Friendship

[namiieco]

I have a friend... lets name her Ash.
I have another friend and let's name her Leigh.

When this story started I had been friends with Ash for almost 3 years. She was the closest friend I had ever had.
My whole year was going to be performing 'The Wizard of Oz' for our "Leavers Production" and me and Leigh were picked to do props, the background etc. We had to do it for pretty much the whole day including most break's and lunches. I became quite good friends with Leigh. No wonder because we were cooped up alone for about 2 months.

Me and Ash usually talked on Skype. In the first month we were fine, normal. Starting month 2 she began to not talk as much and at the end she didn't talk at all. At prom she avoided me. My friends told me she was mad about me hanging out with Leigh. No surprise, that's girls for you. I thought she would be fine with me after a while because we were going to the name school without Leigh.

Yesterday I messaged her saying "Do you still want to be friends?"
And a few minutes ago I found out that she blocked me? Well it says "This person has not shared their details with you".

I'm pretty surprised how ticked off she is.
Should I keep trying to be friends? Should I give up?
I'm really socially awkward so it would be sooooooo hard for me to make new friends.

 

[00jachna]

If you miss being friends with Ash, try to talk it out with her irl

 

[Trent the Paladin]

If you miss being friends with Ash, try to talk it out with her irl

This is pretty much the correct answer.

Though to be frank if someone got upset because you made a new friend and pretty much ditched you over it, I wouldn't bother trying.

 

[Xara]

In a way, I think I kind of understand what's happening.

I could be wrong, but maybe Ash is jealous? From someone who has pretty bad jealousy issues, I can relate. Maybe she feels threatened by your new friendship with Leigh, and feels like you'd rather be friends with Leigh, than with her?

I'm not gonna try and pinpoint what exactly Ash is feeling any further than that, but as already suggested, you should try and talk to her face-to-face. But if it continues, then maybe it'd be best to just let her go.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

If you value your friendship with Ash, I would suggest trying to talk to her about it in person.
It could be any number of reasons though, maybe she is jealous, or maybe she has some other issues going on at the moment? Maybe she just felt left out.

I know that I have close friends who I might not see or speak to for weeks or months at a time, but if I needed them or they needed me we would always be there. It gets difficult as you get older and life gets in the way, other things take precedence. Just let her know that you will always be around for her (if that is how you think about her of course). Leave the door open, so to speak.

 

[Lyraa]

I've dealt with a similar situation, one of my friends got jealous because I tagged my other friend in a status on Facebook and she immediantly blocked me. When I tried to confront her about the situation she then brought my boyfriend into it (whom back then I hadn't been with for that long) so it was pretty obvious she was just jealous that I was meeting new people and widening my friendship group a little. Unfortunately because of past arguments I haven't really bothered to waste my time on someone as toxic as her.

But if I were you, if there was a chance to calmly speak about your situation in person and listen to her side too, then go for it. She could be jealous that you're expanding your friends and worried that she may not be able to spend as much time with you. So just reassure her that you'll always be there and you will have time for her, etc.
I very much doubt that she is similar to what my friend did as her type of jealousy sounds completely different and she was incredibly hostile about the entire situation when I confronted her calmly about it. So hopefully she'll be able to listen to you and you can sort things out with her.

Good luck!

 

[vel]

ash seems really petty, i don't really think it's worth the try. if you really want to be friends her again, you can try going for it but i doubt she'd be positive about it, and if you don't care less, than dump her like 5 month old bad cheese.

 

[Acruoxil]

That friend isn't worth your time or attention, seeing how upset she got on you making another friend. There's better people out there, trust me

 

[Paxx]

I was best friends with one of our neighbors and so was my sister. We would hang out almost everyday when she or we weren't busy that day. The friendship lasted for about 2-3 years I think? And it's been 4 years since we last seen each other and spoke. I honestly don't know what her problem was. Maybe it's because she felt outnumbered with there being two of us, or she thought we were not good enough anymore. I don't know honestly, just remember friends like that aren't real friends. A real friend would always be there for that said person, and quite frankly my ex best friend wasn't always there for me. </3

Like what other people said, if you really value your friendship with Ash, try talking it out in person. If it doesn't turn out well, move on. There's plenty of other potential friends in the world, you just have to find them!

 

[Draco]

I have a friend... lets name her Ash.
I have another friend and let's name her Leigh.

When this story started I had been friends with Ash for almost 3 years. She was the closest friend I had ever had.
My whole year was going to be performing 'The Wizard of Oz' for our "Leavers Production" and me and Leigh were picked to do props, the background etc. We had to do it for pretty much the whole day including most break's and lunches. I became quite good friends with Leigh. No wonder because we were cooped up alone for about 2 months.

Me and Ash usually talked on Skype. In the first month we were fine, normal. Starting month 2 she began to not talk as much and at the end she didn't talk at all. At prom she avoided me. My friends told me she was mad about me hanging out with Leigh. No surprise, that's girls for you. I thought she would be fine with me after a while because we were going to the name school without Leigh.

Yesterday I messaged her saying "Do you still want to be friends?"
And a few minutes ago I found out that she blocked me? Well it says "This person has not shared their details with you".

I'm pretty surprised how ticked off she is.
Should I keep trying to be friends? Should I give up?
I'm really socially awkward so it would be sooooooo hard for me to make new friends.

true Friendship is worth it, but like all thing it takes work, friendship has ups and downs , but if you try and its not ment to be great thing about friendship is unlike true love theres no limit to how much friendship you can have at once.

 

[oath2order]

If they blocked you, then I'd give up and just move on.