Is our sexuality defined the moment we're born or is it influenced by our surrounding

[oath2order]

Born with it, you just actually discover what it is as you grow up. You'll have an easier time discovering your sexuality depending on your surroundings though.

 

[Eline]

I think it's a little bit of both. I think you probably have some of this preference from birth, but it develops through experiences and our surroundings.
I think this fits right into the nature/nurture discussion, if you know what I mean by that

 

[Millefeui]

I am of the belief that sexuality as well as gender come from birth.

 

[nintendofan85]

I think it's some of both, but mostly our surroundings.

 

[Antonio]

I believe it starts as the moment you are born but certain things or stuff you're influenced by your surroundings could possibly change your sexuality.

 

[Buttonsy]

I mean... gender is a social construct so I can't really see how we're inherently born with attraction to specific genders if it's a learned construct and not really an inherent thing, but that being said, I don't think it's those stereotypical things like "oh she's a lesbian because she played with boys too much" or "he's bi because he played with Barbie's that one time" or "they're not straight because they have too many gay friends and they influenced them" or any of that nonsense that people like to make up. TBH, I don't know why people have different sexualities, and I don't really care, everyone should be free to define themselves how they see fit and love who they fall in love with.

 

[nintendoanna]

you're definitely born with it, but i think people realize it due to their surroundings

 

[dierefuji]

somewhat both-- you're born inherently bisexual with leanings towards one side or another, but how you grow up also heavily dictates which side you're more attracted to and/or which side is repressed

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

I mean... gender is a social construct

i personally don't believe that. genders are not a fun game; you can't just jump from gender to gender while people are suffering from gender dysphoria.
on the subject though, probably a little bit of both. most people learn to grow up to be straight: boy and girl is the main romantic interest in movies, people assume you're straight, a lot are brainwashed that thinking that it's a sin (none of them are homophobic except the last point) so that's environmental, and why more people are straight than gay.
but, you're probably born with your feelings - it depends on how you develop in life.

 

[hamster]

pok?mon: gotta catch all the genders!

 

[windloft]

my belief is that your sexuality is determined by both birth and surroundings. i grew up believing that i was only into boys, but as i grew up i started to grow a huge attraction towards girls. although my current situation doesn't let me experiment with my sexuality, i'm at least trying my best to understand who i prefer.

 

[idiotdoomspiral]

pok?mon: gotta catch all the genders!

but charmanders don't go "squirtle squirtle!" demi