Hi, i just want to post something and get help..

[Yuyunyaw]

Hi everyone, Im Yuyunyaw (Or Yun). I just want to tell a problem of mine here, i hope to get help from someone

I have many problems with my boyfriend, but i don't understand why. the big problem is.. when he is angry
he doesn't treat me like his girlfriend in my opinion. and that hurts so much.
i don't have many friends because of him, i don't want troubles.. and for that reason i can't have many friends (man friends exactly. he doesn't trust in me, and for that he think horrible things about me with other guys *cheating maybe.* )

What should I do? any advice?

If you want to tell me something, go ahead! i love to read problems about people, is most easier help other people than helping myself

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-Sorry if i have a bad english, i'm from Chile!-​

 

[Ghost Soda]

he is abusive so dump him. like right freaking now. no ifs ands ors or butts about this.

 

[ellabella12345]

he is abusive so dump him. like right freaking now. no ifs ands ors or butts about this.

Exactly. If he doesn't treat you and show you any sign of liking or love. Leave it. He can't control you. I know it may seem harsh and rough but seriously it is SO worth it in the end. You will find someone else who understands you better then he would ever.

If you disagree with what I am saying tell me more and I will try to help you as much as I can. x

 

[Beardo]

DUMP HIM

Don't sacrifice your social life and your happiness for one dude.

 

[Yuyunyaw]

Exactly. If he doesn't treat you and show you any sign of liking or love. Leave it. He can't control you. I know it may seem harsh and rough but seriously it is SO worth it in the end. You will find someone else who understands you better then he would ever.

If you disagree with what I am saying tell me more and I will try to help you as much as I can. x

He loves me, but when he's angry he isn't like my boyfriend, he is like.. a devil, or something like that.. I wouldn't find never someone like him when we are okay. thank you so much for the advice . i don't want to be alone in this trouble it hurts so much can't tell to someone my pain and be heard.. thanks so much again

 

[Beardo]

He loves me, but when he's angry he isn't like my boyfriend, he is like.. a devil, or something like that.. I wouldn't find never someone like him when we are okay. thank you so much for the advice . i don't want to be alone in this trouble it hurts so much can't tell to someone my pain and be heard.. thanks so much again

Is it some kind of disorder? Maybe some therapy or medication would help him with his anger.

 

[ellabella12345]

He loves me, but when he's angry he isn't like my boyfriend, he is like.. a devil, or something like that.. I wouldn't find never someone like him when we are okay. thank you so much for the advice . i don't want to be alone in this trouble it hurts so much can't tell to someone my pain and be heard.. thanks so much again

So when he does get angry. What does he do? Is he a really jealous type? Have you asked him why you can't hang around other guys? If you want you can PM me. x

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Is it some kind of disorder? Maybe some therapy or medication would help him with his anger.

I was thinking this as well...

 

[Ghost Soda]

He loves me, but when he's angry he isn't like my boyfriend, he is like.. a devil, or something like that.. I wouldn't find never someone like him when we are okay. thank you so much for the advice . i don't want to be alone in this trouble it hurts so much can't tell to someone my pain and be heard.. thanks so much again

"but but he loves me!!!"

yeah, no. if he can't control his darn temper or act like a decent person then dump him.

 

[oath2order]

He loves me, but when he's angry he isn't like my boyfriend, he is like.. a devil, or something like that.. I wouldn't find never someone like him when we are okay. thank you so much for the advice . i don't want to be alone in this trouble it hurts so much can't tell to someone my pain and be heard.. thanks so much again

Okay, I'm just gonna go to the point and not dance around the issue like everybody else seems to be doing.

Does he hit you?

 

[Ghost Soda]

also, he's probably cheating. why else would he be so worried about you cheating? he has a guilty conscience.

 

[Yuyunyaw]

So when he does get angry. What does he do? Is he a really jealous type? Have you asked him why you can't hang around other guys? If you want you can PM me. x

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I was thinking this as well...

He isn't jealous, he thinks i've cheated him with another guy, but is not truth! the loyalty is in my main promises. when he is angry he told me everytime "you can't do *that thing* (about that problem of that day.)" or ugly things (in spanish, idk how can be in english hahaha)

and i don't think so. I'm a little stressful sometimes, and he can't take control of that

 

[samsquared]

Hm... if you love him and he loves you, but he is afraid you don't love him enough not to cheat, perhaps the flaw is in the communication of your feelings. Just telling him you love him isn't enough. Do more nice things for him, convince him wholly that you love him, and perhaps he will be soothed. However, if you already show him lots of appreciation, and he uses your fragility and dependence on him to make you do what he wants, that's manipulative and dangerous behaviour. You need to stand up for yourself or leave. And you want to be with him, so you need to assert yourself as half of the relationship. Relationships take trust, and you are his partner, not his doormat. You will be friends with who you are friends with, and he needs to respect and trust your ability to not only refuse to date other boys but to want to date other boys.
Not having a lot of friends is not good. Don't let yourself be too reliant on him.
Do your best! I hope your relationship works out!

 

[Yuyunyaw]

Okay, I'm just gonna go to the point and not dance around the issue like everybody else seems to be doing.

Does he hit you?

Nope, he never did me that

 

[Beary]

Dump him.
Just
just dump him

 

[ellabella12345]

He isn't jealous, he thinks i've cheated him with another guy, but is not truth! the loyalty is in my main promises. when he is angry he told me everytime "you can't do *that thing* (about that problem of that day.)" or ugly things (in spanish, idk how can be in english hahaha)

and i don't think so. I'm a little stressful sometimes, and he can't take control of that

I think he has just become obsessive. I know someone exactly like this. Just tell him straight up. "I do what I want to do and if you're not going to except that then bye." It is the best thing you can do.

 

[Ghost Soda]

also, he's probably cheating. why else would he be so worried about you cheating? he has a guilty conscience.

i'll just quote myself here since you might've missed it.

 

[Yuyunyaw]

i'll just quote myself here since you might've missed it.

Sorry! i think the same thing. i mean, what type of guy talks with him ex girlfriend when he is angry with his girlfriend? and hang out with other girls?

 

[ellabella12345]

Also, does he hang around other girls himself? If he does then tell him I don't want you around other girls then. See how he will react then.

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Sorry! i think the same thing. i mean, what type of guy talks with him ex girlfriend when he is angry with his girlfriend? and hang out with other girls?

He does this and you can't talk to guys? oh please. JUST GET RID OF HIM.

 

[Ghost Soda]

ohh, he's a hypocrite too!

hurry and dump him before you get stockholm syndrome or something!

 

[Kawaii Cupcakes]

Trust issues mess up relation ships
It'll be harder to leave him later as to if you leave him now