I'm having a really bad evening tonight and I'm in tears because I'm so upset with myself.
I deal with Social anxiety and on top of that I'm a person who's labelled with aspergers. It's very difficult for me to express myself to other people. Like I tend to say things a certain way than others may take what I said the wrong way and assume I'm just being rude, immature, or ignorant. That's NOT the case! It gets even more frustrating when I try to explain myself to others but they don't bother to listen to me and pass judgement on me. Most people don't understand what it's like to have social anxiety or don't know what aspergers is either. People like us express our emotions in a different way than most people do. We can't help the way we are because our brains are wired differently. I'm posting this because I feel so alone right now. I can't be the only person here that struggles with this everyday. This is my first and last attempt to reach out to someone who will stop and take the time to listen.
I've been going through some rough emotions lately too. The important thing for me, is to remember that pain is a part of life.
This isn't the first time I've been in pain and it won't be the last. But it will pass. There will be happiness and joy again.
And there will be something amazing and good on the other side of this pain.
It's also important not to beat yourself up and delve into self-hate. There;s nothing wrong with you and you're an awesome person who needs to love yourself. xoxo
I deal with serious social anxiety as well... My urge is to avoid people and isolate but I know I shouldn't. The best way is to do exposure therapy to help conquer some of these difficulties, but it's tough, often unpleasant. Sorry you're having a hard time - I know how it feels to be misjudged. You know who you are.
immerse yourself into something you really enjoy, and if you can, talk to someone about it. for example last night my friend and i were both feeling down so they let me talk at them about something i like and then the other way around a bit. it can take your mind off of things bc when u love smth you get excited to talk about it.
the way i cope probably isn't the best for everyone and probably not ideal lol.
we're all here for you and a lot of us (including myself) experience the same or similar things. i can actually relate to the part you said about people misinterpreting things that you say. that happens to me sometimes (esp over text too) and it's hard to tell if it's my fault for not being clear or the other person's for misunderstanding. and i often make facial expressions and don't realize it, like last week i made a face that scared my friend and i didn't even know i was making a face. or i could say something that could be interpreted as a roast or some might consider blunt. i dont know if i have aspergers, my psychiatrist said i could relate to some symptoms but i haven't been tested (and who knows if i ever will be), but i have a handful of symptoms.
i could go on and on and on but really i'm just trying to say that you aren't alone. things can get better too. bad nights pass. bad weeks pass. bad years pass. even if it takes a while don't stop believing that things can get better.
Talk to people but make sure to talk to genuine people that you know will understand you. That or try to make yourself busy by playing or doing any of your hobbies.
I'm Autistic and deal with a lot of intense sensory issues, and I've recently been working on meditating more often, I find using grounding and mindfulness techniques help take me out of feeling bad about the way my body feels. https://app.stopbreathethink.org I'd recommend this website, it has a lot of pre-recorded meditation tracks and they are short so they are really good for people like me with bad attention spans. You can also collect stickers for reaching certain achievements, and you can track how much you are meditating and how much your mood is improving, so it's really helpful for staying motivated to continue meditating.
EDIT: I mostly use it for my sensory issues but I've also used it to calm down after emotional stress, it works good for that as well.
I frequently end up sitting on the floor and crying but that's not any good.
Sometimes I nap, sometimes I shower. Those are okay but still not the best coping mechanism. I take my medication, talk to people I trust and cuddle people I love. Those are much better.
It looks like OP was possibly banned? But I'll reply anyway.
I have anxiety and aspergers (well, autism) and I have these sorts of issues a lot. If at all possible, I simply shut everything down and go to bed and tell myself a story in my head until I fall asleep. If it's not possible to sleep, I may go for a drive, go to my favorite store, have a coffee. Just do what I can to cope really.
i think about the beautiful face and body i possess, the amazing wonderful and educated family i belong to, and all my skills and my iq of 500 and i smile
Normally I'll talk to someone online and that helps a little bit. When I'm having a depressive episode, I typically just shut down and listen to sad music (how very helpful!) or watch sad movies. I don't really talk to anyone anymore, so it feels lonely but considering I'm manic atm it doesn't bother me whatsoever. :^D
I don't always just listen to sad music or watch sad movies when I'm depressed, so sometimes I'll play a happy game and it helps immensely. Or I'll talk to my mum.
