Dim
Dreamwalker
oooooooh yea. A LOT. My younger brother. Yes, I said younger. He is 10 months younger than me yet his whole life he's acted like he is 10 years older than I am. We are both in the same grade. People have always compared me to him, and according to them we are complete opposites in terms of personality. He is louder and more reckless than I am. I have had a lot of trouble dealing with anxiety and got on medications when I was 9. People have looked down on me for my social anxiety and awkwardness and even called me retarted. Since he is the more social one I have been overshadowed by him. Not just him actually. I also have 5 other siblings who overshadow me as well.
On topic, does he criticize? Ofc. As I read about your "friend" he was the first to pop in my mind die to how judgemental he is. I mean... he criticizes EVERYONE, but honestly he does it to me a lot. He judges how my social/love life, my job, my health/body, my intellegents, my acadamic achievements, what I do in my free time, what shows I watch, etc. He may be all "Oh, I was joking stop being sensative" but honestly he does it everytime and I don't really need it because I am trying to raise MY self esteem here.
He is my brother though and I can't tune him out of my life because you can't break family up. You can break friendship up though, and honestly that person is NOT a friend. If she is having problems of her own I guess you can try to talk to her about it. If not then just don't put up with her. Try hanging out with friends who make you feel good instead of trying to put you down all the time, because that's waht real friends are. IMO some people constantly critizes and bully others to raise THEIR self esteem and tbh it's quite sad.
Oh another thing, about your Mom, yea that can sure can be frustrating. I can't stand parents who belittle your problems and say your not justified to be bothered by them because "they have it worse than you!". Just puttting this out there but imo your Mom is not going to listen to you and it's goi g to lower your self esteem even more so don't bother trying to talk to her.
On topic, does he criticize? Ofc. As I read about your "friend" he was the first to pop in my mind die to how judgemental he is. I mean... he criticizes EVERYONE, but honestly he does it to me a lot. He judges how my social/love life, my job, my health/body, my intellegents, my acadamic achievements, what I do in my free time, what shows I watch, etc. He may be all "Oh, I was joking stop being sensative" but honestly he does it everytime and I don't really need it because I am trying to raise MY self esteem here.
He is my brother though and I can't tune him out of my life because you can't break family up. You can break friendship up though, and honestly that person is NOT a friend. If she is having problems of her own I guess you can try to talk to her about it. If not then just don't put up with her. Try hanging out with friends who make you feel good instead of trying to put you down all the time, because that's waht real friends are. IMO some people constantly critizes and bully others to raise THEIR self esteem and tbh it's quite sad.
Oh another thing, about your Mom, yea that can sure can be frustrating. I can't stand parents who belittle your problems and say your not justified to be bothered by them because "they have it worse than you!". Just puttting this out there but imo your Mom is not going to listen to you and it's goi g to lower your self esteem even more so don't bother trying to talk to her.
