If someone had a crush on you...

[xSuperMario64x]

...would you want to know?

I personally would. cause honestly I'm pretty willing to give people a chance to be my friend/partner/etc. and I want people to know that they can be very open and honest with me, they don't have to hide anything from me.

it's too bad I've never had anyone legitimately tell me that they liked me lol :,,,,,,,,,,)

 

[Croconaw]

Honestly, yes. I’m not the best at reading social cues so I’m unsure when someone has a crush on me. On the contrary, I’m great at reading others’ social cues, so I can almost always tell when someone else has a crush.

I also wouldn’t let someone having a crush ruin a friendship. I think that’s the fear most people have. And, let’s be honest, being rejected sucks, as well. Sometimes it is easier to keep your feelings to yourself.

 

[Neb]

Yes, but I wouldn’t rush or force them to confess. If they just wanted to keep it to themselves I would completely understand. Usually the people that have feelings for me are people I’m not particularly interested in, but if they were nice I’d be happy with being their friend. Rejection can sting, but if the friendship is deep maintaining it is more important.

 

[-Mars-]

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[DarkDesertFox]

That's a tough one honestly. In high school, I knew this one girl had a crush on me and unfortunately I just wasn't attracted to her. It felt really awkward when the time came and she approached me, I didn't really know what to say. She ended up messaging me on Facebook asking and unfortunately I declined there. Kind of lame doing it over text but it was what it was. Though, as a guy I feel like it's a lot harder to approach girls so I really appreciate when a girl is open with her feelings about me. I would have to say yes. Even if I don't have mutual feelings, I would say it's better to know all the same.

 

[LadyDestani]

It's hard to say. I've been in situations where someone told me they liked me and I really didn't feel the same. It was awkward and I hate awkward social situations. On the other hand, there have been times that I thought someone that I had a crush on liked me back, but they never said anything and neither did I so I don't know for sure.

I guess since I'm so shy and would never be the first to admit my feelings, it's better for them to just tell me. Sure it may be awkward but it's better than the alternative of never knowing.

 

[Midoriya]

Well, no one has ever had a crush on me, so.... (or at least no one has ever told me)

But if they did, probably not. Just seems kind of strange for me to know and for them to not know that I know. My current partner and I didn't have crushes on each other, but still ended up falling in love.

I have had crushes on plenty of others, but knew it would never work out with them for whatever reason.

And usually the people that are attracted to me in that way are people I'm not interested in.

 

[Chrysopal]

I would want to know! But af the same time it would ruin a friendship. It could start something wonderful, or end something pleasant. So, I guess I would only want to know if I felt the same way for the person crushing. That may be to good to be true talk but ideally that sounds best

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I would want to know! But af the same time it would ruin a friendship. It could start something wonderful, or end something pleasant. So, I guess I would only want to know if I felt the same way for the person crushing. That may be to good to be true talk but ideally that sounds best

that's the hardest thing abt a crush is you never really know how admitting it would affect your current relationship. that's why I'm too afraid to tell any of my crushes I like them, I don't want to make things awkward between us. personally if someone confessed to me I would do my best to not make it awkward, and if it didn't work out we could just forget abt it and move on.

 

[.: Meri :.]

I would! If I was serious about someone, I'd let them know—regardless of whether or not it worked out, I wouldn't want to have regrets about not saying anything later. Likewise, I'd want to know if someone liked me, so at the very least (assuming I had no romantic interest in them) they could get some closure. You can't help your feelings, and it's not something I'd ever want to lose a good friend over either way. As long as they didn't get weird or pushy about it afterwards, I don't see any reason why the friendship couldn't continue.

 

[Belle T]

It would very much depend on the person and my situation in life. I don't think a friend (that you are not mutually attracted to) having a crush on you necessarily has to entail the end of a friendship, as in the majority of cases, crushes are fleeting things. I've had a few friends in that category where they were thankfully very understanding and were respectful toward me, and they eventually found other partners later down the line. But I've also had people whose idea of love is to constantly guilt trip you for not reciprocating. So there's a multitude of different ways it can play out. I suppose my main worry would be about inadvertently taking advantage of their feelings. If this person does something nice for me, would they still be doing it if they had completely platonic feelings for me? And would accepting their generosity be encouraging those feelings?

Also, this situation might be very different depending on whether or not I happen to be single at the time. It would understandably cause a lot of stress on my significant other if I were to continue associating with someone who I knew had feelings for me. And while I'm not really the jealous type (at least not anymore), I can't help but think if I were in that situation, it might also make me a tad uncomfortable, but I'm not sure how I would deal with it.

And if it were someone I were mutually attracted to, of course I'd want to know, but I'd prefer to hear it from the person in question, not from someone else.

The other side of this question is would the person who has a crush on you want you to know it. I've had crushes on people that I've remained silent on to this day, and even if they were understanding about it, I'd probably be at least a little bit upset if they ever found out.

 

[Beanz]

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[Corrie]

I would, only if I'm single. Otherwise it's kind of useless to know.

 

[Violet Witch]

Yes. I’m single and would love for someone to be honest and tell me I’m cute etc.

 

[Stella-Io]

Kinda no? Cause the people I have ever had crushes on I know don't like me back in that way (also sometimes it's not their dating preference/gender so yeah that too). If someone were to admit they had a crush on me my first thought is the John Cena meme 'are you sure about that?' So anyone saying they have a crush on me just puts me in an awkward situation. I don't think I have any qualities or personality traits that are 'crushable'.

 

[Envy]

Yes, I would like to know. I have not had much luck with love. I'm getting into my mid 30s and it's getting depressing.

 

[moo_nieu]

i dont mind someone confessing as long as im able to kindly state that i dont feel the same way without it becoming a huge thing. ofc people might feel rejection, i totally understand that. ive had bad experiences in the past though. if someone has to set a boundary and needs space afterwards i totally understand and respect that, but people arent always so nice after hearing you dont feel the same way...

basically as long as youre okay with hearing that the other person doesnt feel the same way then go for it if you want to. it could make the relationship kind of awkward for a bit or possibly end the friendship if it doesnt go well, but i suppose its better to get rejected then to spend your whole life wondering if they felt the same way. anyways it can be super uncomfortable to have that conversations for both people, but as long as both of you are mature about it, i think it would most likely be fine

 

[thatawkwardkid]

Please no, especially if they're coworkers.

 

[Kitsuragi]

Depends, if they tell me with the intent on ruining my relationship then no, but if they tell me for the sake of them feeling better around me then yes I'd want to know. Also if it's someone who I barely know, no, I don't want to know.

 

[Shawna]

Honestly, I would probably rather not know. You see, I am aro-ace and just do not experience that type of attraction to people (only fictional characters), so if I knew if someone had a crush on me, I would get very apprehensive about how that person would handle it. Sometimes it's better to come clean, while some things are better left unsaid. In this case, it is the latter. Ignorance is bliss.