Unfortunately, I struggle with this a lot too so I don't have the most clearest answer or solution. It's really, really hard. I will say that I had monumentally worse anxiety before I finally got prescribed something for my ADHD. I went years and years without treating it because firstly, I didn't think I had it and secondly, I was scared that I might get pegged as just someone looking to get access to what ADHD meds usually are (as they can be popular for the wrong reasons). I finally stopped stigmatizing them and got help and for some reason, my anxiety is SO much better now. I guess that it was a side effect of the ADHD and what it did to my brain when untreated. Now obviously this is a very weird random personal case. In fact ADHD meds more often worsen anxiety than relieve it, so I'm not making a recommendation -- but I thought it was interesting that this helped so I thought I'd share it anyway haha.