The Unpopular Opinions thread

[fairysyndrome]

There are numerous potential complications (both physically and mentally) brought on by being "overweight". As annoying as it may be to hear for some people, the doctors are only telling people for their own good. A doctor doesn't get more money by saying so. I believe the doctor reserves the right better than anyone to consult people on their weight. After all, a person's current health can be tied to their weight. A doctor's job is to help people, if they were to ignore overweight problems, they wouldn't be doing a competent job. After all, they studied these things in college for many years.

it’s already been pointed out that weight isn’t the only factor regarding health problems & that various medical biases exist, but instead of saying that doctors are only telling people things “for their own good” by tying their weight into every single issue they have whether it’s actually weight-related or not, I’d suggest you look up medical fatphobia because it’s a well-documented issue and bias and MANY upon MANY patients across the world have voiced their experiences regarding it.

 

[Stikki]

Weight is a tricky one. I've suffered eating disorders on and off since I was at school. I can't keep scales in my house as I tend to get fixated on making myself lose as much as possible. Like even when I got to under 7 stone (I'm 5ft5), I would still be trying to get lower. It's a horrible place to be. It's on my medical records though, so I am only ever weighed for medication dosage reasons, which I am never told the results of and don't ever look it up later to find out. I can't even keep tape measures as I become obsessed with my measurements. So I do feel for people who have doctors who insist on weighing them and seemingly make them feel bad.

However, obesity IS an issue. In the uk it puts a massive strain on the nhs and a lot of resources end up being used by people who simply refused to take better care of themselves. My bf's mum is a nurse and she will tell you just how badly your health can decline due to excessive weight and extreme eating habits (not saying having eating disorders are not unhealthy too, because they are).

I have also personally known in recent years 3 people who have died from heart attacks, due to being obese. One was a neighbour, who was 50 and left behind 2 teen daughters. Another was someone within my social circle, who was just 37 and left behind a wife and child. He was well aware how overweight he was and whilst he was sensitive to it being pointed out, chose not to do anything about it as he felt it didn't matter beyond his wife (also overweight) not caring. Now she's raising their young child all alone. The other was 36 and his girlfriend has been left devestated. He wasn't even noticeably obese, but the coroner's report listed him as being so. Therefore he must have been.

One that makes me quite angry is a lady who I have mutual friends with. She is absolutely morbidly obese. Around the time she turned 40, she fell over in Macdonald's (which she claimed before that she never ate food from and that her weight was some kind of genetic/hormonal problem) and due to the mass of weight she was carrying, broke her leg. Again, due to her weight, crutches were useless, so she ended up buying an electric wheelchair to get around in for 2 years following this, basically having given up even trying to walk completely. Of course, this was none of my business...until I had to rescue her 7 year old son from the lake in the local park because he had fallen in and she obviously couldn't get to him herself, nor could her (also morbidly obese) 16 year old daughter. She never thanked me either, but whatever.

Given her clear selfishness an inability to look after the kids she already had, I was furious to discover she was deliberately trying, whilst still using that damn wheelchair, to get pregnant again. Why would you deliberately try to bring another child into the world when your own health is so bad? It's unfair and totally selfish. Even though she no longer uses the wheelchair to my knowledge, she's still as huge as she ever was, which is putting enormous strain on her major organs. When she has the inevitable heart attack, what happens to her kids then? None of their fathers are around either, so it really makes me upset to think about.

Sorry for the rant, but this one really gets to me. I should point out that all but one of the people I mentioned were/are chronically obese though, not just a little overweight. Though the one guy that wasn't kinda troubles me tbh.

 

[totallynotdom]

There are numerous potential complications (both physically and mentally) brought on by being "overweight". As annoying as it may be to hear for some people, the doctors are only telling people for their own good. A doctor doesn't get more money by saying so. I believe the doctor reserves the right better than anyone to consult people on their weight. After all, a person's current health can be tied to their weight. A doctor's job is to help people, if they were to ignore overweight problems, they wouldn't be doing a competent job. After all, they studied these things in college for many years.

yo like this is just wrong tho. its been proven time and time again that weight has nothing to do with health at all. "weight" is rarely ever an issue. maybe something like blood pressure or a lack of certain nutrients but someone who retains weight well isnt automatically unhealthy. you can eat and exercise well but sometimes you're just built to be big because if humans didn't retain fat well we'd have died off before farming became a thing. doctors who say you have a weight problem but can't tell you how its actually negatively affecting the person need some more education. big and healthy is real. weight DOES NOT equal unhealthy

 

[sophss]

domino’s pizza is so overrated

 

[VanitasFan26]

There are numerous potential complications (both physically and mentally) brought on by being "overweight". As annoying as it may be to hear for some people, the doctors are only telling people for their own good. A doctor doesn't get more money by saying so. I believe the doctor reserves the right better than anyone to consult people on their weight. After all, a person's current health can be tied to their weight. A doctor's job is to help people, if they were to ignore overweight problems, they wouldn't be doing a competent job. After all, they studied these things in college for many years.

Saying things like "Its for their own good" is a very toxic way of telling people how to live their life on how to lose weight. With all due respect I get what you're trying to say about how Doctors are trying to help people, however the issue I have is that when they constantly focus all their attention on your weight and don't even tell you if your health is improving it really starts to become a big problem.

The problem I had with my Doctor personally and I mentioned this on another thread is that 2 weeks ago on Thursday, wasn't all that good. They brought up how inaccurate my weight scale was and instead of congratulating me on my improvement with blood results, they decided to fat shame because of how high my weight was. The thing was I had a lot of heavy things on me when I went up on their scale and when they told me to go back on it I was weighing higher .They really damaged my self-esteem. I showed them prove that I was losing weight on the weight lose app and then they brought up how my weight scale was inaccurate.

Their words "do better" has damaged my mental health. Even though they told me that my blood results were getting better they still are disappointed by my weight and I was told to "do better" I tried so hard these days and I thought I was on the right track losing weight by relying on the weight scale at home, but apparently the weight scale according to them they have is more accurate than at the one at home. I don't know what to think anymore. At home I was weight 319.6 and when I went by their office I was weighing 338.8 because I had so much heavy stuff on me when I was wearing clothes and they thought I was gaining back weight.

They brought up how I was losing weight last time and now telling me how I gained weight. I tried to show them from the Weight watch app how I have been improving, but they still told me that I need to "do better" and that was the part that really crushed me. I mean I've been eating healthy and exercising every single day and I still struggled to lose weight. The only issue was that my Pharmacy didn't give me the medication Phentermine that helps contain the weight. I asked time and time again for refills, but they didn't do it. So I had no other choice but to go by them to get it. I wasn't taking it for like 2 weeks and I tried so hard to get it but I never got it. Right now I am feeling so depressed and defeated. These past few weeks have been hard on me and now this is just getting too much. Its like I did one thing right and now its the weight that has crushed me. All I wanted was a Doctor who would focus on my health and not lecture me so much about my weight and this was the straw that broke the camels back.

 

[TillyGoesMeow]

Weight is a tricky one. I've suffered eating disorders on and off since I was at school. I can't keep scales in my house as I tend to get fixated on making myself lose as much as possible. Like even when I got to under 7 stone (I'm 5ft5), I would still be trying to get lower. It's a horrible place to be. It's on my medical records though, so I am only ever weighed for medication dosage reasons, which I am never told the results of and don't ever look it up later to find out. I can't even keep tape measures as I become obsessed with my measurements. So I do feel for people who have doctors who insist on weighing them and seemingly make them feel bad.

However, obesity IS an issue. In the uk it puts a massive strain on the nhs and a lot of resources end up being used by people who simply refused to take better care of themselves. My bf's mum is a nurse and she will tell you just how badly your health can decline due to excessive weight and extreme eating habits (not saying having eating disorders are not unhealthy too, because they are).

I have also personally known in recent years 3 people who have died from heart attacks, due to being obese. One was a neighbour, who was 50 and left behind 2 teen daughters. Another was someone within my social circle, who was just 37 and left behind a wife and child. He was well aware how overweight he was and whilst he was sensitive to it being pointed out, chose not to do anything about it as he felt it didn't matter beyond his wife (also overweight) not caring. Now she's raising their young child all alone. The other was 36 and his girlfriend has been left devestated. He wasn't even noticeably obese, but the coroner's report listed him as being so. Therefore he must have been.

One that makes me quite angry is a lady who I have mutual friends with. She is absolutely morbidly obese. Around the time she turned 40, she fell over in Macdonald's (which she claimed before that she never ate food from and that her weight was some kind of genetic/hormonal problem) and due to the mass of weight she was carrying, broke her leg. Again, due to her weight, crutches were useless, so she ended up buying an electric wheelchair to get around in for 2 years following this, basically having given up even trying to walk completely. Of course, this was none of my business...until I had to rescue her 7 year old son from the lake in the local park because he had fallen in and she obviously couldn't get to him herself, nor could her (also morbidly obese) 16 year old daughter. She never thanked me either, but whatever.

Given her clear selfishness an inability to look after the kids she already had, I was furious to discover she was deliberately trying, whilst still using that damn wheelchair, to get pregnant again. Why would you deliberately try to bring another child into the world when your own health is so bad? It's unfair and totally selfish. Even though she no longer uses the wheelchair to my knowledge, she's still as huge as she ever was, which is putting enormous strain on her major organs. When she has the inevitable heart attack, what happens to her kids then? None of their fathers are around either, so it really makes me upset to think about.

Sorry for the rant, but this one really gets to me. I should point out that all but one of the people I mentioned were/are chronically obese though, not just a little overweight. Though the one guy that wasn't kinda troubles me tbh.

I'm gonna respond to the last half because I feel like other people already responded very well to the first half.
Hey, so, there are lots of parents who are in wheelchairs for so many reasons. They are still capable of being great parents. I feel like this has descended into you ranting about people you don't like instead of any opinions. Which part made her irresponsible to look after her children: that she was in a wheelchair, that she was overweight, or something completely unrelated to this? I'm just confused by this haha.

 

[fairysyndrome]

Weight is a tricky one. I've suffered eating disorders on and off since I was at school. I can't keep scales in my house as I tend to get fixated on making myself lose as much as possible. Like even when I got to under 7 stone (I'm 5ft5), I would still be trying to get lower. It's a horrible place to be. It's on my medical records though, so I am only ever weighed for medication dosage reasons, which I am never told the results of and don't ever look it up later to find out. I can't even keep tape measures as I become obsessed with my measurements. So I do feel for people who have doctors who insist on weighing them and seemingly make them feel bad.

However, obesity IS an issue. In the uk it puts a massive strain on the nhs and a lot of resources end up being used by people who simply refused to take better care of themselves. My bf's mum is a nurse and she will tell you just how badly your health can decline due to excessive weight and extreme eating habits (not saying having eating disorders are not unhealthy too, because they are).

I have also personally known in recent years 3 people who have died from heart attacks, due to being obese. One was a neighbour, who was 50 and left behind 2 teen daughters. Another was someone within my social circle, who was just 37 and left behind a wife and child. He was well aware how overweight he was and whilst he was sensitive to it being pointed out, chose not to do anything about it as he felt it didn't matter beyond his wife (also overweight) not caring. Now she's raising their young child all alone. The other was 36 and his girlfriend has been left devestated. He wasn't even noticeably obese, but the coroner's report listed him as being so. Therefore he must have been.

One that makes me quite angry is a lady who I have mutual friends with. She is absolutely morbidly obese. Around the time she turned 40, she fell over in Macdonald's (which she claimed before that she never ate food from and that her weight was some kind of genetic/hormonal problem) and due to the mass of weight she was carrying, broke her leg. Again, due to her weight, crutches were useless, so she ended up buying an electric wheelchair to get around in for 2 years following this, basically having given up even trying to walk completely. Of course, this was none of my business...until I had to rescue her 7 year old son from the lake in the local park because he had fallen in and she obviously couldn't get to him herself, nor could her (also morbidly obese) 16 year old daughter. She never thanked me either, but whatever.

Given her clear selfishness an inability to look after the kids she already had, I was furious to discover she was deliberately trying, whilst still using that damn wheelchair, to get pregnant again. Why would you deliberately try to bring another child into the world when your own health is so bad? It's unfair and totally selfish. Even though she no longer uses the wheelchair to my knowledge, she's still as huge as she ever was, which is putting enormous strain on her major organs. When she has the inevitable heart attack, what happens to her kids then? None of their fathers are around either, so it really makes me upset to think about.

Sorry for the rant, but this one really gets to me. I should point out that all but one of the people I mentioned were/are chronically obese though, not just a little overweight. Though the one guy that wasn't kinda troubles me tbh.

i say this as nicely as i can possibly manage because this really ""gets to me"" as well: for someone who has a personal reason to understand how incredibly difficult weight management can be, you and your post are completely lacking in sympathy and any actual understanding towards those who deal with eating and weight problems on the opposite end.

 

[Stikki]

I'm gonna respond to the last half because I feel like other people already responded very well to the first half.
Hey, so, there are lots of parents who are in wheelchairs for so many reasons. They are still capable of being great parents. I feel like this has descended into you ranting about people you don't like instead of any opinions. Which part made her irresponsible to look after her children: that she was in a wheelchair, that she was overweight, or something completely unrelated to this? I'm just confused by this haha.

I don't think anyone else responded at all, to the first half or otherwise?

The part that made her irresponsible was the fact that she was already morbidly obese, using a wheelchair for 2 years following a broken leg...yet was deliberately trying to get pregnant again. She couldn't look after the kids she already had properly and has greatly shortened her lifespan (this woman is around 50 stone) and yet would still bring another child into the world that she probably wouldn't see reach their teens. That feels super selfish and irresponsible.

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i say this as nicely as i can possibly manage because this really ""gets to me"" as well: for someone who has a personal reason to understand how incredibly difficult weight management can be, you and your post are completely lacking in sympathy and any actual understanding towards those who deal with eating and weight problems on the opposite end.

Maybe I am. Maybe it's because of my own struggles. I can't tell you for sure what it is, just how it makes me feel and my own observations on some very specific people.

 

[TillyGoesMeow]

Anyways this convo is making me uncomfortable now, I don't feel the need to comment on any of that lmao.

So new unpopular opinion: cold leftovers are the best way to eat any sort of food.

 

[Alienfish]

^depends on food but i agree if we're talking about pizza.

Also pants that goes up your armpit is/was never cool, stop reviving 90s fashion kthx.

 

[JKDOS]

yo like this is just wrong tho. its been proven time and time again that weight has nothing to do with health at all. "weight" is rarely ever an issue. maybe something like blood pressure or a lack of certain nutrients but someone who retains weight well isnt automatically unhealthy. you can eat and exercise well but sometimes you're just built to be big because if humans didn't retain fat well we'd have died off before farming became a thing. doctors who say you have a weight problem but can't tell you how its actually negatively affecting the person need some more education. big and healthy is real. weight DOES NOT equal unhealthy

It's just a touchy subject for me because I lost my best friend in 2016 due to complications brought on by being severely overweight. Being overweight may not be "unhealthy" per say, but it does bring complications. I know this is an unpopular opinion thread so I'm not going to debate it further or tear down others for thinking differently.

 

[Stikki]

I know this is an unpopular opinion thread so I'm not going to debate it further or tear down others for thinking differently.

Yeah I'm with you there. With all due respect to everyone here, this thread is literally called "Unpopular opinions", so the things we post in here probably won't be well-liked haha. I'm not sure that having a debate or having a go at individual forum members is really along the theme of the thread.

So here's an unpopular opinion; summer is overrated! It's too damn hot!

 

[Alienfish]

Fall is overrated, what is there to like about rain and cold? On the other hand, fall/winter/spring is like one season here and if you're lucky some snow in winter.

 

[Stikki]

Fall is overrated, what is there to like about rain and cold? On the other hand, fall/winter/spring is like one season here and if you're lucky some snow in winter.

Ah yes, I bet it depends where you live. I don't like rain at all, but I do appreciate the cooler temps during the day and the pretty trees. I reckon I would like summer if I lived somewhere less humid.

 

[King koopa]

Winter is underated. That's the season you get days off from school! How come nobody likes it?

 

[Corrie]

Winter is underated. That's the season you get days off from school! How come nobody likes it?

I used to not understand the big hatred for winter. I preferred summer but I didn't get the winter hate... until I got a car. Then my opinion changed lol. Having to go out early to scrap the stupid thing, then warm it up, then drive on the slippery roads and in the blizzard... yuck. lol

 

[Alienfish]

Winter is underated. That's the season you get days off from school! How come nobody likes it?

It's nice but also it's basically a bunch of holidays we'd gotten anyway lol. Also since we don't have a lot of snow whatever But I don't like the cold, so.

 

[spawnpoint]

I think 3D for games like Pokemon is overrated (not saying anything wrong with liking them); I like the 2D graphics better. Not sure if this is unpopular or popular opinion since i do not belong to the fandom.

I agree, 2d games like that are my favorite kind especially when they're pixelated, I just love the aesthetic and I think making games like that 3d just ruins them, I've never really been a big fan of 3d stuff

 

[Dunquixote]

I never liked the fireworks festival in NL or ACNH. I think I liked Festivale more than the Fireworks festivale; Pave annoyed me but at least I got furniture out of it (even though the furniture was just okay to me).

I like quiet and being alone.

I don’t think a lot of Anime movies (if they’re for a series like One Piece) are good. Whole different story for the Ghibli movies (I only saw one and part of another but those are good). I haven’t seen any of One Piece’s but I read they contradict some of the story like in some the straw hats are together even though at the time they should be separated. I think the problem is that the author didn’t write the movies. Since learning that, I refuse to watch One Piece’s movies. The worst one I saw was FMA Conqueror of Shambhalla. I actually liked the anime series that was based loosely off the manga (still prefer brotherhood but the original anime was really good, but the movie was extremely disappointing).

i thought the last 200 or more chapters of Naruto sucked and the ending and everything I read about Boruto sucks as well. If Naruto had romance from the start and showed more like how choji ended up with the one girl from land of the stone, then sure the pairings would have made more sense. But I felt it was rushed even more than in some of the other chapters. And I think the author over did the revive the dead thing and felt like it was to cater to the fans. I did not like that though some of it was a bit entertaining and interesting, but overall i think it was sloppily implemented.

 

[Violet Witch]

It's okay to be single and happy at the same time.

I just wish more people would realise that being in a relationship doesn't always equate to absolute happiness in life. I've also seen far too many people feel pressured to be in relationship (including being with terrible partners) because they believe it will lead to this ideal adult life in the long run.