LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[sheepie]

I dislike how my family and friends, after telling them I'm pan, assume I'm 'straight and confused.' Ugh.

And I have a question (that hopefully someone knows the answer to) ;
I don't like to use labels strictly, however this has been bothering me. I've identified as pansexual for quite a while now and I'm noticing that I do have certain preferences, although I am open to 'anything.' Does that make me poly rather than pan? My friend thinks yes. I'm just curious to know.

 

[Naiad]

I dislike how my family and friends, after telling them I'm pan, assume I'm 'straight and confused.' Ugh.

And I have a question (that hopefully someone knows the answer to) ;
I don't like to use labels strictly, however this has been bothering me. I've identified as pansexual for quite a while now and I'm noticing that I do have certain preferences, although I am open to 'anything.' Does that make me poly rather than pan? My friend thinks yes. I'm just curious to know.

Polysexual means you only like certain genders.
For example, someone who will engage in relationships with anyone but ____

Pansexual means you're open to engaging in relationships with anyone.

Preferences are preferences. Everyone has them. For example, I prefer females over males. I still like/will engage in relationships with males, I just like females more.

 

[sheepie]

Polysexual means you only like certain genders.
For example, someone who will engage in relationships with anyone but ____

Pansexual means you're open to engaging in relationships with anyone.

Preferences are preferences. Everyone has them. For example, I prefer females over males. I still like/will engage in relationships with males, I just like females more.

Ahh, I understand now!
I suppose my friend was wrong. Thank you for helping ^ ^

 

[Fhyn_K]

I dislike how my family and friends, after telling them I'm pan, assume I'm 'straight and confused.' Ugh.

And I have a question (that hopefully someone knows the answer to) ;
I don't like to use labels strictly, however this has been bothering me. I've identified as pansexual for quite a while now and I'm noticing that I do have certain preferences, although I am open to 'anything.' Does that make me poly rather than pan? My friend thinks yes. I'm just curious to know.

I don't necessarily have an answer that will satisfy your question but I do share your sentiment that labels, while great for guidelines, are not the best towards truly identifying yourself. Really though, it's non of their damn business what you are haha.

 

[tsantsa]

seriously im to young to decide what i am, but i would like to say that i have no problem with people being lgbtqa,its your life, and if you love someone the same gender as you, where is the problem?. i kinda feel like when people say you cant be gay because its against my religon, is like saying to someone, sorry you cant eat that pizza because im on a diet. if you get what i mean

 

[MrFrond]

I'm pleasantly surprised there's a thread like this on a forum about a cute, little animal game. It makes me so happy to find a forum where people maturely discuss this type of thing. Discovering your identity and preferences is confusing, so it's nice there's a little thread dedicated to the subject.
I, myself, have identified as pansexual for a good portion of my life...Ever since I discovered the term, really. Somewhere around fourteen or fifteen, I believe? Earlier this year, I came out as a trans man. It just feels right to me. There was a time from 16-17 where I identified as a guy named Austin online, and I felt the most comfortable with myself during those years. Sadly, I hooked up with a guy that manipulated me into thinking I was just deceiving people by "pretending to be a boy" so I dropped it. I also grew up in a hostile, homophobic environment living under the roof of my legal guardians. Whenever any subject regarding LGBTQA+ was brought up, there was no doubt I'd hear some bigoted remark. It was safer just to stay closeted until I was out on my own. My legal guardians still have no idea, and I don't intend to ever tell them.
Anyways, despite dysphoria popping up here and there, I can safely say that I feel tons more comfortable with myself now that my identity feels a little bit clearer to me. I know labels don't make you, but finding some that I think fit me has helped a lot to know myself. I'm pretty lucky, all things considered. My appearance has never been all that feminine, so the transition is going along pretty well aside from me voice and...OBVIOUS things!
Anyways, I'm sorry to blabber on so much. I've never really touched on the topic.
I hope everyone here has an okay time with discovering themselves. There's nothing wrong with jumping between labels and identities. It takes a while to discover your identity.

 

[Heartcore]

"maturely discuss"

*Looks at camera like I'm in the Office*

 

[MrFrond]

Well, judging from the most recent page it seemed pretty tame. Way too many posts to sift through and gain a proper opinion. Sorry for being wrong. It's a touchy subject with many differing opinions, so it's likely it won't always be peaceful in the thread oooor whatever happened here.

 

[radical6]

theres this hot girl at my school and my friend is bffs with her, so i asked if the hot girl was gay and my friend replied "i know her sexuality, but im not telling" so im like she gay

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

I've often considered a poly-amorous relationship but I love my boyfriend far too much to engage in one. I do however miss girls a lot. Sadly I have never been able to really have a "relationship" with a girl. Technically I had one girlfriend but she was more so my best friend with benefits. We did go out and stuff but it wasn't a real relationship? It's hard to explain. But I kind of wish I had more opportunities to date other people besides just men. I am in no way saying I am unhappy with my boyfriend, because he is undoubtedly my soul mate and I intend to marry him and spend my life with him.

 

[Mercedes]

Is it ok sometimes I feel like I was susposed to be a boy?

 

[oath2order]

Is it ok sometimes I feel like I was susposed to be a boy?

yes yes it is ok

 

[Yeosin]

Is it ok sometimes I feel like I was susposed to be a boy?

That's 100% okay. For a while I was confused, thought maybe I was genderqueer, so I sat down and researched. And as of now, I am fairly certain I'm just a guy who likes guys.

Maybe you should look into what other genders besides 'boy/girl' there are, and maybe one fits you better than girl. =)

 

[lalapyu]

Oh, this exists ? Nice !
I'm genderfluid and bi <:
Are genderfluids welcome here and does everyone know what it is ?
It makes me slightly anxious to post here .-.

 

[oath2order]

Oh, this exists ? Nice !
I'm genderfluid and bi <:
Are genderfluids welcome here and does everyone know what it is ?
It makes me slightly anxious to post here .-.

No. We accept everybody BUT genderfluids.

I'm being sarcastic. This thread accepts literally everybody

 

[Yeosin]

Oh, this exists ? Nice !
I'm genderfluid and bi <:
Are genderfluids welcome here and does everyone know what it is ?
It makes me slightly anxious to post here .-.

I'm not as educated as I'd like to be, so correct me if I'm wrong, but is Genderfluid where you just feel more feminine one day, but more masculine another day and maybe in between occasionally? =)

 

[lalapyu]

@oath yeh ok I ask dumb questions lmao

@ThatOneCcj that is exactly it yes. Took me a long time and some therapists to find it out, but now I feel semi comfortable with it. It's just not something I mention a lot cause it involves a lot of back and forth I just can't care anymore about haha

 

[Beardo]

Could someone explain otherkin to me? I'm so confused...

 

[Finnian]

Could someone explain otherkin to me? I'm so confused...

it's basically when someone feels that they are not them. like, not human or otherwise.
so, someone who feels like they have the soul of a wolf would be otherkin.

or I guess sometime someones will feel like they have the soul of a certain character (i.e. frodo baggins??). Though that's usually referred to as fictionkin.
some people have more than 1 kintype.

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Is it ok sometimes I feel like I was susposed to be a boy?

That's perfectly normal. ;v;

 

[Stevey Queen]

it's basically when someone feels that they are not them. like, not human or otherwise.
so, someone who feels like they have the soul of a wolf would be otherkin.

or I guess sometime someones will feel like they have the soul of a certain character (i.e. frodo baggins??). Though that's usually referred to as fictionkin.
some people have more than 1 kintype.

April fools was a couple days ago, hun