I want to become independent but I don't know how.

[AnimalCrossingPerson]

ok, so i'm on the 3ds and tbt does this dumb thing where if i take too long writing a post it logs me out before i can post it so i'm basically rushing through this.

Why you are using this site on a 3DS is beyond me.

Anyway, getting back on-topic, everyone's saying you should get a job, yadda yadda yadda. However, this is a long shot, but if you have a YouTube channel that is kind of getting somewhere, I encourage you to make an AdSense account and link the two up. My earnings for very little work are currently only in three figures but it may be worth considering snowballing it up. If you want more information that I probably shouldn't be leaking... private message.

 

[ams]

Do you have a high school diploma? Getting a job can be difficult, and from my own experience all of the jobs that I've had were advertised as "for students". Often businesses can save money by hiring students if you live in an area with student subsidies. So if you do have a diploma I'd recommend enrolling in college to open up job opportunities both now and in the future.

Another piece of advice is to start by doing volunteer work. It might not pay but it's very easy to get compared to paying jobs, it will get you out of the house, and it's great for a resume if yours is still pretty bare. My resume is still about half volunteer work, and it's what I'm most commonly asked about in job interviews. I know that at least 2 of the jobs I've gotten considered my volunteer experience to be one of the main things that set me apart from other applicants.

If school is not an option there are some jobs that don't require high school. I know some people that started by working in auto shops cleaning cars and stuff like that. There are also lower jobs in restaurants like washing dishes and being a host/hostess that don't tend to favour people who finished high school.

For transportation you need to get used to taking the bus. I didn't get my drivers license until I was 18, but I started busing at 15 and instantly felt more independent.

 

[Miii]

Well since you're 19, you're probably either graduated from high school, or you're about to graduate. If you are a lower income family, you're likely to be able to get government grants for going to school. You can look into pell grants here. You can also apply for scholarships. Here's one website you can look into.

Education and employment are the two best ways to get out of your parents' house. You can't drive, but you can take a bus to get to work (it sucks and takes a lot longer than driving, but if there's a bus stop anywhere near you, you can do it). You can also invest in a bike to ride to work (which also sucks and takes longer, but hey, if it works, it works). Start up a bank account and get a debit card as soon as you're employed, rather than keeping cash in your wallet, because if you have a controlling or manipulative parent (or two), you shouldn't put stealing past them. Save everything you make until you can move out, and find a room mate or room mates, if you can to help cover the cost of an apartment. It won't be easy, but it's absolutely worth it.

 

[Nicole.]

Not sure if you have one already, you didn't state this in your original post so... Get a job? Even if it's a part-time job. Having your own money will grant you a lot of independence, it definitely has for me. I've been able to afford my own stuff, like buying my own clothes, I've been able to travel across the country by train/coach/etc because I have money to buy tickets. It'll also mean you can start saving up your own money so you can actually gain your own independence by moving out and stuff.

I agree with this. Getting a job has not only made me more independent, it's also built my confidence. It's helped me to gain knowledge about money and how to handle it safely; by that I mean not spending all of it and instead keeping it in a bank account. At least this way I have something to fall back on.

Just thought I'd add that you still have your whole life ahead of you. Going to college (when your financially supported) is another option that may be beneficial to you, but it's not for everyone. It's alright for everybody to say "get a job", but it's actually finding one and then getting one.