Do you feel pretty?

[TurnipBell20]

I generally don’t feel ugly, especially not when I put mascara and eyeliner on.

But a while ago I was with a friend who looked stunning. Her green eyes are so beautiful and she has the perfect face. I felt so uncomfortable next to her because everyone looked at her. I thought they might find me ugly.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? And what do you do to feel prettier?

 

[Croconaw]

I can’t say I’ve ever found myself comparing myself to other people in terms of looks. I’m satisfied with the way that I look. It was just a matter of not feeling happy with the way I currently looked due to my hair being too long and wavy, my clothes being too girly, or my teeth being messed up. My hair is now short to my liking, I now wear hats and I changed my wardrobe to be a lot more masculine. About the teeth, those are fixed now, too, but won’t go into detail about it.

I feel more like myself now that I can dress more masculine. I think I would have sooner, but didn’t start buying my own clothes until after high school when I started working. I just feel more comfortable expressing myself this way.

 

[thatawkwardkid]

I don't usually pay attention to that. I mean yeah I'll be aware of their appearance and looks but I try not to let myself get into that kind of headspace.

As for my appearance, I definitely don't think I'm model material but I've been told I'm decent looking multiple times. My goal is to just take care of myself

 

[Elov]

Not currently, no. I'm currently in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy, and just feel so physically uncomfortable in my body and mentally uncomfortable. I just can't wait to feel normal again. I miss weightlifting. I miss being able to turn over from side to side without it being a pain, or getting up and being able to jump or run. It's so physically uncomfortable to do anything atm. So I just feel really low in terms of my appearance right now. I'm just thankful it's only temporary and I can hopefully start working on myself in the upcoming months. And hopefully start feeling good about myself again. I know I shouldn't be too harsh on myself about this because my body has literally built a human being, but just needed to vent.

 

[Foreverfox]

@Elov congratulations on your baby! I very much remember telling my husband, "I want this baby outttt, get him outtt." Looking back on it now, we laugh, but at the time it was no laughing matter. My son will be 3 in August. Please feel free to message me directly if you ever need someone to talk to or vent to about newborn stuff, tiredness, anything. There's also the Parent Support Thread.

On the thread topic of do I feel pretty: on a daily basis, eh I feel average I guess. I never get a chance to do my makeup anymore really, and I don't ever really dress in anything but athletic pants and t-shirts. When I do get to dress up in regular clothes and put makeup on, it improves my feeling of how I look. With my son in tow all day, it's just hard to find time for that stuff when I have to balance other household things as well while my husband is working. Thankfully, he's able to take breaks sometimes and tells me to go do whatever I want or need to do. It's then that I usually go shower and do minimal makeup.

 

[Autumn247]

No I don't, I have extremely low self esteem and am also recovering from an eating disorder, I have a lot of hatred for the way I look and my body in general. I'm working on that in therapy though, so maybe that will change someday

 

[moo_nieu]

yes and no. i dont spend much time trying to pretty myself up, but i think i have nice features. im no model or anything though lol. i used to be pretty insecure about myself growing up, but i stopped wearing makeup and bras a few years ago and now only rarely wear makeup and its improved my self image a lot. it would be nice if i could stop shaving as well and fully embrace myself and my natural beauty, but im in a bit of a hard situation on that one. anyways, i try to focus on being kind and taking care of my mental health over my appearance since at the moment its hard to do everything

 

[cornimer]

I don't think I'm particularly good-looking, but I've never really cared. I'm much more self-conscious about my personality than my looks. I want people to like being around me; I don't care at all what they think about my appearance.

 

[nightglow]

I usually don't feel pretty but my happiness doesn't stem from if I feel pretty or not. From a society viewpoint, I'm not considered pretty. I'm much smaller than others and I'm overweight. I have brown hair instead of the desired blonde. My hair also frizzes and tangles easily even though it is straight hair. I also wear glasses but I guess glasses is considered more attractive now than what they use to. *I also don't wear make up because it is messy, disappears from the skin, and feels fake to me anyway. All this is far from the USA beauty standard from what I've noticed. If people complement me, it is on the cute side in an amused way instead of pretty.

As for feeling prettier, I think that depends on mental health rather than appearance changes. Beauty or what's considered pleasant is completely a personal opinion. I may not feel pretty but that doesn't mean I don't have a positive self image. I just may use other adjectives for myself instead that are still positive. And I do think what society screams about does effect views such as what is considered pretty or desirable image. And it isn't simply about a social aspect but even in an employment/career aspect too.
To wrap up. I think to feel prettier is to feel some sort of accomplishment or positive productivity in self image. It can be physical such as makeup or certain clothes or not such as cleaning a personal space or making a friend.

*I don't think bad about makeup. It just isn't for me personally. You do you and it's a-okay.

 

[Dwayne Johnson]

my gf says I have a nice jawline so that must count for something

 

[Mr_Keroppi]

Everyone is pretty and special in their own way so nobody should not feel pretty! I always do when I am happy! If people call me ugly I take that as them being Jealous! It also takes me waaay to long to get ready in the morning and I am a boy so.... I LOVE CLOTHES AND HAIR GEL. Whenever I am at school after a few hours the hair jell gets hard so my hair is CRONCHY LOL

 

[Foreverfox]

Everyone is pretty and special in their own way so nobody should not feel pretty! I always do when I am happy! If people call me ugly I take that as them being Jealous! It also takes me waaay to long to get ready in the morning and I am a boy so.... I LOVE CLOTHES AND HAIR GEL. Whenever I am at school after a few hours the hair jell gets hard so my hair is CRONCHY LOL

I loved "CRONCHY" way too much and laughed more than I feel I should have haha

 

[Midoriya]

I think I'm really good-looking.

 

[Roxxy]

I think I'm really good-looking.

Yes but you are sweet and kind which is the most important thing.

I always think that “pretty people” shouldn’t be special just because they “look good” Everyone is special in their own way. I personally love gorgeous eyes, as eyes are the windows to the soul. No one has to be “good looking“ to be gorgeous.

Personality and kindness are the most important

 

[nyx~]

Depends. Like right now I don't cause I'm just at home in PJs but when I get out of the house and put on actual clothes then yeah I do. But I honestly don't really care about other people's perspective of how I look, if it makes me happy then that's enough for me.

 

[Mattician]

Others say I am. I've always heard compliments about looking like Zac Efron and Ashton Kutcher when I was in high school and college. And now Jared Leto with my long hair. Which I will admit I do think I have pretty nice hair.

I just don't have the confidence. I'll be 30 in June and I've never been in a relationship.

 

[LadyDestani]

I have never thought of myself as pretty, but I don't think I'm ugly either. I believe that I'm average looking with a few flaws like bad skin that make me self-conscious about my looks. I can feel a bit less self-conscious if I cover my flaws with make-up, but I've basically given up wearing it during the pandemic because I hate the way it feels on my face and the stains it sometimes leaves on my clothes.

I've always thought just from an outer beauty perspective that all of my friends were prettier than me, but I didn't care about that when I was with them. I was too busy enjoying their company.

I do think beauty is more than skin deep, though, and I believe that my personality can make me 'prettier' when I open up to someone.

 

[SpaceTokki77]

my self esteem has always been quite low, but i have felt pretty on some occasions. usually it’s only when i have makeup on (sad, i know) but once or twice i’ve woken up and been happy with my appearance.

 

[-Blue-]

No, I'm not. Never considered myself to be good looking in any way. It doesn't bother me and I don't get caught up on it. I just consider myself nothing great. Occasionally it will cross my mind, for instance right now due to this thread, but I will forget about it within a day or so.

 

[~Kilza~]

"Pretty" is not the word I'd use to describe myself, but I am comfortable with the way I look, which is what matters to me.