"triggerd !!1!"

[amanda1983]

I have no qualm cutting anyone out of my RL that says or uses "triggered, lol" or any version thereof seriously. If they're "joking" there's some wiggle room, but as time goes by my interest in putting up with asshats diminishes. And so far, the only RL people I've met who think making "jokes" about someone being triggered are, one and all, asshats in my considered opinion. I still have a couple that are still friends, but I'll probably let them go sooner rather than later. Life is too short to waste time with people you don't along with, and I have no interest in staying friends for "old times sake" alone.

So, to sum it up, I find it incredibly helpful to filter out those people I don't want to spend time with, much like SJW (part of me still cannot believe that being called an SJW is supposed to be an *insult* like.. wtf is wrong with these people that they think I should feel BAD for working to improve things... the rest of me, honestly just wrote the whole thing off as a bad jake made up by every negative "gamer" stereotype out there, largely because the asshat who tried to insult me with it - the first time I heard of SJW - exemplifies the worst of those stereotypes himself, but I digress).

I think of trigger warnings as just extentions of the normal, everyday "warnings" we give to people in normal, everyday situations. If you know someone is deathly afraid of spiders, you take that into account when you notice a giant ****ing spider poised to land on their head (I have seen this happen a surprising number of times). If you're not in need of some kind of help yourself (medical, sabbatical in a barrel for a week, whatever), you will NOT try and make things worse for the person. That is called empathy, and is a trait first developed during toddlerhood. It is a good thing. People who do not have enough (or any) natural empathy often need to develop special techniques to be able to function in society, as empathy is a foundation of our cultures (even less demonstrative ones still have the empathy stuff going on, it just gets expressed differently).

Since I spend my professional life working to build those emerging empathatic skills, I don't care to spend my private time around adults who willfully disregard the feelings of others. It's juvenile, and to be frank, I don't work with that age range for a good reason - I don't have the patience for that stuff.

I'm also continually amused at the cognitive dissonance caused by person x getting offended (aka, triggered) by the mere occurance of person y feeling offended by "z" ... that's the one kind of "triggered" joke I can enjoy, where the point is the hypocrisy of triggered people being offended that other people were offended.. the kind of humour that "punches up" is good, for many reasons, but "punching down" is not acceptable.

 

[seliph]

Also **** every tumblr idiot who turned triggers into "I don't like hearing views that make me uncomfortable." **** you sensitive idiots. Never been through a traumatic event and they ruined the word and turned it into the joke it is today.

I see a few people mention this but I've never seen it happen? Then again I don't really mess with SJ tumblr so idk

tbh anyone says here something that someone disagrees with, and they jump on you like spiders

cough* cough*

This is a forum. If you post on a discussion, there will be people who will disagree with you. That doesn't mean they're "jumping on you".

If you can't handle disagreements then don't post on debatable topics.

 

[Bunnilla]

I see a few people mention this but I've never seen it happen? Then again I don't really mess with SJ tumblr so idk



This is a forum. If you post on a discussion, there will be people who will disagree with you. That doesn't mean they're "jumping on you".

If you can't handle disagreements then don't post on debatable topics.

you didn't even let me finish?... anyways I'm out peace

I LIKE THE SIMPLE NON-HARSH PUSH AROUND THE SHOULDER JOKE, NOT THE TRAUMATIZE PEOPLE JOKE

 

[seliph]

trigger =/= this only bothers me a little so let me make a big deal out of it to get my way in everything and make people with actual triggers look ridiculous
which is whats being made fun of fyi

I don't doubt you but it's led to people with actual triggers being made fun of and targetted because their triggers "seem made up" or "seem like they're making a joke".

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you didn't even let me finish?... anyways I'm out peace

How is someone on a forum supposed to know when you're done posting lol what

Put all your thoughts in one post at the same time then?

 

[boujee]

I really don't believe what a lot of people say on the Internet. At first I was considerate with people with actual trauma but as time goes by a lot of people just want to jump on that bandwagon of something serious to only make it a joke.

Something like rape, sure.
Going on a panic attack over apples when deliberately looking at a cooking blog? No.
As much as people have freedom of speech and expression, I don't find it nessecarly for me to tag every little thing I do for a stranger I don't even know nor care about.

 

[visibleghost]

trigger =/= this only bothers me a little so let me make a big deal out of it to get my way in everything and make people with actual triggers look ridiculous
which is whats being made fun of fyi

other ppl dont have the right to choose what is a trigger for survivors lmao. it's hard to know who is exaggerating and who is really triggered. so it's better to respect everyone.

and imo the people who are making ppl w "real triggers" look ridiculous are the people who think it's a bunch of fun to make fun of triggers but yeah okay.
mentally ill people don't have to have reasons that are cool w/ nts to have their mental illness respected imo

 

[Fleshy]

I don't think people that make triggered 'jokes' are actually mocking or making light of trauma that people have experienced, y'know, nobody posts a violent video that would obvisly affect people like "gonna trigger some sjw's today", that's not what people do. I'm sure most people agree that mentally ill people and people who have experienced trauma sometimes need trigger warnings for things (for example, violence, drugs, sex), I'm sure it's never anyone's intention to mock that.

However some people give people who legitimately suffer a bad name, similar to that attack helicopter thing, those people aren't mocking trans/gay/bi people, it's all because a certain group of people act in a certain hostile way, leading people to make these jokes in retaliation.

 

[radical6]

other ppl dont have the right to choose what is a trigger for survivors lmao. it's hard to know who is exaggerating and who is really triggered. so it's better to respect everyone.

and imo the people who are making ppl w "real triggers" look ridiculous are the people who think it's a bunch of fun to make fun of triggers but yeah okay.
mentally ill people don't have to have reasons that are cool w/ nts to have their mental illness respected imo

Sure I have a weird obscure trigger. That doesn't mean I expect people to coddle me and to tag every mention of eggnog. It's fine to use it and talk about it with your therapist, but expecting random people to cater to you is dumb.

 

[tybalt_cake]

Its funny depending on which situation you use it

 

[focus]

i say tiggered way too much for a person that actually gets triggered by stuff like vomit. but its a funny joke lol

 

[visibleghost]

oh wow that typo in the title wasnt intentional .,, now im embarrassed anYWAYS

Sure I have a weird obscure trigger. That doesn't mean I expect people to coddle me and to tag every mention of eggnog. It's fine to use it and talk about it with your therapist, but expecting random people to cater to you is dumb.

yeah well that's not what i meant, really? like, i have weird triggers but i don't tell people about them because it is impossible to avoid certain things and asking other people to censor themselves is a bit weird and not rly good.

but i'm still allowed to be upset when i get troggered, and i am allowed to ask people who are okay with tagging triggers to tag mine. i don't see why so many people are seriously angry about tumblr kids having blacklists with things they would like their mutuals to tag for them.
if they have no problem tagging it and it will make the person w/ the triggers have a better time i don't see why people feel the need to make fun of it.

 

[oath2order]

I get triggers are real, I just don't like it when people expect the entire world to bend over because of their trigger.

 

[pawpatrolbab]

It can be funny sometimes, and I even find it funny, but it lowkey feels like people are making fun of me

 

[visibleghost]

I get triggers are real, I just don't like it when people expect the entire world to bend over because of their trigger.

ok so this is a serious question, but like how often do you see that? i understand if you meet someone with a trigger who blames you when you sccidentslly triggered them even if you didn't know. but from that point you should try your best to remember it because that's just basic respect for that person imo.

obviously not everyone can stop saying a certain word, but in a small group of people or around a certain person it shouldn't be oo hard or unreasonable to make adjustments.

 

[amanda1983]

Sure I have a weird obscure trigger. That doesn't mean I expect people to coddle me and to tag every mention of eggnog. It's fine to use it and talk about it with your therapist, but expecting random people to cater to you is dumb.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

I've never come across a situation even vaguely compatible with that, I'm sorry. No one I know uses trigger warns to hide mentions of words, or enforce blanket bans on any triggering substance. I have no expectations that strangers will automatically know and cater to my personal triggers, anymore than they would my fears, my tastes, or anything else, that would be absurd. But when I explain that I have personal issue with x, and suggest or request alternatives - I absolutely expect a certain amount of social courtesy. I don't need to justify myself, let alone explain the traumatic incident, in order to be listened to. And so far I've found that no reasonable person has had a problem with working things out with me. It's just a part of the normal social give and take. To be fair, I had a lot of help working on my communication skills in this area, which certainly helps.

But. I have friends who avoid certain drinks for the same reason you do, and we avoid having those around out of courtesy and respect.

The courtesy I would grant automatically in a social context where this is possible. I don't drink fruity cocktails next to my friend who is now horribly allergic to pineapple but used to love eating it. That is respect, since I can only imagine how hard that must be for them. I can take my fruity cocktail somewhere else if it's that important to me. If a stranger asked me if I could possibly move, or let them move away (assuming they were stuck) because my drink was bothering them, then I would agree out of courtesy. I don't need to hear a tragic backstory before I can be bothered to move. I might be confused, or a bit worried I did something wrong, but at no point would I be stopping to question how "real" the person's issue might be, whether they might be trying to get attention, or anything along those lines. I just don't think it's my place to vet someone's eligibility to social courtesy.

 

[Romaki]

They are all boring non-jokes by people wanted to be offended by something.
If you have an embarrassing memory involving a cherry bubblegum, the same bubblegum will just trigger that memory. End of story. It's really interesting how bored kids can make a big deal out of anything. But they'll grow up eventually. And the grown people copying them will have to face real life someday.

 

[Idfldnsndt]

I say it online. I say it IRL.

 

[Romaki]

I get triggers are real, I just don't like it when people expect the entire world to bend over because of their trigger.

That's the issue most have. Triggers aren't a personality trait, it's something victims of crime have to work through in worst case scenarios to be able to be a functioning member of society again. But you know, attention seeking people will take anything and give it a bad taste.

 

[Buttonsy]

I sometimes make triggered jokes as like... a way of poking fun at people who make triggered jokes? Like some kind of Double Irony or something.

IDK as a mentally ill person it bothers me that people like to treat the subjects that can harm a mentally ill person or trauma survivor or whatnot as just silly jokes.

I also always see this "oh people are too sensitive" but if it literally sends you into some kind of panic attack or dissociation episode like. it might literally damage you worse to be exposed to your triggers, to just try to "deal with it", and even in the case of exposure therapy where some people like to say "You can't have triggers because being exposed to things that bother you make you stronger!" or whatever ?? Like the difference between a person being exposed to their triggers irl and being exposed to their triggers as part of therapy is that they have 100% assurance that it's in a safe environment and within their control. If you take away the assurance of safety and that level of control then it's probably going to be traumatic. I mean I'm not an expert on exposure therapy so I could be wrong but I'm 99% sure the therapist doesn't just pull out a giant spider if you are triggered by spiders and if the patient screams they just say "haha ##Triggered"

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I get triggers are real, I just don't like it when people expect the entire world to bend over because of their trigger.

TBH though 99% of what I've seen for having people "bend over backwards" is asking someone if they can take like two seconds to tag food or eye horror or violence or whatnot, like 99% of what I have seen with trigger warning stuff online is literally just. asking if someone can be kind enough to take two seconds out of their day to do something that might prevent them from having a panic attack or meltdown, I'm curious as to what you've seen that constitutes "bending over backwards"?

 

[Licorice]

I don't really think it's funny because it's so overused at this point.
As far as REAL triggering not "this made me uncomfortable" that's not okay. I think the word is used too often for people just being uncomfortable and not the real thing.