Problems with Parents?

[Goldi Locks]

An important thing to remember is that all of our parents are human too. They have experiences we don't and reasons for thinking like they do, which we might not agree with, but should try to be respectful. If they trashed us online and we found out, we'd be upset. They put their lives on hold to bring us into the world and raise us.

I love you dad, you great big criminal. Thanks for stealing that gameboy for me that time when I was little.

 

[Kitsuragi]

An important thing to remember is that all of our parents are human too. They have experiences we don't and reasons for thinking like they do, which we might not agree with, but should try to be respectful. If they trashed us online and we found out, we'd be upset. They put their lives on hold to bring us into the world and raise us.

my mother is an absolutely foul person and i wish nothing for her at all. abuse, infidelity, theft, fraud. my mom hardly made any effort to raise me or my siblings and put all of the responsibility on our older sister to raise me and my 2 other siblings when my sister is only 7 years older than i am. i saw her get drunk and set a laptop on fire in the backyard, screaming about how she wasted her money on some stupid facebook game. she threw the bottle of Fireball at the laptop and screamed at me to go to bed. i was 13. she would regularly leave 2-3 days at a time to go partying with a woman half her age and had multiple affairs on my father, and then the man she dated after him.

i don't believe she deserves any respect for all the things she's done. she's been given several opportunities to improve and she never has. i sincerely don't care if me talking about her on an obscure forum hurts her feelings, she's hurt mine millions of times over the years.

 

[Goldi Locks]

my mother is an absolutely foul person and i wish nothing for her at all. abuse, infidelity, theft, fraud. my mom hardly made any effort to raise me or my siblings and put all of the responsibility on our older sister to raise me and my 2 other siblings when my sister is only 7 years older than i am. i saw her get drunk and set a laptop on fire in the backyard, screaming about how she wasted her money on some stupid facebook game. she threw the bottle of Fireball at the laptop and screamed at me to go to bed. i was 13. she would regularly leave 2-3 days at a time to go partying with a woman half her age and had multiple affairs on my father, and then the man she dated after him.

i don't believe she deserves any respect for all the things she's done. she's been given several opportunities to improve and she never has. i sincerely don't care if me talking about her on an obscure forum hurts her feelings, she's hurt mine millions of times over the years.

Relax, it wasn't a personal attack. I'm likely of a different background and culture to you. I'm born and bred East London. You maybe know us as cockneys. We don't air family grievences in public. We fight amongst ourselves in private but present a united front to the world. It's just how it is.

Sorry your mum is rubbish. My dad's been in and out of prison my whole life, but I appreciate all the times he scared people away who were making my life difficult.

 

[Kitsuragi]

Relax, it wasn't a personal attack.

didn't say it was. im giving my experience as an anecdote. not every parent is good or worthy of respect simply for being a parent.

 

[Goldi Locks]

didn't say it was. im giving my experience as an anecdote. not every parent is good or worthy of respect simply for being a parent.

Like I said, different background and culture. We do things a different way and will see things differently.

 

[Captain Jigglypuff]

The main problem I have with my dad is that sometimes he gets too involved with my life. I get that I’m his son and he cares about me but he needs to understand that sometimes I need my own personal space and time that don’t involve him. Whenever my stepmom’s away, he just wants me to hang out with him constantly whenever I’m not working and I can’t do that. I can’t just keep dropping my plans so that he has someone to hang out with.

 

[k e r f u f f l e]

I've had many instances when it came to my parents that made me feel torn and/or hurt. Set boundaries and do no tolerate hurtful behavior.

But do not stop loving them. Do not cut them off completely unless it comes to worse. I'm sure they had loved ones in their own lives who did not accept their lifestyles or choices. Life is too short to cut off your family unless truly necessary.

They may understand better in the future when you are older, and respect you more as you gain life experience. Your lifestyle choices will even change as you get older, so you guys may get along better then.

 

[Dunny County]

I don't want to make anyone feel worse but my parents are brilliant. I don't know where I'd be without them. ...well, I suppose I wouldn't exist, which I don't much fancy cos it sounds boring.