Is our sexuality defined the moment we're born or is it influenced by our surrounding

[Sicatiff]

I've been wondering this for a while now.

 

[MozzarellaSticks]

It's a fluid spectrum. So, a bit of both.

 

[boujee]

Both
Gotta see what gets you kicking through experience

 

[Corrie]

I think you have a general idea when you are born but that can change when you actually experience things.

So both.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

Well I guess you become more aware of it the older the get and the people you're around. It's never something you choose though. I think it's always there from when you're born, then it becomes more apparent from your experiences

 

[moonford]

I believe we developed basically everything over time, however in this case I believe you're born with it however your attraction doesn't come around until a certain period in your life and then it becomes more exploited overtime/apparent like someone mentioned before.

 

[tumut]

I think it's more based on your social upbringing and not really a genetic thing or something your born with.

 

[N a t]

I also think it's a bit of both. :I

 

[Fleshy]

I don't think that it's influenced by your surroundings so to speak, nor do I personally believe that it's defined at birth, I see it as something that ...develops, I guess. Just like pretty much everything else when we age. That being said, I don't at all think it's something that we have control over or can consciously change.

 

[Bowie]

Lady Gaga's album Born This Way has a belief system that, though you are not necessarily born with things like tattoos or piercings or sometimes sexuality, you were ultimately born to become the person you end up being, so in a way, you were born this way, but it just takes a little for for your sexuality (or in Gaga's case, her horns) to show.

That album helped me a lot with figuring out my sexuality, and I think that's the biggest lesson it has taught me. We're all born this way, but it takes time to realise it.

 

[seliph]

Considering we're surrounded by straight couples and heteronormativity in the media I really doubt it's something that's "influenced"

 

[ams]

Definitely both. Even if you believe it's 100% genetically inherited epigenetics plays a role even when inheritance patterns are obvious (which of course isn't the case with sexuality).

 

[Bunnilla]

I think that you are born with whatever you have, be it a male or female, and your personality and upbringing defines who you are, or your genes as well.

pls don't kill me x.x

 

[Envy]

I have a hard time seeing how something like sexual orientation could have anything to do with environment. It's comes completely from natural urges. I think it has something to do with hormonal distributions in the body somewhere down the line.

 

[Celestefey]

Not sure. No one CHOOSES their sexuality though. No one wakes up one day and decides to become gay or bisexual. For me it was something that I just realised, I didn't choose to be that way because you can't really help who you are attracted to really. I had always kind of liked girls too but never had the "realisation" that I was bi until I was a teenager. It's something that develops, it's more like a process than anything. It's something that comes with maturity I suppose! You don't really experience proper romantic or sexual attraction until you are older so it's then that you start to figure out.

 

[KarlaKGB]

i was born a memer

 

[Torterraxe]

I feel like it's a mix of both (basically repeating what everyone else said)

I remember being three, out in the backyard next to the pool, screaming, "I'M A BOY! I'M A BOY! I'M A BOY!!" But my parents always told me I was a girl and I wouldn't accept it. I still don't, at least not fully. And I know that the story I just told is about gender, not exactly sexuality, but it still relates to it.

 

[Samansu]

I would say at birth personally. I think there is some room for minor changes to your attractions as you grow and mature, but in general I would say you don't have a choice. You are born how you are! ^-^

 

[Elov]

I wouldn't say you are born with it necessarily. But it isn't a conscious choice either. All sexuality is, is a personal preference. Did you consciously choose to like and dislike certain food? Did you consciously choose to like and dislike certain music? No!! Literally your favorite foods are the types of foods that tasted amazing to you. You don't know why it tastes amazing to you, and meh to someone else. It just does! It's something you have no control over! Same goes for sexuality.

 

[HungryForCereal]

honestly, idk. but judging from all the posts, we're born with it. its not there at first but it starts to develop as you grow older and you have no choice of choosing?