Making ACNH playtime a competition

[Fey]

Visit her Island.

“Wow, 400 hours? I would’ve never guessed from looking at it” ^ｪ^

(don’t listen to me)

 

[moonbox]

Visit her Island.

“Wow, 400 hours? I would’ve never guessed from looking at it” ^ｪ^

(don’t listen to me)

LMAO savage

 

[Airysuit]

Why are we bashing some girl about whether or not she played lot of hours? Who cares about that? She sounds really insecure if she feels like she needs to brag. But it's not even bragging or lying about important stuff. Its playtime in a game. Doesn't hurt anyone whatsoever, except maybe here own insecurity i guess.

Let her be. This game is supposed to be about kindness, and so should you be.

 

[Blink.]

You:
Everyone:
That girl: OMG yeah I have like 400 hours on the game, look and see! HaHa

I’m not concerned about the hours tbh. It’s how she comes off to you bragging about it that irks me. Just don’t give her the attention she wants for it

 

[Foxxie]

I understand it must be very frustrating, but honestly wouldn't be too hard on her about it. Sometimes when people "brag" it's because they are insecure and are trying to seek validation where they can. I have friends and family who are like this and generally I just give a bit of a non committal reply. It takes more than one person to be "competitive" so I would just ignore it and carry on with your own game to be honest.

 

[PrincessBetter]

This event has occurred over the course of a week. I'll have to do a little bit of explaining and i hope to god the person im talking about doesnt find this post lol, but i don't think they use the forums so I should be ok.
Im also aware that i couldve just ignored her during this but listen im stubborn and dumb as hell ahbjnkm
We'll call the person im talking about angel to keep things organised and also protect their real name (the name has nothing to do with irony or spite, i just used to have a different friend called angel who i dont like anymore LOL)

Anyway,
I've been speaking to angel recently about animal crossing. She's an old friend that ive had a few fall-outs with due to various things, although we managed to bond over animal crossing and basically made up for a while
She's always been a bit strange to me; she'd often brag about a lot of things, such as writing pages and pages for assignments at school and such, or she'd brag about spending loads of money on stuff (she bought raymond off ebay, told me she bought him for $25 but told another friend of ours who's quite confrontational that she bought him for $15). Basically just a little weird and sketchy.
She got the game a couple days after launch i believe. We've been hanging out in the game ever since, however

A few days ago, specifically on the 30th, she messaged me bragging that she's reached 310 hours on animal crossing. This wouldn't be too weird in itself (the bragging irritated me though), however 10 days earlier she was only at 130 hours, meaning she'd somehow played 18 hours a day. Obviously, some might do that, but this girl was never this insane about animal crossing before.

I asked her if she had left the game open overnight, to which she said "i cant because ive lost my charger and so i have to borrow my sisters" etc and basically she cant play while its charging or something. She also said that she's "not a loser" and "it must not be that accurate" (referring to the switch hours counter)

I didn't think too much of it, i just thought she was enjoying the game a lot and i respected that. I ignored her for a while until i checked her hours a few days later.
She'd somehow gone from 310 to 380 in 4 days??
So i messaged her again out of curiosity, asking her how she possibly plays 20 hours a day. She brushed it off saying "i have nothing better to do" and that she "closes the game when shes not playing it"
she also said she'd "rather brag about what she did in that time", despite bragging earlier about it
After that i just ended up ignoring her, not wanting to feed into it anymore.

Again, im aware if i sound kind of petty but this person is known for lying about trivial stuff like this and always wanting to seem better than other people. As well as this, i dont appreciate the super weird lies (of course, if they are lies) and to me it just seemed like an attempt to seem better than me or seem superior, so i got frustrated, especially since this person is known for this sort of thing.
I decided to share the story since ive seen a few other people share their negative experiences with people in the game and i thought this might be a bit more of a weird one to share

I was honestly worried something like this would happen. I've never wanted this sort of game to become competitive like this, especially in such a strange way, but of course it has to. Angel has always seemed to want to 1up me at everything though so im not super surprised.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? maybe for a different switch game? im definitely curious

[EDIT: ive removed some of my rambling so people dont get confused. Im terrible at telling stories im so sorry]

Your friend sounds like a toxic narcissist. I would stay away from someone so weirdly competitive. If you want to bring up hours, ask the other person how many hours they've managed first. Once the friend has told you about their experience, you can then commiserate. This is just one example of a good give/take conversation. If you have a weird feeling about someone, trust yourself!

 

[stiney]

Ive learned from everyone that shes definitely not a good person to be around. I tried to patch things up with her since my best friend still talks to her quite regularly and I have to hang around with her occasionally, but i dont think i should force myself to take it. I'm just hoping my best friend will realise this too

Since you are young, let me introduce you to the Five Geek Social Fallacies, something I wish I'd known about when I was your age, and we used dial up to connect to AOL :shakes cane: I think #4 is the most applicable here. You best friend being friends with her isn't transitive to you having to be friends with her. You'll have to hang out with her occasionally but you can keep your friendship to just those times you have to see her. You don't have to extend it beyond there if you don't like her. And not spending time with her doesn't make you a bad person! You need to do self-care in this, and not expose yourself to someone who upsets you so much any more than necessary.

Also, my anxiety works the total opposite. I refuse to look at my playtime so I am not ashamed of the number being too high.

 

[chainosaur]

What a strange flex.

Lots of playtime hours don't really amount to anything if there's nothing to show for it.

 

[Chris]

If she needs to leave her game sitting open 24/7 to feel a sense of accomplishment then leave her to it and don't discuss it with her anymore. If she brings it up, dismiss it or change the subject rather than engaging her. She wants you to react to her playtime. Don't give her the satisfaction. Once she realises it's not having the desired effect she will stop being weird about it.

 

[22lexi]

Honestly I'd either ignore the situation altogether, OR be real petty (like some of these comments) and just get your playtime up super high

 

[fallenchaoskitten]

"How in the world is my island on par with {or better than} your island when you have played nearly double amount that I have?" -fun way to stir the pot.

 

[Maiana]

Okay, hear me out, I got competitive over this too.
I have buts though

Something in my brain is wired to make me super insecure about the littlest and weirdest things. I get jealous super easily, and I always feel like I need to prove something. I recognize this in myself and I've been working on it for years.

I just wanted to say that I am also the same exact way and that I've been comparing my small 340+ playtime to my friends who have picked up this game for the first time and have over 400 hours.
It takes a lot to admit this and know that you're feeling this way, so I also had to come to terms and get it through my thick skull that I need to calm down and go at my pace. I needed to not worry about others, and worry about myself ;m; because I ended up forcing myself to play the game to prove something.

 

[allainah]

I read it again, I get it now. Now, you could take the higher ground and just ignore her bragging, but why not try to beat her instead? Disable your switch's sleep mode setting and let your game run if you're interested in surpassing her. You'll leave her in the dust in no time; then hit her with your super high playtime and she'll be stunned-- speechless even. She'll praise you as the new Lord of playtime. This is the key right here.

IM DYING

 

[diamond is unbreakable]

I get that it's frustrating to have your friend brag about such stupid things, but honestly making a thread complaining about her to a bunch of strangers on the internet isn't very nice either. I feel like the best solution in this situation would have been to actually communicate to her that you are bothered. I'd be pretty upset if one of my pals made a thread like this about me. It's hard for me to empathize, so I do some rude or strange stuff sometimes, but I am trying to better recognise what is acceptable and what is not. Perhaps try to help her realise on her own what is wrong with this instead? Idk just my humble onion

 

[Delphine]

Visit her Island.

“Wow, 400 hours? I would’ve never guessed from looking at it” ^ｪ^

(don’t listen to me)

lol this ^

Not gonna add much, just wanted to say that you're still very young and it's totally legitimate to get annoyed at someone who's acting childish just to get some attention or reaction from you, especially when as you mentioned there's some history behind your relationship