As a woman who isn't attractive, let me tell you that a lot of those problems are problems that women of any level of attractiveness will have. I've been turned down for a LOT of opportunities because I'm not 'pretty' enough. I've also dealt with a metric ****ton of sexual harassment from guys who thought I should've been kissing their boots for being interested in someone as plain/ugly/overweight as I was. I have people constantly tell me to smile, to dress a certain way, to diet more, to exercise more, to put on more makeup/less makeup, cut my hair a certain way, etc...And almost every woman I know faces something similar.
I'm sure men face a different subset of problems too, but I'm not a man, so I wouldn't know.
I'm not a man either according to my ID.
I'm not attractive at all and have it pretty easy in general because people don't expect anything good from me anyway. It's sure that if I go to the bank or in a bar the service is less good (they don't offer me coffee or freebies) but people usually let me alone. I'm just invisible. I don't get sexually harassed at all, people ignore me, which is pretty good for me since I'm not social. About the hair, make-up, clothes, my mom is nagging me a lot but other people don't say anything, whatever I wear I still look the same, or most likely look like a bad drag queen so...(it's better not to show off ) They let me get away with anything. Plus my boss hired me because of that face, he said "I don't hire people more beautiful than me and you look pretty much inoffensive" LOL Some would take it as an insult but I found it rather funny (strange sense of humour perhaps) Also when I was photographing for a newspaper and some bands, people didn't notice me at all and didn't feel stressed out by my presence which was a quality.
But my beautiful friends have it harder than me, plenty of people want to be their friends and they feel like they can't refuse them. One of my friends is always surrounded by several men whenever she gets out, if she turns them down nicely they don't get it and stick like glue, if she tries to be firmer, they insult her. If she speaks to our male childhood friends their girlfriends get jealous and mad at her. If she get out without make-up, people think she's sick or tired. If she gains weight, everybody tell her to be careful. She can't go out in baggy clothes to fetch the mail without people commenting on her appearance. When she applied to be in the police, they told her not to waste her pretty face, people don't take her seriously.
Really I don't have those problems, I just put the trash out in a hoody covered with paint and one boot and nobody said a single thing. Men are usually scared of me, if I compliment them on their parfume or look they flee for their life. XD
I wouldn't change my face for a pretty one, I like it that way and I feel freeeeeeeeeeee!!! Not oppressed at all, but if I want service at the bank I drag my cute brother along.
My cute brother is also surrounded by a bunch of ladies fighting for his attention. And when I say "fighting" it's not figuratively. He lost some of his friends because their girlfriends were too flirty with him. When we are going to parties, people mob him while I can quietly reach the bar without being bothered, our relatives are all over him, wanting to know everything, ladies are sticking to him like flies, he attracts lot of superficial people. People also expect a lot from him, he's not allowed to fail, or to be mean, or mad. They put a lot of pressure on him. If I tell people to get lost, they just avoid me. If my brother says it, it's way more dramatic, it's not him, not after all they did for him...blablabla.. It's sure that he gets more freebies and stuff but he somehow have to pay for them.
sexual harassment from guys who thought I should've been kissing their boots for being interested in someone as plain/ugly/overweight as I was.
Yeah I heard of those people, how laughable.....No need for them to suffer, they worth more than that, you wouldn't want to ruin their life
LOL