Relationship problems
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Dump him as soon as you can. Tell him how you feel and don't give him the chance the "fix" it, because it never happens. I've been in a relationship with a highly abusive partner who would also cheat on me and yeah I was afraid of leaving him. Not only for my safety, but because I was afraid of being alone. 3 years later, I'm regaining myself and know that my sanity is worth more than any relationship. You will always find someone else. Love will come when you least expect it, whether you want it or not. I didn't believe I'd be with anyone else ever again, but I'm in the best relationship of my life and he's done so much to help me push through my past trauma. You will find someone like that. Even if it takes years. Don't be worried about being single. It will hurt for awhile, but you can push through it. I promise there's always a better outcome in the long run. I hope nothing, but the best comes to you.
I'm really sorry you've been (sort of(?)) cheated on, I wholeheartedly believe that cheating is one of the worst things you can do to another person.
That being said, I think it's incredibly selfish to stay with someone you don't want to be with just because you're afriad you won't find someone else. People aren't disposal assets, or they shouldn't be used as such. I'm sorry you're struggling, but a relationship based solely on your own feelings isn't going to work anyway. I can't imagine the pain of finding out your partner is only staying with you because they don't have someone else, or are scared they won't.
That being said, I think it's incredibly selfish to stay with someone you don't want to be with just because you're afriad you won't find someone else. People aren't disposal assets, or they shouldn't be used as such. I'm sorry you're struggling, but a relationship based solely on your own feelings isn't going to work anyway. I can't imagine the pain of finding out your partner is only staying with you because they don't have someone else, or are scared they won't.
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Cheating is awful, and anyone who makes the choice to do so doesn't deserve to be with anyone until they learn more about themselves and why they did it. Imo you should have left this guy the second you found out that he had cheated on you.
I really think staying with someone when you don't have feelings for them is a really not good idea, especially if it's just because you don't want to be alone. I get it if you want to hurt him back, but two wrongs don't make a right.
Imo you should break up, both parties deserve better in this situation. But only you can make that choice, and only you know what's right for yourself
I really think staying with someone when you don't have feelings for them is a really not good idea, especially if it's just because you don't want to be alone. I get it if you want to hurt him back, but two wrongs don't make a right.
Imo you should break up, both parties deserve better in this situation. But only you can make that choice, and only you know what's right for yourself
This is kind of an old thread but thanks for the kind words! Not long after I posted this we actually broke up and now I've been single for almost a year. I don't even care being single rn I still haven't fully recovered from that hell but I made new friends and they've been helping me a lot so yeah future is bright!
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That’s a wholesome update, glad you’re happier now and found some new friends!
Sorry to hear about your relationship. Three times is pretty crazy. It’s good you are happy by yourself than with unhappy with someone you can’t trust.
Can’t say I had any problems because I haven’t been in a relationship yet (loner lol)
Can’t say I had any problems because I haven’t been in a relationship yet (loner lol)
I?m really glad you posted this thread because I?m in the same situation right now and having a really hard time making that step to end this relationship! I?ve been with this guy for four years but we?re both at very different places now. He wants to sleep with other people and go out drinking all the time more and more often and it just kills me it sucks when you lose that trust with someone, but you?ve been together long enough to be dependent on them and love and remember when things were good between you. I know I just need to make that step and end it but I can?t get myself to do it! I?m glad to see that you and other people have gotten out of it and are doing better.
it sucks when you lose that trust with someone, but you?ve been together long enough to be dependent on them and love and remember when things were good between you. I know I just need to make that step and end it but I can?t get myself to do it! I?m glad to see that you and other people have gotten out of it and are doing better.
I’m really glad you posted this thread because I’m in the same situation right now and having a really hard time making that step to end this relationship! I’ve been with this guy for four years but we’re both at very different places now. He wants to sleep with other people and go out drinking all the time more and more often and it just kills me
I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a crappy situation
, it sounds like it would be in your best interest to dump them because they clearly don't respect you in every possible way. Even though I haven't been in these sort of shoes before (since I have been in only one relationship so far and have been blessed with a truly amazing woman), I can definitely see how difficult it would be to walk away, but trust me in that there are some really good men out there that will treat you the way you should be treated and be loyal! It is not worth tying up your life with such a screwed up person when you can be seeking greener pastures instead. I hope this encourages you to make this difficult step because I think every relationship-seeking woman deserves someone who truly loves and respects them! <3Similar threads
