Your First Love.

[ams]

I fell in love twice in my life with two ass holes. the first one took me on a date then said he wouldn't marry me and brought up half assed excuses, the second one turned out to be married and I knew after we spent a lot of time together and I was so blind I stayed with him for 2 weeks after I knew because I'm so stupid, he lied to me about his interests and pretended to have a lot of things in common with me, later he admitted little by little that he basically lied about everything he told me before...just as I thought I've finally found some one who understands me. I hate myself

Girl hate that dude love yourself <3

 

[bigger34]

I've never deeply been in love

This.

 

[radical6]

I've been in love with him ever since I met him in middle school and I still do love him <3

 

[reririx]

So Who was it and how did it Happen?Why did it happen? And how did it change you as a person?
Ill share my story soon but was just wondering other peoples story also.

My ex-boyfriend was my first love. I had two relationships before I met him.

When I was with him I realized that my last two boyfriends... I was not in love with them at all. Just young infatuation and such (first relationship was 13 y/o to 18 y/o). He came to Canada from Korea to study English... we met and we dated from June 28 2014 and broke up a year and a half after.

He went back to Korea but it wasn't the distance that broke us. We both were okay (hard at first though). But his priorities were horrible and he would ditch me or break his promise to FaceTime with me (important since we were in a LDR)... I told him about it, he freaked out and left me.

Time goes by and I met my current boyfriend who I came to love. I moved on from my ex but when he found out I entered a new relationship... he was begging for me back and calling me constantly. My boyfriend had to confront my ex and they were going at it with each other in Korean lol.

What did I learn or what did my relationship do to change me? Not much. I'm still the irrational, and sensitive woman I was before I met him. I did learn a few things from him that are etched in my mind.

For example, he was very lighthearted, didn't take things too seriously, knew when to let go of issues or situations when he is stressed etc. He was trusting, secure, and really positive. He set a great example for me to let go of things I cannot control, to not be so hard on myself, etc. Insecurities and trust are things I still struggle with, along with controlling my emotions. But I am taking it one step at a time. ^^

Now I know you didn't ask about my current boyfriend but I just want to mention he's really different from my ex. My boyfriend is very logical, practical, and realistic. I am a bit of a dreamer and act on my emotions. We argue a lot due to those differences but I am hoping to learn from my boyfriend to control my emotions, think more rationally, and be more realistic. My boyfriend has a lot to teach me and I have a lot to teach him too... that's one reason why I love relationships, you can learn from one another. ^^

 

[Acruoxil]

Back in grade 8, she was my ex.

I met another girl afterwards last year that I fell for, but we kind of distanced and I couldn't really get through to her. We're still good friends though

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

For me it took years to find somebody I could actually love. I always find that people throw that word around too free and easy, it starts to lose its meaning. I was about 22 and they were a work colleague. We were together for about a year, broke up and got back together for a few months but it just wasn't the same. Didn't change my feelings though. I'll always love them but I know full well they don't feel the same which to me, means that they never felt it to begin with.
I always said you don't just stop loving somebody, you either always will or never did. Whatever they did I would forgive them, within reason. Doesn't mean I would take them back because I know what they put me through. But like I said, doesn't change my feelings

How depressing

 

[Sunday_Rose]

edit: eh wasn't love at all, just my first real crush story. Never been deeply in love cause I don't think I could truly give my whole heart to someone unless I knew they would hold it and not break it.

 

[Altarium]

I've never deeply been in love

Pretty much.

 

[ellarella]

i met her while i was in a mental institution when i was about 14, and she was way too pretty for me. she somehow ended up becoming my girlfriend (though it feels weird to call her that, since i was way too shy/anxiety-ridden at the time to do basically any basic human interaction). she broke up with me after a few weeks, and i lost contact with her quickly after. i sometimes wonder what she's up to and if she's well, but i can't remember her last name so it's impossible to find her on facebook.

 

[Chicha]

I've often had crushes on guys throughout the years but they never went anywhere since I was super shy at the time and they had no clue. Eventually, I got along fantastically with a guy I met online and developed crushes on each other. It took years for us to meet but it was worth the wait. After many visits back and forward & basically getting tired of being long distance, we now live together. We grew up with each other and are each other's best friends so I think I'm very lucky in that aspect.

 

[Kaiserin]

He's my current lover, I met him on Chatzy when I was 13. We became friends and then lovers.
3 years later, we been together for 2 years and 6 months. I'm engaged to him and I never been happier.

 

[pawpatrolbab]

My first love is my current boyfriend, and it happened cause of these forums! I feel like it's made me a happier person, but idk

 

[ellsieotter]

ok for my love story (sry this may be long).

my first real love is my husband. I had other boyfriends before him but they weren't serious. I met him in middle school. he was in 7th grade and I was in 8th. I saw him playing basketball at recess and would playfully tease him and I ended up giving him a cute nickname bc I had a crush on him. He ignored me most of the time lol. he was mutual friends with my best friend's crush so we all hung out together one day and hit it off. he added me to instant messenger and we chatted for awhile, hung out a few times at the park, then finally he asked me out. our relationship lasted 1 week. he broke up w/ me for another girl in his class bc he knew I'd be going to high school the following year and wanted to date someone in the same grade as him.

fast forward a year & a half later and we reconnected again. when he finally entered h/s (he was a freshman and I was a sophomore) we noticed each other. he started coming to the library to do his homework and I was always in there reading before class. we rekindled our romance bc I noticed one day he checked out a book that I had previously read. we ended up talking again and the rest is history the problem was I already had a boyfriend, who I quickly broke up with to date my now husband. he asked me to be his gf late september 2007 & we married june 2015. we did break up for 2 months in h/s during my junior year and a week in college (due to a fight) but other than that we have been together ever since

and to answer the question of how has it changed me? well, I know it's cliche but I am a better person because of him. I am more honest with myself and others, kinder, and more confident. we've both grown up together. to being two middle schoolers infatuated w/ each other, to h/s students falling in love, to struggling college students making sense of adulthood, to college graduates getting married, moving away, and starting a life together. we have been through it all and I'm so happy things turned out the way it did. I'm grateful every day we chose each other.

 

[vel]

never loved someone other than my fam prob. maybe some minor infatuation with some good looking funny guys at my school but other than that i don't really love anyone lmao

 

[SugardewVillage]

Nobody in the way you mean.

 

[Taj]

The first girl I ever felt true feelings for was in 7th grade, roughly five years ago. We talked here and there but really got to know each other. We started to date at the end of 9th grade, but I had to move a year later (to korea, which I still am). She said we would keep in touch. That was a lie. I found out around a month after she started dating this football player in the grade above her, and she didn't even have the courage to tell me. It was one of the main reasons why I have trust issues

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

I guess my first love would be my current girlfriend.

I mean I've had several romantic partners in the past, but really I got into relationships with just about all of them in hopes of finding someone I was actually interested in. None of that really worked and I sort of gave up on finding somebody I had legitimate romantic feelings for until about 3 years ago.

 

[Psydye]

Alcohol. I'm now an alcoholic(not really).

 

[tybalt_cake]

Eh...I'm too young to ever have find "real first love"

I've had crushes before but most of the time it was said by other idiots on the classroom and in the end when i confesed to my crush i liked her, basically would say "No" or "Yeah, i know already"...

 

[N e s s]

I used to have a crush on this one girl, but she moved away and we sorta just lost touch with each other.

On a more positive note, there is someone I currently like.