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Annachie said:
I'm sorry it hit a nerve, i was using the word in a light-hearted way - seriously no one was annoyed at you, it's just opinions on a book after all
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In the future I'd advise against flippantly using a real psychiatric abnormality 'in a light-hearted way.' It's a genuine mental disorder, not something to toss around regarding someone exhibiting what you find to be outlandish behavior. Some would say that kind of comment is ableist, because it does insult those who truly find themselves suffering with such disabilities.

Not trying to start anything, but I'm pointing out why people can be and sometimes are bothered over these kind of remarks.
 
Motte said:
In the future I'd advise against flippantly using a real psychiatric abnormality 'in a light-hearted way.' It's a genuine mental disorder, not something to toss around regarding someone exhibiting what you find to be outlandish behavior. Some would say that kind of comment is ableist, because it does insult those who truly find themselves suffering with such disabilities.

Not trying to start anything, but I'm pointing out why people can be and sometimes are bothered over these kind of remarks.
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I wasn't 'tossing' anything around, as a medical student and someone who suffers from mental illness myself, I know to be careful around mental illness. But we were just talking about a BOOK, and yes I made a flippant comment, like many do on the internet, and yes I accidentally offended someone, which again is very easy to do on the internet. I don't know that user, I don't know what kind of triggers set people on here off. But I was never deliberately mean, and if he/she's actually left the forum because of it, I find that frankly ridiculous.

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Beary said:
Why is my chest tight??
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:( asthma?
 
Motte said:
In the future I'd advise against flippantly using a real psychiatric abnormality 'in a light-hearted way.' It's a genuine mental disorder, not something to toss around regarding someone exhibiting what you find to be outlandish behavior. Some would say that kind of comment is ableist, because it does insult those who truly find themselves suffering with such disabilities.

Not trying to start anything, but I'm pointing out why people can be and sometimes are bothered over these kind of remarks.
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keep that ableist bull**** outta here thx
 
Annachie said:
I wasn't 'tossing' anything around, as a medical student and someone who suffers from mental illness myself, I know to be careful around mental illness. But we were just talking about a BOOK, and yes I made a flippant comment, like many do on the internet, and yes I accidentally offended someone, which again is very easy to do on the internet. I don't know that user, I don't know what kind of triggers set people on here off. But I was never deliberately mean, and if he/she's actually left the forum because of it, I find that frankly ridiculous.

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:( asthma?
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I don't have it. :p
No idea. It started hurting yesterday morning.
 
Annachie said:
I wasn't 'tossing' anything around, as a medical student and someone who suffers from mental illness myself, I know to be careful around mental illness. But we were just talking about a BOOK, and yes I made a flippant comment, like many do on the internet, and yes I accidentally offended someone, which again is very easy to do on the internet. I don't know that user, I don't know what kind of triggers set people on here off. But I was never deliberately mean, and if he/she's actually left the forum because of it, I find that frankly ridiculous.
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Exactly: just talking about a book. Someone merely offered their opinion on it, and your response was that it was a psychotic reaction to have. Frankly I'm surprised that you're a medical student who personally suffers mental illness, yet you fail to see how that kind of comment could be harmful.

Karla I'm defending Burger Princess, who visibly got upset over this comment and seemingly abandoned her account because of it. I'm not going to stop pointing out how this kind of comment can receive the reaction it did from her.
 
Motte said:
Exactly: just talking about a book. Someone merely offered their opinion on it, and your response was that it was a psychotic reaction to have. Frankly I'm surprised that you're a medical student who personally suffers mental illness, yet you fail to see how that kind of comment could be harmful.

Karla I'm defending Burger Princess, who visibly got upset over this comment and seemingly abandoned her account because of it. I'm not going to stop pointing out how this kind of comment can receive the reaction it did from her.
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Wow. You are quick to get mad at people aren't you?
I would NEVER make fun of or judge someone with any sort of mental illness, disability, whatever.
Are you saying that you think no one should ever say any sort of comment, such as 'you're crazy!' in a jokey way?
I was in no way saying she was psychotic, and it's ridiculous to get offended by it. I was saying the reaction, not her, seemed psychotic, and I wasn't serious. Jeez, if people can get offended by that, they can get offended by anything, and everyone on here might as well not talk to each other just in case someone gets offended.
 
Annachie said:
Wow. You are quick to get mad at people aren't you?
I would NEVER make fun of or judge someone with any sort of mental illness, disability, whatever.
Are you saying that you think no one should ever say any sort of comment, such as 'you're crazy!' in a jokey way?
I was in no way saying she was psychotic, and it's ridiculous to get offended by it. I was saying the reaction, not her, seemed psychotic, and I wasn't serious. Jeez, if people can get offended by that, they can get offended by anything, and everyone on here might as well not talk to each other just in case someone gets offended.
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I'm not mad in the slightest, if anything I'm annoyed that users here keep resorting to "u mad" "stop arguign11" when presented with opposing opinions.
I am merely pointing out, if you'd like to read over my post again, that you need to understand why some people DO find these kinds of comments ableist. That some people DO get visibly upset when being called crazy, psychotic, etc. It's clearly evident in the way Burger Princess reacted.
 
Motte said:
I'm not mad in the slightest, if anything I'm annoyed that users here keep resorting to "u mad" "stop arguign11" when presented with opposing opinions.
I am merely pointing out, if you'd like to read over my post again, that you need to understand why some people DO find these kinds of comments ableist. That some people DO get visibly upset when being called crazy, psychotic, etc. It's clearly evident in the way Burger Princess reacted.
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Again, I wasn't calling her psychotic.
If people are going to overreact to things like that then they shouldn't be posting on internet forums. The internet is different - if I knew her in real life, I'd know not to mention things like that to her, but here I don't because its just a forum.

The number of things people could possibly be offended by is so vast, I don't think I should be made to feel like the bad one when something I said accidentally offended someone. Should I stop saying 'oh my god' in case someone ultra-Christian might take offence? should i stop swearing, in case there's someone who's really offended by swear words? stop talking about food incase theres someone with an eating disorder lurking? There's always SOMETHING that could offend, and what I said was obviously not intended to be offensive.
 
i wonder if there'll ever be a thread where someone can gather every member of the forum into?
.....has there ever been a thread that had over fifty people lurking it?

the world may never know
 
Annachie said:
Again, I wasn't calling her psychotic.
If people are going to overreact to things like that then they shouldn't be posting on internet forums. The internet is different - if I knew her in real life, I'd know not to mention things like that to her, but here I don't because its just a forum.

The number of things people could possibly be offended by is so vast, I don't think I should be made to feel like the bad one when something I said accidentally offended someone. Should I stop saying 'oh my god' in case someone ultra-Christian might take offence? should i stop swearing, in case there's someone who's really offended by swear words? stop talking about food incase theres someone with an eating disorder lurking? There's always SOMETHING that could offend, and what I said was obviously not intended to be offensive.
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I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I feel bad for Burger Princess and I'm pointing out why her reaction was actually one possible outcome of what was said about her (reactions to a book).

You're getting a little over the top however in your second paragraph. I don't care if you want to say omg, cuss, whatever. I'm just saying you really can't be surprised when people choose to get upset over something, however ridiculous you may find it. That's just the way people are, and there will always be people like that out there.

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Annachie said:
... except that it completely wasn't, because I do not know the user or anything about her mental state. I work with mentally ill children (in my time off, for FREE), I really do not appreciate these comments.
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Neither did Burger Princess :)
 
Motte said:
I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I feel bad for Burger Princess and I'm pointing out why her reaction was actually one possible outcome of what was said about her (reactions to a book).

You're getting a little over the top however in your second paragraph. I don't care if you want to say omg, cuss, whatever. I'm just saying you really can't be surprised when people choose to get upset over something, however ridiculous you may find it. That's just the way people are, and there will always be people like that out there.

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Neither did Burger Princess :)
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And I felt bad for her, which is why I said SORRY and then she went and flounced off anyway.

Your response would be justified if I had obviously deliberately intended to offend, but the fact is I made a flippant, completely non-malicious comment which was taken badly. I thought it was a bit of an overreaction, but I apologised, and that should be the end of it.
 
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