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For me, it's easier to type than talk. If I talk, I'm more likely to just break and start crying(hence, why therapy doesn't work...I'd be a crying mess the whole time). When I type, it's easier to still be crying, but it's not as much as an obstacle. That's if I'm talking about something emotional or my anxiety like "heeeeeyyyy wassup"
It's just easier. Maybe because none of you know who I am irl?
It's just easier. Maybe because none of you know who I am irl?
I definitely fit the title 100% because I also have social anxiety pretty bad and generally introverted irl. But online, I'm a total ***** and I come off as so extroverted when I type. When I got to meet my best friends in person last year (who I met here on TBT), my anxiety was not too bad as it usually is with people. After all, I got to know them both real well online 
I think that the one good thing about online friendships, if you befriend people who are genuine, is that you actually really get to know those people without any sort of bias. A lot of times irl, people seem to be so judgemental on every little thing you do, even over things that are petty and shouldn't matter. You like to sit in a certain spot in the cafeteria? You must be weird and I have to stay away. You drink coke instead of pepsi? You must be weird and I have to stay away.
While online, you become friends with people without your social bias getting in the way. If these people are trustworthy in the end and you're able to meet them, you might have the time of your life because you know they know you and will not judge you. I mean, once my friends had to go home, I literally cried for an hour and a half to two hours after the fact because I had so much fun and actually felt so happy to actually be able to spend time with people that I knew wouldn't judge me for anything. I am also not exaggerating with the crying. My parents were questioning me the whole half an hour taking me back to my grandma's house and my grandma was wondering why I was still crying LOL
I think that the one good thing about online friendships, if you befriend people who are genuine, is that you actually really get to know those people without any sort of bias. A lot of times irl, people seem to be so judgemental on every little thing you do, even over things that are petty and shouldn't matter. You like to sit in a certain spot in the cafeteria? You must be weird and I have to stay away. You drink coke instead of pepsi? You must be weird and I have to stay away.
While online, you become friends with people without your social bias getting in the way. If these people are trustworthy in the end and you're able to meet them, you might have the time of your life because you know they know you and will not judge you. I mean, once my friends had to go home, I literally cried for an hour and a half to two hours after the fact because I had so much fun and actually felt so happy to actually be able to spend time with people that I knew wouldn't judge me for anything. I am also not exaggerating with the crying. My parents were questioning me the whole half an hour taking me back to my grandma's house and my grandma was wondering why I was still crying LOL
wish i were you. being social online isn't gonna do anything for me...
also weow many thread replies. glad there's people like me.
though one thought i've always had...why? why, for some people, is it way easier online than real life? i don't think you guys are scientists or anything, but it always pops up in my head that there's some reason behind it...right?
I'm a little in between. Overall shy in real life with a few exceptions.
Online, I can still be the same way.
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The social anxiety that comes with communicating in real life can play a huge role. Online, no one really sees your face talking (unless you're video chatting of course), your body stance, whether to look them in the eyes, etc. It's unfortunately common.
Online, I can still be the same way.
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The social anxiety that comes with communicating in real life can play a huge role. Online, no one really sees your face talking (unless you're video chatting of course), your body stance, whether to look them in the eyes, etc. It's unfortunately common.
Antonio
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Well, no! I'm quite sociable for a guy who hides in his clothing. People know me, we talk at school. I got tons of friends but tbh, they are just high school friends. We don't hangout after school or communicate but we talk alot when we are at school.
That being said, I feel way more comfortable communicating with people on the internet rather than online but I do communicate with friends irl as well.
That being said, I feel way more comfortable communicating with people on the internet rather than online but I do communicate with friends irl as well.
It's funny. I think I'm perfectly fine with being social IRL but when it comes to it. I completely become socially awkward.
Online its fine because you can type at your own speed, where as IRL you have to come up with a response on the fly.
Online its fine because you can type at your own speed, where as IRL you have to come up with a response on the fly.
That's exactly why I'm more social on the internet. It's easier to talk to people when you have time to think of a good answer before saying it. I tend to be pretty slow with coming up with proper answers in real life and my answers tend to be quite short because of that - it apparently annoys people and I feel so bad.
Mines a bit confusing... I really like socialising irl but I'm terrible at kicking things off. If someone starts a conversation for me I'm sweet as, but I'm super awkward and quiet in a social environment (i.e. groups of people at parties and gatherings).
Online I'm fine and would say stuff I would only dream of saying irl ^-^
I'm trying to force my way into more social environments (I used to avoid them at all costs) and it's helped to some degree, but conversations get awkward cause I end up saying some bs and regretting it later
*sigh*
Online I'm fine and would say stuff I would only dream of saying irl ^-^
I'm trying to force my way into more social environments (I used to avoid them at all costs) and it's helped to some degree, but conversations get awkward cause I end up saying some bs and regretting it later
*sigh*It seems like a lose lose situation. You might end up accidentally saying something bad/awkward. To try and keep the flow of the conversation going.
I think many people who frequent online communities can relate it's so much easier to thoughtfully type out messages and responses than it is to just.. speak them. There's no backspace irl
There came a point where it got easier to 'pretend' to be social and like I'm relaxed and know how to respond in social situations lol. though it's tiring.
never been much of a social person irl, but i've personally been finding myself becoming less social both online lately
There came a point where it got easier to 'pretend' to be social and like I'm relaxed and know how to respond in social situations lol. though it's tiring.
never been much of a social person irl, but i've personally been finding myself becoming less social both online lately
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visibleghost
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im never social but irl im Extremely avoidant, online im more social but not in one on one conversation, just on forums or similar
Chicha
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I'm the opposite. I'm more social offline than online. With online, I feel like it's difficult to tell how people are really feeling or if they want to talk to you. It's kind of strange. Offline, it feels much easier to be able to tell. I prefer having a physical presence most of the time.
Metal Scorpion
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I've been hurt to the point where interacting both online and in real life is quite a challenge, and have become incredibly shy as a result.
I gotta say, slightly both? Like for me defaintly I have a problem speaking due to my voice, I don't like my voice and the way I speak causes me to just go red everytime I try and speak to people or new people. I also find it harder to pronouce words and stutter a little and can't think of the right word so none of it comes out right. So then this always makes me go red, cause I'm still trying to be myself around people I talk to and I'm friends with but its hard to make it all out for them to understand me.
I remember being so freaking brave and tried talking to someone on the bus, just to ask them a question of what they were watching (i'm sure it was something was into) before even speaking to the guy my mind was racing, trying to figure out what to say HOW to say it and when it would be a good time and worrying about if I lose my chance to do so. Because if I did, I would feel even worse. So i spoke to him, and just asked the series and what season hes on, of course far ahead of me and the last thing i said was I need to catch up. After that it was just really awkward and just caused my mind to whirl. We both got off at the same bus stop and that jsut made it worse and I felt really awkward, like I did it, but I also hated myself for doing so.
Online is a different story, sure I'm wary as anyone would be, but the main fact I liked talking to people is being able to type it, typing actually helps me out a lot, cause I'm not one to blurt out my problems properly, I write them down and it reliefs me a little bit (not something I go back to look at at though). Because typing gives me time to read what I say and what my thoughts say rather than speaking them with tongue. With typing I can't correct anything before giving someone a mistake. I guess it helps that I do write my own stories so that usually helps too. But just having the typing move out the awkward silence if we were speaking, allows me to get to know people online better.
You can also kinda tell I can be more honest when talking to people online, not like I want to express too much of my problems, but if they are ready to read, listen, then I would and I would be able to describe it well enough. I also find it easier cause when I try and talk to people in real life about problems I have to take in their emotion and that stops me from saying everything.
Sorry this was long XD haha
I sort of get like this, usually when I'm upset and having people comfort me when i'm like this makes me feel worse, I usualy try and not get upset infront of others. And since I can't talk properly when I'm upset that doesn't help either defaintly when people want answers.
Thank you for reading~
I remember being so freaking brave and tried talking to someone on the bus, just to ask them a question of what they were watching (i'm sure it was something was into) before even speaking to the guy my mind was racing, trying to figure out what to say HOW to say it and when it would be a good time and worrying about if I lose my chance to do so. Because if I did, I would feel even worse. So i spoke to him, and just asked the series and what season hes on, of course far ahead of me and the last thing i said was I need to catch up. After that it was just really awkward and just caused my mind to whirl. We both got off at the same bus stop and that jsut made it worse and I felt really awkward, like I did it, but I also hated myself for doing so.
Online is a different story, sure I'm wary as anyone would be, but the main fact I liked talking to people is being able to type it, typing actually helps me out a lot, cause I'm not one to blurt out my problems properly, I write them down and it reliefs me a little bit (not something I go back to look at at though). Because typing gives me time to read what I say and what my thoughts say rather than speaking them with tongue. With typing I can't correct anything before giving someone a mistake. I guess it helps that I do write my own stories so that usually helps too. But just having the typing move out the awkward silence if we were speaking, allows me to get to know people online better.
You can also kinda tell I can be more honest when talking to people online, not like I want to express too much of my problems, but if they are ready to read, listen, then I would and I would be able to describe it well enough. I also find it easier cause when I try and talk to people in real life about problems I have to take in their emotion and that stops me from saying everything.
Sorry this was long XD haha
I sort of get like this, usually when I'm upset and having people comfort me when i'm like this makes me feel worse, I usualy try and not get upset infront of others. And since I can't talk properly when I'm upset that doesn't help either defaintly when people want answers.
Thank you for reading~
I'm extremely shy in real life and also very shy online (hence my username! ). Sometimes I post but everyone ignores it or I think of something to say and the topic suddenly changes or I second-guess myself and don't submit it, so I don't really say much ever unless it's like a one on one conversation or something, in which case I'm usually fairly social.
). Sometimes I post but everyone ignores it or I think of something to say and the topic suddenly changes or I second-guess myself and don't submit it, so I don't really say much ever unless it's like a one on one conversation or something, in which case I'm usually fairly social.
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