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nintendofan85
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Speak of the devil. I was just talking about this my mom a few hours ago.
I am absolutely not kidding when I say this: my dad and I haven't had a good relationship since 2008 at least, if not longer. It all started just because in March 2008, shortly before we left for a spring break trip to Orlando during my 2nd grade year, I broke a camera that I had received that previous Christmas.
My relationship got even worse with him in 2009. Largely, downturns in our relationship can be blamed because he takes his anger out on me when his back pain is really bad. He's had since he was just 21 years old in 1988, and it started worsening in 1995 after he started working as a software engineer and having to sit at a desk all day. It came to headwinds in 2009 because in mid-January that year (oddly enough, the same day as Barack Obama's inauguration), my dad had to be rushed to the ER at midnight, and then spent five days in the hospital at the end of the month. Our relationship started worsening mainly that following March when a dismal report card came in, and my dad was even more unhappy the following month when I began playing Animal Crossing. He was already suspicious of me playing video games after that report card had come in, but to him, playing Animal Crossing was the last straw because it's too "girly" and "cutesy". This would put a lot of strain on our relationship during most of 2009 and 2010. Also, his trust with me when it came to electronics, already low because of what happened in 2008, became even lower in 2011 after me and my mom accidentally cracked the screen of his laptop, yet all blame was placed on me.
However, while our relationship hasn't been good since 2008, I almost feel like it could be said that 2012 and 2013 were some of the worst years for our relationship. Literally, those were years that it appeared that I was nothing but a number to him.
That mentality could be beginning to be seen in 2009 when that dismal report card came in March, but by far September 2012-February 2013 was a time where our relationship seemed to be dying just because of school and grades.
It all started when in September 2012, a progress report (they're like report cards at my school but they come in between each nine weeks) came in and at the time I didn't have any A's (yet many grades were pulled up within a month), which angered my father. Even though I got some of the grades up to A's when the report card came the following month, having one C seriously angered him, and he got even angrier when he found out I had to turn in a project for my gifted class late (which was just an elective).
A poor average in my math class in October and November then really did our relationship in soon afterward. I did finish with a C in the class that nine weeks, and then when another progress report showed low grades in February of 2013, my dad once again was extremely unhappy, even though I managed to have honor roll grades once the report cards came out the following month.
This poor relationship based on grades managed to come to an end for a bit after February, but after a mediocre science average showed up on the last report card in May, my dad was once again unhappy. Also, in the first semester of my 8th grade year (later in 2013), I had a C in my science class, which once again made him terribly unhappy.
While much of my relationship with my dad since 2009 has been based on numbers, in 2012 and 2013 it reached an apex that literally drove me to depression and made me very nihilistic. It's honestly no surprise also that my interest in Japan was something that also would drive us apart around that time, and even though he tried to stop it (and I actually tried to bend to his will on that), I always had another interest that made him unhappy and that's when I realized I can't live my life to appease others.
I am absolutely not kidding when I say this: my dad and I haven't had a good relationship since 2008 at least, if not longer. It all started just because in March 2008, shortly before we left for a spring break trip to Orlando during my 2nd grade year, I broke a camera that I had received that previous Christmas.
My relationship got even worse with him in 2009. Largely, downturns in our relationship can be blamed because he takes his anger out on me when his back pain is really bad. He's had since he was just 21 years old in 1988, and it started worsening in 1995 after he started working as a software engineer and having to sit at a desk all day. It came to headwinds in 2009 because in mid-January that year (oddly enough, the same day as Barack Obama's inauguration), my dad had to be rushed to the ER at midnight, and then spent five days in the hospital at the end of the month. Our relationship started worsening mainly that following March when a dismal report card came in, and my dad was even more unhappy the following month when I began playing Animal Crossing. He was already suspicious of me playing video games after that report card had come in, but to him, playing Animal Crossing was the last straw because it's too "girly" and "cutesy". This would put a lot of strain on our relationship during most of 2009 and 2010. Also, his trust with me when it came to electronics, already low because of what happened in 2008, became even lower in 2011 after me and my mom accidentally cracked the screen of his laptop, yet all blame was placed on me.
However, while our relationship hasn't been good since 2008, I almost feel like it could be said that 2012 and 2013 were some of the worst years for our relationship. Literally, those were years that it appeared that I was nothing but a number to him.
That mentality could be beginning to be seen in 2009 when that dismal report card came in March, but by far September 2012-February 2013 was a time where our relationship seemed to be dying just because of school and grades.
It all started when in September 2012, a progress report (they're like report cards at my school but they come in between each nine weeks) came in and at the time I didn't have any A's (yet many grades were pulled up within a month), which angered my father. Even though I got some of the grades up to A's when the report card came the following month, having one C seriously angered him, and he got even angrier when he found out I had to turn in a project for my gifted class late (which was just an elective).
A poor average in my math class in October and November then really did our relationship in soon afterward. I did finish with a C in the class that nine weeks, and then when another progress report showed low grades in February of 2013, my dad once again was extremely unhappy, even though I managed to have honor roll grades once the report cards came out the following month.
This poor relationship based on grades managed to come to an end for a bit after February, but after a mediocre science average showed up on the last report card in May, my dad was once again unhappy. Also, in the first semester of my 8th grade year (later in 2013), I had a C in my science class, which once again made him terribly unhappy.
While much of my relationship with my dad since 2009 has been based on numbers, in 2012 and 2013 it reached an apex that literally drove me to depression and made me very nihilistic. It's honestly no surprise also that my interest in Japan was something that also would drive us apart around that time, and even though he tried to stop it (and I actually tried to bend to his will on that), I always had another interest that made him unhappy and that's when I realized I can't live my life to appease others.
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I'll play catch outside with you in your front lawn
I mean I don't want to seem like a bad person for saying this, but my dad has been here for my whole life and has been a really good father. I'm so sorry for those of you who don't have / know / live with one. I really wish I could change that for everyone so we all can have perfect families (not like your families aren't already perfect - wow I word things terribly)
I mean I don't want to seem like a bad person for saying this, but my dad has been here for my whole life and has been a really good father. I'm so sorry for those of you who don't have / know / live with one. I really wish I could change that for everyone so we all can have perfect families (not like your families aren't already perfect - wow I word things terribly)
Dawnpiplup
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My dad and I do not have a very close relationship. I have not seen him for about two years now, and it was by chance that we met again. I don't talk to him nor see him, due to me being restricted by my family; I do not really mind this. My mom says that once I'm older, I may visit him if I wish. My dad has done some bad things in the past...he was a smoker, which was why I had nosebleeds and was sick often when I was young. After the divorce, he never gave my mom the money he was supposed to in order to help her take care of me (I'm not quite sure how often, but I believe that he was supposed to give my mom money every month). While living with my dad for several days when I was young, I'll admit, I had some fun experiences. I had fun playing with my cousins. However, I also had some bad experiences there....I remember being left all alone, at night, in my dad's apartment. I remember sleeping with my dad. I remember having this dream, where I was coming back to my mother...it seemed that I missed her...I don't remember the dream quite clearly, but I think I was saying 'Mom!' in the dream.
My dad has said that he loves me, that he cares about me. I wish he would've been more responsible and less lazy. I wish that he would've helped my mom take care of me by giving her the money. Alas, we cannot go back in time and fix the wrong things that we have done. I just hope that he will change into a better person.
My dad has said that he loves me, that he cares about me. I wish he would've been more responsible and less lazy. I wish that he would've helped my mom take care of me by giving her the money. Alas, we cannot go back in time and fix the wrong things that we have done. I just hope that he will change into a better person.
TarzanGirl
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Mine was dead so yes I guess?
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