that, it's really up to the other person. If they freely choose to repay your kindness, it shouldn't be too challenging to see as a good thing.

To answer your question why I feel uncomfortable. There was a time I was giving away free furniture and someone was giving me 20 nmts even though I said I didn't want anything in return but the person was like "no take it I insist" so to avoid any argument I just accepted it. Thats why I felt uneasy about it. Kinda feels like they were pressured into doing it. Don't misunderstand its not like I am mad or upset about it its just that I don't feel like its necessary to tip when you're given something for free. I see it differently so while I do get what you're saying about how its a nice thing to do people still do it despite the fact I keep saying "Tips are not required". Thats the issue I have.

 

[dizzy bone]

I give tips for free stuff sometimes, especially if it's something time consuming, or if I enjoyed the interaction with the host, or if I've been searching for something for a while and I finally got it. But I usually tip in the form of TBT to avoid awkward interactions in-game. I don't have much to offer in-game anyways. Of course, I'm definitely not looking for anything when I host things for free, but I personally do like to tip a little if I enjoy the service. Even for trades that I pay for I like to tip extra if I know they stayed up late for the trade or waited a while, etc. But in general, if they say no tip required I don't feel compelled or feel bad into tipping, especially fast interactions. The only time I feel a bit uncomfortable is when I visit an island in a big group (eg. for turnips, celeste, etc.) and someone tips and I didn't bring anything