Dream Wedding Venue?

[Bluelady]

Ah, my imaginary wedding. Another “what if…” scenario that I like to entertain but hope that it never comes true.

Anyway, if I were to have a wedding; then I would most likely wear a blue dress. Looking at my username, this shouldn’t be a surprise. Haha. The style would be a sweetheart dress.

The season would probably be in spring because all of the seasons are too crazy where I live. Especially summer. Forget about it.

I haven’t thought about stuff like venues and color palettes though. At some point I did have an idea, but my eldest sister’s wedding changed that vision. Her wedding was big and very stressful for everyone involved with the planning. Different styles of communication from everyone made following instructions confusing and slowed things down as a result.

After that day I decided that if I ever get married, it would either have to be done through civil or in a small chapel. Only close family members will be allowed. None of this nonsense of asking Mom/MIL who they would like to invite.

 

[CrankyCupcake]

If I was getting married today, I'd want my wedding to be at a cat cafe. With a maximum of 12-15 guests. Friends, cats and coffee would make the day perfect.

The reality is I'd gotten married 32 years ago when cat cafes weren't a thing. Still, it was a small gathering of the 15 or so people dear to us, at our new home, for a simple lunch. My husband and I are introverts and we don't enjoy being in any kind of limelight, so we've always wanted to make our wedding a small, simple and intimate affair. None of that extravagant 10-course wedding dinner banquet for at least 100 people in a prestigious hotel ballroom that is expected in our culture.

(It helped that my husband and I were the youngest children and the last in our respective families to get married, so our parents were okay with a low-key event from us since they've already experienced all the heady excitement that is associated with an extravagant weddding with their older children.)

 

[kayleee]

My dream venue would definitely be a castle of some sort with a huge garden. Unfortunately there are no such buildings near where I live - plus, weddings are so expensive, so my husband and I opted to elope and have a small gathering of our closest 30 family and friends. It’s unfortunately still quite expensive but much less than a traditional wedding.

 

[Jhine7]

I'm getting married in October in an 1880s Castle listed on the National Register of Historic Places. The place just wowed us when we were touring different venues last summer. For a great price too.

 

[CrazyMario64]

IF I end up getting married (i doubt i will honnestly) I want it to be a Kirby themed one. IF THATS NOT HOW THE WEDDING'S GOING TO BE IM NOT GETTING MARRIED >:/
edit: didnt think this would be my 69th post ._.

 

[Neb]

I definitely want a nicer venue than my parents went with (they had their ceremony in a fish shack themed restaurant). In my mind I imagine somewhere either on a mountain or in a dense forest. Maybe there could be a lake nearby too. Regardless, it would ideally be somewhere in nature. I don’t find city weddings very appealing.

 

[Kitsuragi]

probably just a courthouse wedding. my family is full of too many volatile people to have in one place, same with my partners. but if i absolutely had to have a normal wedding, i'd like it to be somewhere tropical. i know thats the most generic answer but it would be warm and scenic

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

I'm already married but my dream venue would be a house/apartment that we own. I think backyard weddings can be pretty classy

 

[ouafaeha]

I think I would not want to have a wedding event. Undoubtedly, it is one of the most important events in family life.

 

[nightglow]

We had our wedding in a small church we were attending before we moved. It was a small short wedding as wanted. I planned for a friend and a cousin to stand with me, but I had just my cousin since my friend wouldn't because she didn't want to wear dress clothing with the rest of us that I was willing to pay for. My spouse had his friend as his best man. We had a couple of pastors we knew do the ceremony with us. We lit candles for the representation of union (some do other things like pouring colored sand). I used my grandmother's ring and I got a wedding dress on discount that was nice. We rented an arch and put some tuli, white Christmas lights, Christmas silver bells thingy, and some roses on it. We ordered our cake from I think Kroger? It was good.

The only regret I had about it was preparing food for the guests that decided to not stay and eat. If I would have known, then I wouldn't have bothered with the time making the food and the expense of it (and honestly probably wouldn't have invited them to begin with cuz, yeah.. ). I figured most would have had a bite to eat before leaving since the ceremony was only like 30 min or so. At least immediate family stayed and our current pastor, but they aren't numerous lol. I should have planned smaller.

The ceremony was great though and I really liked my wedding.

My personal advice is go super small unless you want to deal with the fickleness of people, tons of planning and rsvps (which I didn't want to deal with but I should have gone even smaller looking back).

 

[Bulbadragon]

I just got married in April and thought our wedding was pretty perfect! It was in a country club with the ballroom overlooking the golf course. It sounds a lot more expensive than it was, we went with it because it was super nice but very affordable. But, since it's a dream venue, I'd go with a lodge overlooking some beautiful forest scenery, and it would be fall with all the right colors on the leaves, or winter with plenty of snow. My husband and I love fall and winter, so that would have been ideal for us! We wanted to keep our same anniversary though, which is in April. Our wedding had a vintage theme, with antique teapots, teacups, and books as our decor. I think I'd still go with books in this dream venue, but match the other decor to the season and make it super cozy.

 

[amemome]

If I do get married, I'd like to do a small reception at a nice museum. Art has always been important to me so I imagine it might be nice to hire a docent to walk us through some artworks, then maybe do a little ceremony afterwards. I feel like it would be called a "wedding" only because my partner and I would be hosting it? I might also ask someone to take a group picture of us, but I dont think it has to be professional or "wedding" branded. I feel like I'm just describing a local poetry reading or book talk LOL.

Realistically I feel like there will be a lot of pressure from my parents to get married in a church.

 

[smug villager]

My boyfriend and I do plan to get married eventually, probably after I've graduated from college so he won't share any responsibility in shouldering my student debt. He is Pagan and I'm not religious, so we're planning to have a wedding with minimal Christian influence or traditions, leaning more towards a handfasting with the symbolic binding of the hands. We'll most likely get legally married in a courthouse the day before, then have the ceremony just for fun and celebration with a few of our closest friends. Probably only around 20-25 people total.

We're not planning anything too expensive, probably we'll have it somewhere nice and scenic in the woods or by a lake, do something more potluck-style rather than any high-end catering, and do a good amount of drinking. His best friend who he plans on having as a best man is a photographer on the side, and he's volunteered to take pictures for us, so that's taken care of.

Neither of us are women or believe in virginal purity or whatever, so no white dresses lol

 

[alpfabetti]

I think I would not want to have a wedding event. Undoubtedly, it is one of the most important events in family life. However, spending this money on a joint trip would be much better. I want to make exactly that in the future. Btw, my sister got married three months ago. She even had a hen night. However, she had to use the Bachelorette Party Help. I don’t think she could have done it without them. The party was cool. We got drunk and danced. I think Jeniffer left a fortune in this bar.

 

[skarmoury]

Unfortunately, I believe our country requires marriage at a church to make it a legal marriage. I'm saying 'unfortunately' because my bf and I are not much religious and I'd prefer a garden wedding. Regardless, I'd want the church to be a big and beautiful one and fill the inside with a lot of carnations so at least it has some semblance to a garden.

Also, this has to play at my wedding entrace or I'm not having it. It's been my dream tune since I was 16.

 

[QueenCobra]

I don’t know if I’ll ever get married, but if I do, I’d want to get married in autumn— surrounded by colorful leaves, a nice chill in the air…. Ideally a small park or somewhere else outside.

 

[tiffanistarr]

At a courthouse in my travel clothes because right after I sign those papers we’re taking whatever money we would have wasted on wedding and going on a long and nice honeymoon/vacation.

I hate the idea of a wedding. Vows seem romantic and sweet and the first dance, but after that it’s just a party for everyone else. I’m just not going to spend any amount of money where people will ultimately have more fun than me.

If I love you enough to marry you and see that we make a great team then I don’t need to declare that in front of people. I’m a huge fan of courthouse weddings and elopements. I don’t want anyones god or opinions thrown into my marriage or wedding.

I dislike the concept of marriage to begin with as I am so far from religious and you get more benefits if filing things single. I also just think a lot of wedding traditions are gross. Like the fiancé having to ask permission to marry their s/o is gross. The dad giving their child away…. eww im not yours. Taking the husbands last name - hell no. All those cheesy ceremony things people do like the candle ceremony or the sand one. It’s just awkward and hard to watch.

 

[Bluebellie]

My dream wedding venue is no wedding venue. I don’t really like weddings. If I do get married, it will probably in the courthouse with just me, my husband and the required witnesses. I don’t like weddings, and I feel like planning one would only be stressful and a waste of money for me. I would feel like I’m spending money on something I don’t even want.


I don’t really need a piece of paper to commit to someone. I don’t see myself getting married, but if it happens, for sure, there will be no ceremony.

 

[oak]

Me and my partner have been together over a decade and have never really thought about having a wedding. There's a lot of great forests around though for a natural themed wedding. My friend had a wedding a few years ago at a walk through garden & koi pond so that was pretty neat. It's just all so expensive.

 

[LadyDestani]

I also just think a lot of wedding traditions are gross. Like the fiancé having to ask permission to marry their s/o is gross. The dad giving their child away…. eww im not yours. Taking the husbands last name - hell no.

I definitely understand this. Even though I did want a wedding, I did it my way. If I didn't like the tradition, I didn't use it.

If my husband had asked my dad's permission before proposing to me, I would not have married him. My parents have no say in the matter. It's entirely my decision.

I would not allow my dad to give me away during the ceremony because I am not a possession. I didn't belong to anyone either before or after I got married. I did compromise and let my dad walk me down the aisle but then he promptly had to sit down and I walked the last bit myself.

I did take my husband's last name but only because I chose to do so. I had a very uncommon last name and I was tired of it constantly being misspelled and mispronounced. My husband has a simple last name that I like, so I opted to switch. If I had liked my last name better, I would have kept it.

And there were many, many other traditions I eschewed. I also kept everything short and sweet because I'm not a party person. No dancing, no big meal, no bouquet or garter tossing. Everything was on my husband's and my terms and we were out of there in under 2 hours.