What is your opinion on Long Distance Relationships?

[lars708]

Speaking from my experiences, I'm never going to do one ever again. I felt a constant need to actually see the person I was talking to, I wanted to physically be with them. But I wasn't able to do that so even though I was in a relationship I always felt lonely. But this is all me, there are other stories I've heard of people making long distance relationships work and that's neat! If it feels good for that person to do that then they should totally go for it, no problem with that. It's just that I personally had some bad experiences from it so I wouldn't want one again.

That said, all my real-life relationships have also been insanely toxic so far so I guess I'm better off alone lol

 

[Ghostkid]

Im actually currently in a online relationship me and my girlfriend have been together for over one year and we never seen each other once in real life! It can definitely work.

 

[ellarella]

the older i get, the less tolerance i have for distance. i had a few internet flings when i was younger, but nowadays i highly doubt i'll ever get into a long-distance relationship again - especially not a cross-country one.

 

[riummi]

If you've been together in person then I think it's doable. It just takes a lot of dedication and trust in one another. Personally, I don't think I would be able to for a long time because I need to at least see the other person like 2 or 3 times a month. Heck, I already get sad when I can't see my boyfriend for two weeks. Some people just need to see the other more often and I think my bf is the kind that wouldn't mind not seeing each other for 2 weeks or so.

People can change when they get lonely and I would be worried that they have found someone else in their friend group to get closer to.

 

[Hectical]

Ignoring my own personal bias for a moment I think if handled right they could actually work pretty well and I've seen it done before. Although it would be best if the two people could meet in person any chance they get and maybe move in together in the future. I guess objectively it just depends on the people and how they handle it. Inherently long distance relationships aren't a bad thing, its just how the people in the relationship go about it.

Personally I try to avoid long distance relationships, mostly internet related ones. I have had horrible past experiences with those types of relationships because I was very young when they happened and I was just stupid about everything, I think now I would definitely only do them if me and the other person knew each other very very well and had an idea of where we both lived so we could actually meet at some point in time. Generally though its a no-go for me.

 

[mitfy]

i definitely think they can work, and they're just as valid as regular relationships. my own ldr didn't work out, but i don't think the distance had much to do with that lol.

we all know the cons of LDRs, but in my opinion there are loads of positives too. like, for instance, when you do get to see them/meet up with them irl, it makes the moment all the more special. it also in my opinion makes the relationship more genuine - you know someone's not trying to hook up with you for your body or for purely physical reasons. also as someone who finds communicating, especially emotionally, much easier through text rather than actually saying it, i appreciate that factor of it.

 

[Kamzitty]

Long-distance relationships can definitely work, but both parties have to be really dedicated. It really depends on the people.
I've experienced long distance relationships and they didn't work too great for me. I'm very anxious and if I don't hear from someone for an entire day or two, I get extremely worried to the point where I feel sick. I am also clingy and I tend to get lonely easily if I don't have physical contact.
If a situation occured where I would have to be in a long-distance relationship with my current partner, I would be all for giving it a shot, because I honestly feel like he's the love of my life. Like I said, it really depends on the people and how dedicated they are to the relationship that determines if a LDR will last. Communication and trust is huge in a LDR, and if those two are present then the chances of it working out are much higher. Those things weren't there in my last relationships, so that is likely why they didn't work for me lol. ;p

 

[Croconaw]

I also find myself getting clingy too easily. I feel like it?s becatse so many people left in my past and I would do everything I can to keep a person in my life. However, I feel like I am getting better at not being clingy. I never want to come off as clingy, so it?s good that I?m getting better at not being clingy.

 

[blushpeony]

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[Aleigh]

Are you talking about romantic relationships or internet friends? Because they are two totally different situations.

Romantic wise, it depends if you never met them irl or if you were dating and say one of the parties moved. If you've never met them, it def won't work in the long run. It's hard to do either way, however, because you can't physically see them or touch them. It also depends on timezones and all that jazz, but they usually don't work out too well.

Internet friends, however, can last forever. In my experience, internet friends can come and go just as easily as those in real life. I've had many, and in most cases (unfortunately) we just kinda faded away from each other due to growing up more and having less time for each other. However, one of my best friends in the entire world came from the internet. Our bond has only been becoming stronger, and we have never met. Not once. We live states away, yet we have been each other's ride or dies for the past five years and counting. Distance doesn't have to always determine the amount of love you can have for someone, because if you find the right person it can last a lifetime.

 

[Croconaw]

I think they have potential! They can definitely work.

 

[nintendofan85]

In my opinion, they're usually harder to make work out than short-distance ones, but it's not impossible. My cousin lives in Mississippi and her boyfriend is in New York, and they've been together for almost three years.

 

[Midoriya]

Are you talking about romantic relationships or internet friends? Because they are two totally different situations.

Romantic wise, it depends if you never met them irl or if you were dating and say one of the parties moved. If you've never met them, it def won't work in the long run. It's hard to do either way, however, because you can't physically see them or touch them. It also depends on timezones and all that jazz, but they usually don't work out too well.

Internet friends, however, can last forever. In my experience, internet friends can come and go just as easily as those in real life. I've had many, and in most cases (unfortunately) we just kinda faded away from each other due to growing up more and having less time for each other. However, one of my best friends in the entire world came from the internet. Our bond has only been becoming stronger, and we have never met. Not once. We live states away, yet we have been each other's ride or dies for the past five years and counting. Distance doesn't have to always determine the amount of love you can have for someone, because if you find the right person it can last a lifetime.

I don?t understand this argument at all. At the beginning you said romantic relationships online where people have not met each other will not work.


But then, at the end of the third paragraph, you say if you find the right person, the love between friendships can last a lifetime.


Wouldn?t that apply to romantic relationships online too then? If you find the right person, I think it can work. It seems kind of contradictory to say one will not work and one will based on the same principle.

 

[kayleee]

I've never been in a long distance relationship so idk if they work but personally I would not like to be in a long distance relationship I prefer a close distance relationship

 

[Stackhouse]

Yes. I?m talking online long distance relationships. Most of them are.

Most of them?
I've never heard of any.

Real life long distance relationships, yes.

It depends on the couple, as to whether it works or not.

 

[Friezu]

I'm actually currently in one and have been for over two years. It's honestly had it's rough times and much more but honestly it's working out very well between us.

 

[Lady Timpani]

I think they can work. I’ve never been in one myself, but I know others who have and they turned out well.

I think the most important thing is that, at some point, you do meet up and eventually close the distance. Having things go on long distance indefinitely is bound to get frustrating, and I’m sure it tears people apart.

I don’t think it’s really anything for me, but I support people in LDRs.

 

[nanpan]

I've been in one for over 2 years and it is hard but regardless of distance if you love someone truly you will make it work : )

 

[Dormire]

All my relationships are LDR (as I fail to feel attraction towards my fellow countrymen) and although most didn't work, I can feel that I'm close to my perfect person. My bf and I are 7k miles apart and I loved him 5 years before we even dated and we're almost 2 years of dating. We're planning to meet soon and I can't wait. My heart is beating pretty fast thinking about it.

Also I think the reason LDRs don't work with others is the lack of trust and paranoia of the other cheating and/or dissatisfied with the lack of skinship.

I can deal with it and so he can. We just need to overcome everything until we can live together!

 

[Fleshy]

I personally think LDR's can often be a lot stronger than traditional relationships as they take a lot more ""effort"" (using that term loosely) to make work, you can't just see your partner whenever you want.

I'm in a LDR of over 2 years now (with my wonderful partner that I met through these forums!!), it is often hard being apart for months at a time when you just want to be together, but although hard, that makes the relationship stronger, not weaker. My partner is the love of my life, and I would never have met him if I was closed off to the idea of LDR's.

I understand that they aren't for everyone though, my partner and I are finally in the process of bridging the gap and making our relationship no longer long distance, he'll be moving from Canada to the UK by the end of the year / start of the next year provided all goes well with his visa (which I'm really sure it will be). Which is really exciting, the hard (again using that loosely, because the relationship isn't hard, just missing each other is) parts are definitely worth it in a LDR, 100 times over.