VanitasFan26
I'm just a ghost.
I was by Kroger's yesterday and the price for Hot Cheetos is now $5.19 it used to be $4.99 before. This price gouging is really going out of control.
What's Bothering You?
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I’m having issues with the language I’m learning. Due to my autism I almost always speak with a flat tone. Speaking with any inflection requires an intense amount of effort I usually can’t keep for very long. With English it’s not really an issue since I can usually do stress okay.
With Japanese it’s a different story. If you want to sound like a native speaker you have to imitate a pitch pattern for every word. I can hear the pitch when others speak, but I can never replicate it consistently no matter how much I study. My voice just goes back to monotone like in English. Recently, a nurse at the hospital I was staying at overheard me and told his coworker I used the wrong pitch accent. Likewise, I tried to make friends with another Japanese learner and he criticized my pitch accent too. It still bothers me a bit since I’m trying my best.
Japanese isn’t a tonal language like Chinese, but some people are very insistent about learning pitch accent. My previous college for one graded me harshly for it. While other students were doing pitch accent okay I just couldn’t keep up. All I could do was one phrase. At my current college pitch accent is only briefly mentioned and then never graded. I’ve done better as a result. While the grammar is really hard, I was able to keep my grade up.
I’m just worried I’ll always be looked down on for not being able to replicate one part of this language. There’s little research on autism and language learning, but from what I’ve heard from others on the spectrum we tend to specialize in one area and struggle with others. For me reading is the easiest part, while accent and speaking are the hardest.
One of my moms tried to comfort me by saying that she’s been to many countries (which she has) and usually no one cares if you can replicate accents or not.
Does anyone here know anything about this?
With Japanese it’s a different story. If you want to sound like a native speaker you have to imitate a pitch pattern for every word. I can hear the pitch when others speak, but I can never replicate it consistently no matter how much I study. My voice just goes back to monotone like in English. Recently, a nurse at the hospital I was staying at overheard me and told his coworker I used the wrong pitch accent. Likewise, I tried to make friends with another Japanese learner and he criticized my pitch accent too. It still bothers me a bit since I’m trying my best.
Japanese isn’t a tonal language like Chinese, but some people are very insistent about learning pitch accent. My previous college for one graded me harshly for it. While other students were doing pitch accent okay I just couldn’t keep up. All I could do was one phrase. At my current college pitch accent is only briefly mentioned and then never graded. I’ve done better as a result. While the grammar is really hard, I was able to keep my grade up.
I’m just worried I’ll always be looked down on for not being able to replicate one part of this language. There’s little research on autism and language learning, but from what I’ve heard from others on the spectrum we tend to specialize in one area and struggle with others. For me reading is the easiest part, while accent and speaking are the hardest.
One of my moms tried to comfort me by saying that she’s been to many countries (which she has) and usually no one cares if you can replicate accents or not.
Does anyone here know anything about this?
I haven't been taking classes for myself, the little I know I basically taught myself even if I suck. But yeah as a person with Asperger I can relate, it's like I can learn certain things really well but other aspects brain basically goes lol nope.
As I struggle with this "one side brain" myself I don't really have advice other than, maybe don't be too harsh on yourself and as with anything, do it 10k times and eventually you will succeed your way. I'm also very flat and one-toned no matter the language I speak so for me English pronunciation has been hard for me, cause you don't really learn that here, you're just supposed to know how to say eg. "demon", "literally" etc. so honestly pronouncing Japanese is definitely easier for me cause it has somewhat more set rules, even if it has a pitch. (And I find like, trying to pronounce/read Portuguese easier at a basic level cause most letter and diphthongs are pretty set unless you try imitating specific accents).
Aaand sorry for my rants but I definitely don't look down on you, the amount of time and effort you spend is amazing and I really hope you will get it one day!
Violet Witch
☽Stay Wild Moon Child☾
Birthdays and Christmas's really do show you who your true friends are. I've not had a single "Happy Birthday" message/text from any of my friends, yet I log on here and find some lovely messages from some wonderful forum members.
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I was walking home from the store today and a large group of teenagers started loudly making fun of me and laughing at me, one started to approach me but one of the others told them to stop. I don't know why, literally all I was doing was walking home. I already struggle with mental illness and definitely didn't need that, I came home to my apartment and cried. My self esteem is already horrible to begin with, I just wanted to get home. Everybody please think about how your words and actions effect others.
Lady Timpani
sway
Hope you have a happy birthday today!
Sometimes it's like that. Sorry that you had to feel that way during your special day. It probably doesn't help much hearing this from some random member, but Happy Birthday! I hope you were able to spend some time to enjoy yourself and treat yourself to some tasty cake and fun times.
And if you haven't yet, just call it an extended birthday and celebrate it this weekend.
I'm still not feeling great from COVID- granted my symptoms only started a week ago. I was feeling pretty good yesterday and earlier today, now my head feels like it's going to explode due to the pressure inside. Ugh, I'm like an instant pot. At least my fever is gone.
ZeldaCrossing64
Supa Cop
My family pisses me off so much. I can't stand them.
I've just been in a constant bad mood for the past week or so. Nothing seems to go right.
I've just been in a constant bad mood for the past week or so. Nothing seems to go right.
ali.di.magix
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I've made contact with the outside world again! I'm flying back to my hometown for a week to escape the madness. I still feel very hypervigilant and like a utilities service is going to fail at any time. It's been exhausting. Hopefully when I return in a weeks time things will be relatively normal.
Angieyvonne
offbeat garden spirit
had plans today but isolated when no one texted me
i don't do well if there isn't a discussed time for meetup .. .
is it adhd? i just freeze sometimes, especially when my social battery is low
i don't do well if there isn't a discussed time for meetup .. .
is it adhd? i just freeze sometimes, especially when my social battery is low
I'm not sure. I'm not a doctor or anything, but adhd is normally about concentration/focus. Sorry that things didn't go as you planned today! It's late now, but maybe treat yourself by watching a favorite movie/show or one that you've been wanting to see. Hope you feel better!
I feel like I don’t have any meaningful friendships which is pretty embarrassing at my age. If you asked me to name three good friends I’ve formed in my lifetime, I couldn’t. I screwed myself not forming any friendships when I was younger. It’s weird inserting myself into already formed friend groups as an adult and feeling like you’re not one of them. It’s so complicated but I wish I knew what having friends felt like. I wish I knew what it was like to go out and do things.
Inflation sucks. I work in a warehouse and a lot of the stuff we ship out to different stores has really went up. Those big barrels of party mix, chips, pretzels, cheeseballs ect used to be like $5 and now they're $9. It's insane how people continue to support it. If they'd just stop the companies would drop the price reluctantly, but this only encourages them to rise the price again for some stupid reason that has no relation to their company or product.
It's like how Twitter is trying to force people to pay for password security, which is also illegal, but Elon has the buyers remorse so bad. Lots of people are abandoning ship in March when this happens and I am all for watching this idiot get what he deserves.
I think that happens to all of us at some point. A lot of the people I was really close to and had great friendships with have drifted. Some of them don't even live in the same place/states anymore. Others changed so drastically that it was like walking on eggshells trying not to set them off and I realized it was time to let them go. So you didn't screw yourself. If you ask any one person how many childhood friends they still keep in touch with, there won't be a lot.
We're always forming new friendships. It's not as easy to do that when you're a young adult and not in school anymore where all of your peers were stuck in the same place for 8ish hours. I remember you mentioning how you travel to places a lot. So it's not like you aren't going out and doing things.
I know I don’t normally respond but I see your replies, and they mean a lot. I seem to talk about these things a lot in here. Things like this normally don’t bother me, but seeing other friend groups and how close people are just reminds me of how much I’m not. I guess in my mind, I really wish I had meaningful connections like that. I think travel is the one thing I’m into in which I had no outside influence to get into. I still wish I had a few side hobbies though because I feel like there’s nothing to me, but again, that feeling is amplified only when around other people.
I appreciate you taking the time to reply to my posts. I have been reading your replies and they do mean a lot. I’ve been thinking a lot of maybe joining a discord community (maybe for mental health/anxiety) but I’m not too sure if people are in there necessarily to make friends. I think I’d be an outsider.
swiftieaddy13
i don’t want no other shade of blue, but you
im kind of super tired of my classmates pointing out ever single insecurity that i have. like, please shut up!!! leave me alone and go play with your b@lls or something idfk
