Wow, thank you all so much for the replies and advice! I'll post an update on what happened today (the day after).
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It doesn't sound like your teachers in school did a very good job of sorting it out for you. Having said that, neither were mine. They always seemed to make matters worse. My college tutor on the other hand was very good about dealing with any problems I had. I think once you leave school and you're in an environment like that you get spoken to on a different level from the way a teacher would speak to you, if you understand what I mean. They were a lot more understanding than what my school teachers were.
Hopefully it will blow over for you soon enough. I really, really hate bullies. Very cowardly and they're only brave when they're in a group.
Best of luck to you
I haven't said a word to my tutor about it, none of this was actually in class, seeing as we're in different courses. I'm sure they'd put a lot of work into it though, they seem to be really tough on their rules and stuff.
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Geez, that takes me back...
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Block them all, give them minimal contact in person.
i think it's bad to lie if you have a relationship or not but in the end it's your choice on what you do with that status, it just seems to get messy sometimes. like u don't have to say who it is just say, it's no one they know. or something idk.
Yep, that's exactly what I was thinking. It's called down now, but if the issue arises once again I'm leaving the group. If someone tries to contact me, I'll either tell tjem I don't care and that I won't talk about it, or block them altogether.
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hi nathan! another fellow nathan ahaha
tbeh i wouldn't care, i mean like in all reality it's not going to be a permanent thing
i've had friends that did the exact same to me (not the same words, but just sexual provocations about friendly girls)
99,000,000% of the time, it's a joke (the other 1,000,000%, they get it almost spot on and it's easily deflected because they wouldn't expect me to do those things anyways)
even the conversation that you posted seems made entirely in jest. it isn't really helping your case against these people as a 16-yo going to college likely surrounded by older ppl
and seriously if they show devotion to trying to "expose" you and ur friendly girl, then call him/them over and make it super awkward for him or something, works every time <3
tl;dr - it's likely a joke as ur all college people and college boys never grow up unless if quiet and reserved
Wow, another Nathan? Geez. *shakes hand*
Thing is, I've always ignored bullying on the outside but kept it in the back of my mind on the inside, if that makes sense. I guess it ties into my social anxiety.
I had to look up "jest", sorry! They've been like tjst for years though, they all love to retake advantage and put pressure on me. It irritates me how most teenagers in the 21st century pass it all off as a joke - some people like myself don't take it very well.
Anyway, thanks for the tips!
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If I were you, I'd be honest with your new friend about what's going on. You don't have to fill her in on every little detail, but you might tell her that the people you went to high school with are teasing you and saying that you're dating her just because you talk to her (and maybe point out how dumb and immature they're being about it).
You don't have to tell her exactly what they said, and you don't have to tell her that you're already in a relationship; you can phrase it like "just thought I'd give you a heads up in case they decide to bother you about it."
As far as what to do about them sticking their nose in your business, you can tell them that they'll eventually find out who you're dating... maybe... and be really ambiguous and annoying about it, but never give them any clear answers. Eventually, they'll realize they can't win and give up. There's no way they'll keep it up for longer than a month or two, so just hang in there.
Yep, that's exactly what I did. I filled her in, and she passed it on to her sister, who says she'll kill them if she saw them. Heh. :3
I have a strong feeling that if I was to tease them and keep them waiting they'd jump to conclusions and think that its all allows of rubbish. As far as I could tell, these people aren't the type to give up that easily.
Thanks for the advice!
