Becoming an adult

[Buttonsy]

Anyone else here in the late teen to early adult age kind of going through learning what you are going to do with your life as an adult??? IDK it just might be good to have a place to vent, give advice, or just be reminded that we aren't alone.

I'm disabled so I've generally not even been going to school, but I'm starting to get to a place where I maybe think I could have a job. It's very scary as a disabled person to consider working, but I think I might be ready. To test myself, within the week I'm going to go down to the volunteer centre and try to find some volunteer work to do to test my limits of how much work I can get done as a disabled person, and if I don't have a complete breakdown, I think I'm gonna try to apply for a part-time job.

I've considered going back to school, but I think I'm just gonna study for the GED instead.

I've got some other ideas for my future too, but right now they are sort of distant and I think I want to focus on more immediate stuff.

 

[nintendofan85]

I am, as I'll be an adult in a year and a half.
I personally can't wait for it. I'm sick of living with my parents...

 

[piske]

Hey, GOOD FOR YOU FOR TRYING! I seriously applaud you. I'm older than you and some days I still don't feel like I've got this whole "adult" thing figured out. I pay bills and work a full-time job but I still feel relatively immature. You're showing a high-level of maturity for trying and I think that's a really great plan to focus on immediate and achievable goals first. Then you can progress. Good luck with your volunteering and studying! c:

 

[Gregriii]

as an autistic kiddo with ADHD a petty personality and unability to show empathy towards people I can openly say I will get ****ed up when I grow up ^^

yay

 

[Buttonsy]

Hey, GOOD FOR YOU FOR TRYING! I seriously applaud you. I'm older than you and some days I still don't feel like I've got this whole "adult" thing figured out. I pay bills and work a full-time job but I still feel relatively immature. You're showing a high-level of maturity for trying and I think that's a really great plan to focus on immediate and achievable goals first. Then you can progress. Good luck with your volunteering and studying! c:

Thanks for the encouragement!!

 

[piske]

Thanks for the encouragement!!

Sure, I hope it didn't sound condescending -3-

 

[Buttonsy]

Sure, I hope it didn't sound condescending -3-

Don't worry, you definitely didn't, I really appreciated it.

 

[Daydream]

Good luck with your projects! You seem to be very motivated, I'm sure you'll be fine and you'll have a lot of fun!

I'm also in this weird period of our lives, stuck between my teenage years and the "adult" life. I hate getting older. I just turned 19 a few days ago. I already feel so old xD I finished college this year and I'm now taking a year off school... To work, and also to choose what I will study at Uni. How am I supposed to know what I will do for the rest of my life... At 19? I HATE this. I want to be 13 again and have fun with my friends in high school

Sorry if I'm being so pessimistic about my situation, I know it will get better as I get older, but right now I'm stuck between two parts of my life. xD

 

[Soigne]

I'm in the same boat, about to turn 18 & start at a new college but I don't know what I want to do in regards to a study field. I used to think I wanted to do something medical but I really can't see myself doing that. I don't know what I see myself doing (going in undeclared). I'm taking a career explorations class starting in a week or so, I hope that gives me some direction.

Good luck to you! It can be scary, but do what you want to do & tackle what you can!

 

[nintendofan85]

Anyways, I had meant to say earlier that I wish you luck!

 

[Rizies]

I am technically an adult, but I still feel like I am always learning.

I moved out of my parents house 8 months ago, and I am still in a learning curve. I had to learn how to cook, maintaining a house, I have my kitten to look after, I work full-time at a job I hate. It sucks.

Worst part is if I just leave my job, it feels like I would be ruining my career.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

Certainly feeling old after somebody said they feel old at 19 wish I was 19 again....

Well, I'm disabled myself and I spent my last 10 years since leaving school working with disabled/special needs children/young people. It doesn't have to prevent you from doing anything....I am understand it might be scary, but the pros far out weigh that.
I would recommend work experience/a spell of voluntary work in an area you are interested in. I went and did my voluntary work in a school, I'm working with one 16 year old now who is doing his as a mechanic in a car garage.

Don't push yourself massively on qualifications. I'm degree educated for my field of work and it's still never allowed me to find a position for that qualification. I've always worked below it.

So, try out a workplace you are interested in and take it from there. You can always see if there are any courses you an take at a later date to improve your skills in whatever area you have chosen

Best of luck to you

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

I'm 23 and I still don't know how to be an adult?
Someone please help me.

 

[Paperboy012305]

Becoming an adult would be a very hard first step in the world. Paying my bills and taxes, getting a job (Which is either Gamestop or an Ice cream shop) I don't want to raise children because its tedious IMO.

I'm only 18, time will tell. (I sure hope so...)

 

[andrewdklee]

I graduated from college last year and have been working for about a year now.
And I'll be completely honest about my thought process for the last few years.
When I was in high school, all I could think about was leaving the house and living on my own in college. I love my parents to death, but at the same time, I wanted the independence and did not want to have to explain everything I am, or will do to my parents.
Once I got to college, the first couple weeks it was magnificent. I absolutely loved being out till whenever I felt like, eating whatever and whenever I wanted. But this high lasted for a very short period of time.
I realized that being older, being alone meant that I needed to do everything on my own, from small chores to dishes and laundry, but at the same time I needed to deal with real world problems like having my car break down on the highway, four hours away from home.
I thought things would change once I graduated college, once I had true autonomy and a real job.
That really wasn't the case either.
I realized that soon I would no longer be on my parents medical insurance, had to start paying off my loans, paying for my own car insurance, the list goes on and on.
It was at that moment that I truly began to appreciate everything that my parents have done for me and had to offer me. So my advice? Save up as much money as you can, there's nothing wrong with living with your parents after college either. Why? Because you'll be saving up money that you can spend on experiences, rather than rent and utilities. You could travel the world with the money you needed to spend on living expenses.
And thank you parents. They sacrificed much more than we can possibly fathom and we can't possibly thank them enough. And there's no rush to becoming an adult. It's one of those things that happens whether we want it to or not.
And enjoy your life. I understand everyone is different but those were just my thoughts and wanted to share them with you guys. Love to hear what you all think too!

 

[Celestefey]

I know this feeling all too well. I'm 18 but I've had to grow up a lot in these past few years and even now I am. I only work a part time job but I suck at saving money and I don't really enjoy it (then again it is just a ****ty retail job and I partly want to go into teaching which I know is something I find rewarding), honestly I don't think I'm ever going to leave education. I'm moving in September anyway for uni so I guess I'll get my first experience of adult-ing then lmao. I'm pretty good at taking care of myself, cooking, cleaning, doing chores, it's more so the money side of things... Oops.

 

[visibleghost]

i dont thiink i'll ever be an adult . i can hhanlde anything that adults are supposed to do and i'm not really stable enough to be alivefor that long anyways

 

[piichinu]

idk my parents r gonna do everything for me that i ask for help with its the culture

i mean im not sure what there is to struggle with...im going to college then med school then residency then fellowship
ill pay what student loans im left with bc my parents are being RUDE and punishing me for something from years ago and not paying 4 everything. not sure if they are trying to scare me into applying for scholarships but it's w/e
taxes arent gonna be hard my dad does them himself and if he can do them i can,...ik how to fix plumbing issues i know how to live i can basically do any task so im not too worried about anything

credit cards, check books, bills, savings/retirement are not difficult concepts either...so

 

[wassop]

i don't really feel grown up at all , i just do things that i " should " do . i have a few college credits but i'm going to officially start full time in 2 weeks with a major in nursing to be a psych or neonatal nurse practitioner . i'm not 100% set yet if i want to go this route , though , or become a psychiatrist or computer scientist like i originally wanted to do before nursing . i have a kind of plan but not really so i hope everything goes okay

 

[Lyraa]

I'll be going to university in less than a year and honestly, I feel as though I am not ready to adult, at all. I'm thinking of renting a house with my boyfriend if we do attend the same university to make things easier and not entering halls of residence as I've heard it's a waste of money in some perspective, but it is crazy, absolutely crazy to think I will no longer be living with my parents in less than a year and last time I checked, I was still 10 years old. ;.;